Blowjob after a long day of work, yay or nay?

My boyfriend has been really stressed and busy with work. I tried to loosen him up when we're in bed by kissing his cock and balls (intentions obviously was a bj) but he said he's tired and asked if we can play another day.

He's been really busy and stress with work. And im trying not to add to it and thinking playful time will work but it hasn't been fruitful.

guys when you're stress and tired from work, what would you like?
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  • I'm not sure it's fair to put the responsibility on you but you could try this. Busy and stressed are only legit excuses for a while, esp. if he never seemed too busy early in the relationship. Something you could try that might lack his testosterone up a bit would be to buy some well made, elegant, lingerie. Don't show it off, let him notice it. Add pieces slowly spending your money on quality not quantity. It doesn't need to be La Perla but you can get good stuff on sale from better department stores like Nortdstrom, Bloomingdales, Sak's. Even Victoria's Secret just don't go downmarket like Frederick's of Hollywood. Let him catch a glance at it before either of you think about going to bed (to sleep). You can even leave it in a drawer casually hanging out. Trust me, it will intrigue him a lot more if he notices w/o you showing him. He'll respond.
    Sex is very much a "use it or lose it" type thing. Frequently after the intoxication of the first year or so, the newness will begin to wear. If you or he, let itbecome too infrequent it becomes the 600# elephant.

    • Haha he has been busy since the start of our relationship. Its just been crazier the past 2months. Appreciate the lingerie advice :) will try that.

  • Yes, BJ great any time.

    I had few times when I fell asleep straight away after touching pillow, I was that tired.

    Do not think, that it is something wrong with you, he just needs sleep!!!

    He will catch up on that next day off, if his job that tiering.

    You should get alarmed only, if you will get rejected for few times on his day off.

    • Thank you for this, as much as a I trust him.. this does give me a sense or assurance:)

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  • Maybe he thinks that if he receives a BJ he will need to give back. (And he doesn’t have the energy)

  • You did good. He just must be really tired. Maybe do massage like neck or back--keep it simple.

    • I like that tips! When i give him rubs or gently massage his shoulder, he'll always say that's nice and he enjoy it. Guess not overthinking is the key hehe

    • Great advice

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  • When I get home from a stressful day at work, I don't want to do ANYTHING, except kick back and relax. No, I don't want sex. I don't want to talk. I don't want to eat. I want to do absolutely nothing. Maybe later, but not when I get home.

  • It really depends, I mean, I'd never turn one down lol. But, some guys might feel like they have to return the favor (this was probably his thought), which would be stressful if you're exhausted after a long day. But if you say, "lay back relax and enjoy" (ie he doesn't have to do any "work" lol), then that might help. But if he's really exhausted and stressed, he might just want nothing more than to relax and do nothing at all. Just cuddle with you on the couch maybe? Depends on the guy. Just talk to him about it.

  • Yes, that's a great way to relieve stress and I love it.

  • A cold beer, a hot bath and some undisturbed video game time

  • I spend time naked when I'm stress and tired from work.

  • Yay.

  • Depends on how stressed I am or if I’m horny or not. Horniness doesn’t directly correlate with stress

  • No but let me eat pussy

  • omg how the hell could he say no to that? 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

  • In my case, when I feel stressed and tired, the only thing that I desire is sleep...

  • Stress can kill a man's sex drive, if you believe it. That s why he may have turned down a blowjob. Try just massaging his back and shoulders. I find that helps sometimes! You may even get his sexdrive back, if you let him unwind with a massage first, if you are lucky!

    • Thank you.. I've never really thought about that. Always thinking he'll just enjoy the big stuff lol. But will definitely give him a massage when he's back from work trip :)

    • No problem! I am glad you took the time to read and reply!

  • Yes. Absolutely. It is absolutely amazing and the best stress reliever. But I would eat her too.

  • Nay. Give me some time alone. In bed later? Well I think there's another problem.. You are too on his nuts!

    • Hahahaha im not! Ok maybe a little. Whats wrong with having your girl wanting to please you? Lol ok will back off and let him chill

  • Hell Yay

  • Definitely a yay

  • A FUCKING BLOWIE!! dudes cheating!!

  • YAY blowjobs all day any day don’t need to be just after a long day of work :)

  • Hell yeah

  • Good idea but he might not have enough energy. Maybe just a loving cuddle.
    If you really are pushy then just take him and do all the work on top so he can enjoy.

  • Different people react to work stress differrently. Some people I know the stress absolutely kills all their libido, others it puts it in overdrive.

    Try massaging his neck and shoulders instead.

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