he's 24 years old been with little less than 20. Im a virgin. Scared he's seen prob so many pretty bodies fucked so many pretty girls. Girls with bigger boobs bigger butts more experience. And im just a fun taboo for him—taking the virginity of a hot innocent girl. And i told him i like creampieing and he's never done that before. I don't know :((( any advice any feedback is helpful
Well, my wife was a virgin when we met. It wasn't something I'd be aware that I would like, nor did I believe her at first. Her being a good woman, attractive, plus the complete lack of baggage since she hasn't been with any other men made that appealing though.
I mean, she has made the mistake of asking me to tell her about other women before. There have been women hotter than her, better in bed, so on and so forth.
It's irrelevant though, like they're all in the past for a reason, who you're with is who you're with. If I didn't want to be with her I wouldn't be.
It'll be the same with y'all, whether he's been with 20 women or 200, it would be best if both of y'all get tested before those creampies though. Getting tested yourself just to know what a clean test looks like, especially if you go to the same place. Some people are asymptotic to some STDs, won't stop you from getting them though.
Most times I got an STD I never knew who I got it from and just had to make some calls, anyway, if you're going to be together more than a month or two, it's a good idea.
Thank you for this perspective. He said he wanted to take my virginity legit though. Did you say that stuff when you were just horny but didn't actually care thattt much about it. Just scared that that's why he wants me. He's been with 20 girls but how many were virgins. :/. I like the idea though that's the past. I'm just scared I want to be his future but I dont want to just be fucked as a novelty and dropped. :( Yeah I asked he said he's gotten checked multiple times lol for STDS
It sounds like he only wants you for the novelty of you being a virgin. I never said anything like that to my wife before, only that I didn't believe she was a virgin as out of the many women I'd been with none were, though several had said they were for more attention. Don't simply trust people who say they're clean, get the test results, every clinic and doctor will give them if you ask. On the contrary, tests cost money if you don't wait all day, but take waiting all day if you don't want to pay money at a clinic.(beside the effort of finding one that's free). You can only tell if you have something like chlamydia, ghonorrea or hepatitis, HIV, possibly herpes, HPV and some others that are more obscure you can catch without your partner knowing they have it. I would be more defensive about someone who's going to have sex with you as a novelty. It isn't even like someone having sex with you for your race, which is still a tenuous thing, once you have sex with him once you aren't a virgin anymore, so that novelty is gone.
Yeah im scared after he takes my virginity he will just get bored. Im sure those girls had experience were good at stuff. I've sucked only one dick. Was in super committed relationship. I don't know if i was ever good lol
you'd just be a number to him. think it's pathetic, but that's a portion of this generation and how they were trained.
what's extra sad is you value him... but that's how women think. there will be a long line of women that see him as a prize, we'll... as long as he isn't AIDS positive.
Get a ring !
you're so right. I prob am just another number :( but i know hed make me feel so so good. Is that promise enough to give it up. I wanted to give my virginity to someone who loved me :(
what do you mean when you say "love", what are you expecting from him in terms of love? Sounds like a great idea to do so with someone that loves you. My guess is you mean..."loves me!", exclusive, stay with me... security, be at my side, responds to my requests and needs, supports me emotionally. I don't think you are going to get any of that without a ring and a proposal from him. I think you'll be left in the dust... why would he change his pattern of behavior? If he makes you feel loved, I think you are as deceived as all the others unless he's made some major change in his values. Personally, I don't believe this number...
