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Boner while spooning? Is this normal or does he just want sex?

It's very common for my boyfriend to get a boner while spooning. But it's platonic spooning. We don't touch any intimate areas and his dick never touched my ass. In fact, I didn't even know he gets hard until he told me.
So why? It's supposed to be sweet and romantic, not sexual. Are guys just incapable if having a romantic moment without turning it into something sexual? Can't we just cuddle without him getting horny? What am I not understanding here?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • For most couples, nothing sounds better on a lazy Sunday than to Netflix and chill while spooning with their partner. If you are spooning with your partner, you are ready for all other things too. You can enjoy it and it is very normal for a guy to get hard when he is close to you – and when you are spooning. Spooning is a lovely act between two people that by definition refers to kissing and all-around cuddling. This intimate gesture is commonly enjoyed post-sex and can actually provide tons of health benefits. Kissing is one of the ultimate bonding experiences and can add intimacy to nearly any scenario when done right. Spooning often leads to boners, and boners often lead to sex… so why not use your cuddling time as sexcellent foreplay? Allow your hands to wander the little spoon’s body. As the big spoon, touch your girlfriend *the little spoon* between her legs, and, ladies, use your bum to grind up against your man’s hard-on. Spooning is a great way to enjoy each other’s bodies on an emotionally and physically intimate level. As the male big spoon, your hands are entirely free to touch your lover’s breasts and clit while you go at it.

  • You're looking at this the wrong way. He's attracted and into you, and his penis doesn't need a reason to get hard. my boyfriend is spooning me right now as I type this, fast asleep, with a boner. but that just means he will want to pee when he wakes up. It's a natural and uncontrollable action. If it's in a sexual way, just remember it's you who basically caused that. And it doesn't mean he's getting any! 😂

  • He isn't getting a boner on purpose. Guys can get random boners all the time, you just may not notice. Also, the warmth from being up against you could also help, plus just the idea of being against you. I don't think he's trying to turn it into sex or anything, it's just a response. It's pretty normal.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Most guys are going to and means absolutely nothing as far as his intentions. It's physical contact. And no, we can't just cuddle without getting horny! lol. I've never been able to with anyone at any time. Even after sex I'll get horny/hard again. What you're not understanding is it's physical and we don't have control over it. It happens whether we want it to or not.

    • Also doesn't necessarily mean he's horny either. Like I say, sometimes it just happens. Not all erections means the guy is horny.

  • We don't really control what that part of our body does at all time. Warmth, stimulation and an intimate feeling can be enough to trigger an erection. The guy doesn't necessarily need to feel the slightest but turned on. It's like morning wood.

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  • It´s just his body reacting to him touching you. I get a boner 90% of the time when spooning my girlfriend and sometimes I don´t even want to have sex. Just take it as a compliment. Nothing he can do about it. I´d be more concerned if he didn´t get one ever when spooning you :D

  • They're not mutually exclusive.

    I can be entirely happy with cuddling and not trying to make it sexual... and I might just get erect anyway.

    I don't know why so many women like to #BonerShame men.

  • That is likely to do with the extra blood that goes their and usually open labia so little man in boat is accessible. It’s probably just first time you noticed.

  • Cuddling is associated with sexual acts, its naturally arousing for men to get hard easily since we are programmed to have sex at any time. Cuddling him makes him feel aroused by you yet you fail in taking it as a compliment

  • Romantic things make us feel good, here comes the boner, this is not always sexually related

  • Normal for a young and healthy lad.

  • It mean he's a healthy young guy with functional penis. It's only normal to get excited from touching your skin even if it's in a non sexual way so don't worry about it.

  • Perfectly normal

  • jesus Christ why you so angry? I get a boner while spooning and its because of the bonding with the girl. has nothing to do with me wanting sex. relax

  • You are close to him and spooning to me is hot, of course he will get horny, it's what happens to guys. if you want to just spoon then get rid of his urges before hand?

  • I think it happens, even if he doesn't want sex.

  • Very common.

  • Men get boners often for no reason at all, and you expect or even WANT your guy to not get hard at all while he is touching his sweetheart? Pretty unreasonable.

  • Its common and doesn't mean he's horny

  • I think it’s normal unfortunately. Always happens to me too. I’m not thinking anything sexually. I love just cuddling. But It’s just the brushing of her butt on my dick and that’s all it takes lol. I have to usually back my pelvis up from her body when spooning to avoid it.

  • Romantic means sexual to men. A specific type of sexual but within the overall umbrella of sexual.

    That said I wouldn’t call soooning romantic. However it’s lots of bodyncontsct sndnif he’s young and attracted to you it’s pretty normal unless he’s gotten off in the last hour or something.

  • If you're attractive and he enjoys spooning he probably will have one.
    If you're unattractive and he doesn't enjoy it he probably won't have one.
    Getting physical can just do that to a guy. That's part of the relationship.

  • That’s like blaming a girl for her nipples getting hard in the cold weather, if a guy wants to spoon with you, and he knows you want to spoon with him, your ass is metaphorically like a “cold gust of breeze against your nipples”

  • It's normal to feel attracted to someone when you spoon them. It doesn't mean he wants sex!

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