Both are bad, but which is worse?

I know most of you don’t care about body count, but which is worse?

-Having sex with your ex/exes to avoid running your numbers up.
-Having sex with lots of new people to get over your ex.

The solution of course would be to focus on yourself or to only sleep with one new person rather than several. But if the two options above were the only options, which is worse?

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Both are bad, but which is worse?
Having sex with the ex/exes of the past to keep your body count low (in a fw/b way)
Vote A
Both are bad, but which is worse?
Having sex with lots of new people to get over your ex (in a ons way)
Vote B
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  • I’ve never understood the idea that it’s better to hook up with an ex in order to not add another name to the list. That’s nonsensical from the standpoint of safe sex and doesn’t really matter as far as anything else.

    From an emotional standpoint, it seems really uncomfortable to be running back to an ex for solace. I wouldn’t care how many hookups a girl had, but knowing she was likely to default back to her ex would be a big red flag.

    Mind you, I’ve enjoyed some crazy hook ups with exes who were thinking this way, and I’m not complaining about that, but…

    You might as well enjoy yourself and play the field. For sure, don’t tell any future boyfriend you slept with your ex on the rebound.

    • Yea that would be dumb

  • I would go with option 2 as I have had a clean cut with my exes and I am not connecting with them (literally and figuratively) in any shape or form as it might bring back some feelings I may have buried.
    But I will only choose the 2 option if the person I am having the sex with is tested otherwise I am choosing neither and going to settle on a mountain.

    • Sounds good

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  • That's kind of like asking if you should use coke or meth to get over your ex. Sleeping with someone else to "get over someone" means you are trying to avoid dealing with the breakup and avoiding taking responsibility for the failure of the relationship (which at the very least includes doing a poor job of vetting them).

    I also would not consider "going back to my ex" to be keeping your body count down - if you ended your relationship and then you sleep with them again, that's another body as far as I'm concerned, and it usually means you haven't dealt with that relationship ending either.

    • Mmm i dont see how thats another body. Maybe a recycled one

    • It's because you are reforming an attachment that will be broken again. THAT is what damages women emotionally - where much of their "trauma" comes from, and that's why body counts matter. Perhaps it would be more accurate to call it "attachment count", except that once the number reaches about 8-10, there's little ability to attach left, which is why you tend to either have girls with body counts if 3-5, or 30+, and rarely much in between. Once her ability to pair-bond is burned out, she will usually sleep with LOTS of partners, and not truly getting attached but seeking the feelings that come with attachment, and still accumulating emotional trauma, even if she doesn't realize it.

  • Certainly its gotta be A , you are doing it just to keep numbers down.

    • Maybe

  • I’m getting my number up. Ain’t no way I’m ever returning to an ex.

    • 😂😂😂 i miss that mentality

    • Right!

  • Sex with randos is way worse lol

    • especially if people ain't getting tested first

    • Yes!

  • going with exes so your numbers don't go up... who thinks of this stuff, lmao... is this a thing now?

    • 😂😂

    • A cycle of recycling lol

  • Both are bad because they are indicators of big psychological problems. But having sex with more people is a bigger STI danger, so it's worse.

    • Yea disease ain't nothing to play with. And what kind of psychological probs?

    • I'm not a psychologist, but promiscuity is associated with being bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, a lack of impulse control, and probably some other stuff.

  • Any relationship with an ex is bad... that should be left in the past.

    Playing the field to get over an ex may not be the best thing to do, but it does help you forget about your ex.

  • Multiple partners is always going to be a red flag for me. With a gun to my head I'd sleep with my exes but I'd rather stay single.

    • 😂😂😂

    • You can laugh. I know why I never tried to get them back!

  • It is a tossup I think. To be exes you had to have liked them at a time and they are a known quantity. And maybe what you ultimately didn't like is OK in small doses.

    New people are more exciting but probably you won't be discriminating as the major qualification is it is not your ex.

  • both worse

    but second is on another level

    • Yeaa

  • Both are just as bad.

    1# Is the equivalent of taking poison to get rid of poison.

    2# Might make you feel better in the short run but in the end it's going to fuck you up long term.

    But that's what you get when you take the easy way out.

    • Yepp

  • If only those r the options then going with exes is worst I think n thts coz they r ur ex for a reason n u r giving up ur self esteem by going back to them again n again

    • Makes sense

    • Yup totally

  • I do number one. I rotate between the 2… so I only have 2 bodies lol. I know it’s bad

    • I can't judge. Me and the most recent still talk

  • neither. the sleeping with an ex just starts more drama with said ex and you already know thats not good because you are not together for reasons, often bad drama being at least one of them. also, that still is an increase in "body count". thing is its not just how many, but how many times with them, hoe much time per "session" (multiple rounds count seprately by the way) (yes i know defining what ends a session varies by person too) for some, a round/session is a few minutes, to others its hours) and other things (such as some toys) that overuse those parts. body count is just the easiest and most palettable (to many) metric for this type of knowledge. some couples can be together years and put less usage on themselves than some couples that have only been together a few weeks.

    as for sleeping with new people, that also just makes things worse. increases the body count, likelyhood of diseases, inability to bond later, and makes actually getting over soneone take longer.

    neither is a viable option. i would become celebate instead.

    • Its definitely about how many people not how many times

  • As much as I hate the idea of increasing my body count, it's the sex with the ex one, it leads both to believe and feel things that aren't there.

    • So true, sigh

  • The problem is your exes are exes for a reason. You have zero clue if they're sleeping with other people which tbh they might be. There's no good options other than being accountable and growing up. If not pick your poison. Won't matter which option since they both poison.

    • Good point

  • Why this USA American obsession with body count? Who cares? It's in the past AND made you a better lover. It's meaningless to me anyway.

  • Could not keep... Well okay I could see the head space one might be in to continue with their exes. I'd rather not have sex at all at that point. But the feels get me too much. I'd always half be thinking they still want to be with me and so on. Dating, sex, love has become dumb. Which makes everyone numb and I don't know I don't look and see the hurt people at bars drinking themselves dead or basically strip teasing strangers as like a positive thing or an okay ordeal that I want to be even close to. They just want to mask reality because it sucks deeply, internally it gets harder not to die. They give in, they don't care to make something better. To look in better places. Or they ignore and run away from reality.

    • Yepp

  • New people are worse, more than likely. You just don't know where they've been, while your ex's are likely to tell you if you asked.

  • Voted second.

    Side commentary from my cousin who was sitting beside me:

    "Would you want to place your dick on the zipper again after saving it from being squashed once?"

    • Lmao

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