Yes i want loves me exclusively basically :((
Well first off if you are losing your virginity to the guy you should defo wear a condom and not let him cream pie you until you are in a secure relationship and know he has nothing. As for the other stuff it doesn't matter he will like you regardless of what he has already seen. Unless he is just fucking you to take your virginity then, he won't care anyways he just wants to get off like all guys lol
Yeah first time def not letting him do that. He said he has gotten tested many times. Thats what im worried about is that i have something maybe he hasn't seen before. A virgin lol. And a girl willing to let him creampie them. But I dont want to be fucked and dumped. I really like him. He asked me if him having been w many people is a red flag. I said no. I didn't know how many. Is 20 a lot lol im a virgin any number is high to me. Now i be feeling self conscious. he's prob seen so many girls and imagining them and not me idkkkkk :(((
It's kind of a lot NGL but just don't rush into it. Take your time getting to know him. He defo is not going to be imagining them while he is with you. He is gonna be focused on you and probably wanting to make you feel good. Believe in yourself you said in your post you are hot so believe you are hot! I get you like him but if you ever want to back out you can always say no at the last minute lol It's your first time so make sure you really want to do it with him. Are you 2 dating? How long?
yeah he said he's not proud of it. Was messing with multiple people at once. But he said he doesn't want to hoe around anymore. I don't know I think hot is like big boobs big butt that's not me lol I give off the pretty petite girl. We aren't dating lol. I have never met the man. He followed me on Instagram and always liked my pics. In my graduate degree you move to a different city after couple years and I ended up getting the smallest most random city. He said happy birthday to me after I posted something asked me a question lol and then I was like waittt you live there dont you and he sent me his number we've been talking ever since. Would flirt like crazy ft me and all and then one day he's like I'm leading you on im so sorry. then Said he's on a break with someone and its not fair to me etc. but like he doesn't think its healthy to just jump into something else. but then the next day he sends me nudes and is flirting lol and is sweet to me. and then the next day he's like what are we doing. Then the cycle keeps going. But he's so funny and cute and sweet when he's with me and not overthinking lol. He says that if we do it I'll get attached and he doesn't want that. ANd i was like yeah ur right and then we sext later lol like what. im scared he's just going to fuck me and not care. But he cares about me i think lol. I'm confused. I wanted my first time with someone who loved me at least lol. but he's so hot and he's going to live in the same place as me. He would make me feel so good temporarily at least. I don't know i want his heart not just his dick. But is fucking him just going to fuck with my head. He's too hot I want him too bad to think rationally :(.
Yes, that's is a disgustingly high body count, and yes, he is absolutely just using you. A virgin should never give someone who isn't a virgin a chance.
i would give it a chance lol. but I'm scared he's using me. :(
Then you're going to end as a used up, emotionally damaged person who is going to struggle to find a decent relationship.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I was virgin till 22 and I had a lot of guys interested in me, I think some just wanted to be my first. And they fetishized my virginity.
I chose someone virgin though, cause I wanted that experience to be as special for me as it was for him.
I wouldn’t like to have a man who has slept with a lot of women. It shows his lack of standards and why should I like him, if I have been very picky who to sleep with and all he has done was f*ck girls, I would not even stay in one room with?
I want to know that he’s just as hard to get as I am.
But I don’t know…
There’s also a 2nd part, because my ex fiance was inexperienced, he wanted to explore more when the love faded between us.
I think had he been a bit more experienced he’d appreciate it more, what he had…
As a first girlfriend, I think he was a lucky one to have me, because I loved him with all my heart and I did my best to be my best version for him. I made my fair share of mistakes, but nothing worthy enough of losing me.
I think he realized it later or will do so in future, he told me he thought he would regret losing me, but he wanted to explore more.
I wonder what he explores, will it be worthy for him in the end? I might not have been perfect but I was not a bad girlfriend.
So, as much as I like men who haven’t slept around, it has their downside as well, at some point, he’ll want to have a slutty period, I think it’s better he gets bored of it first so that he can better appreciate what he has.
Has he had a bit more experience in love and relationships, I think he wouldn’t want to lose me.
You don't compare. I understand your concern -- makes total sense. But to compare is a choice. You have the choice to not compare.
Also, he may be lying about that number. Kind of a flex.
Finally, just because he's got a high number doesn't mean he's any good. He might suck at sex.
noo he wasn't proud of the number he said asked if it was a red flag for me. I said no, but high key. now thinking about it I'm just like am I just another number. :(. There's absolute no way he's bad at sex with the sh** he's sexted me. Nooooo way. He knows his way with words that's for sure. ANd his body 10/10. I'm legit so wet that I'd give my virginity to some guy who prob is just going to fuck me and leave after he gets what he wants. : (
Then there's your answer. Don't compare. Focus on the fact that this man made you that wet and turned you on that much. And he's choosing to do that with you.
I did 19 in a summer before deployment once. I don't think 20 is high for his entire life.
oh my god how
couple a week sometimes, 4 of them were referrals so I didn't have to put in any work there. I was in the public a lot so i was interacting with a lot of women that had spare time and liked that i was about to be gone, so no strings attached really meant it and they wanted to blow off steam
Sounds like you're letting your own insecurities lead you to make judgements of him. It comes down to trust, and that can only come from knowing him. If you trust him, move forward with things. If you don't then let him go.
Our pasts are our pasts and it should be private. Do not overthink it.
i agree but just scared of being another notch after he takes something i held close to me, my virginity.
You very well could be just another for him. You might want to reconsider.
i know thats my fear. For me its my first my virginity want it to be w someone that loves me. I dont want to be a notch on someones belt. but I want his body so bad too. I know he would make me feel so good. But i want his heart too not just his dick :(
201? That's disgusting. Have more respect for yourself.
its 20 it was a typo
@gerald5466 Even 20 at 24 is high.
@gorydetails i agree 20 is a lot but i wouldn't say its disgusting
How do you know you like something, if you've never done it
I like the porn lol
Yeah, porn, but how do you know you like it if you've never done it. A better way to say it would have been, I have been watching porn and i want to try cream-pie.
yes lol dangerous
So what you're saying is, this isn't about the count per se; this is about you comparing yourself to other girls (YOU HAVEN"T EVEN SEEN) and believing you're not good enough. Even though he's with you and not them.
Read that a couple of times and hopefully you'll see how ridiculous it really is
yes I know I'm pretty. I dress super trendy too. But I'm not no kim k. I have small abs super petite. Cute that's some guys type. But I have no butt no boobs. He's been with 20 girls. He's had to have at least one girl with tits and/or a butt. :(
For a woman, that's a really high number. For a man depending on his age it's probably about average. Also consider that he may be exaggerating the number in order to see more. Macho.
noo he said he wasn't proud of the number he was doing multiple people at once : (
Is 20 a lot or not it’s up to a person. As for me I don’t think that it’s too much. Experienced guy is always better in my opinion.
The fact that you like porn can help you a lot. Being ready to try new things helps a lot too. Don’t worry that you are not as experienced. You are definitely has your own advantages 😊
yeah he is experienced. the things he says to me, he has a freaking way with words. like goddamn. and his body is 10/10. what are my advantages :( He's prob seen it all. Big butt big tits. I'm really pretty dont get me wrong. I have small abs and am petite though. No boobs no butt. Have an hour glass though. :( but i just wish i had tits or something
Don’t worry about tits or butt. I met different girls too and in my opinion big tits and butt is not a main thing even in sex. As for me I prefer medium tits not big.
go for it.
why do you think?
TROLL
what?
Just save it for ur guy
If this guy care/like u
He will be with u
Your lot will befall you
save it for what guy :(
if you wanna give away your virginity to a hot guy go ahead. Just don't expect anything more than sex here.
Im hot too though :(( im Wifey
Let me help put your mind at is. OK he's been with 20 other women, you're 21, I almost guarantee you there'll be a 22. So don't trip about it. Just enjoy the ride.
I want to be his last lol. Is 20 a lot. Im a virgin so anything is a lot to me lol. But in normal people nimbers is that a lot
Yeah, and I want Scarlett Johansson. But let's be realistic. 😆
lol what why can't i be his last :(
you rather he be a virgin?
Lol i wanted to save myself for marriage
aren't you kinda old for that?
No im 24 is that old
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