Both women and men influence each others behavior!

[Anonymous]

I just recently read a take on how women create assholes, and as vague as it was a lot of people kept reiterating the fact that it was the mans choice to become something. i really dont think people understand that, given the circumstances, this choice is really a Hobson's choice, a take it or leave it choice.

you may be thinking "How is it a Hobson's Choice? S/He can stay true to herself and ignore the past interaction!", that is suggesting to not adapt to your surroundings and that is not how a species evolves. social adaptation is just as real as environmental adaptation, and the way society plays out and bending and molding to that dynamic separates the successful from the losers.

an example: an entitled woman remaining entitled is remaining entitled because of men. these men who want to have sex with this woman putting up with her entitled shit because they value her vagina more then their dignity. this is the type of woman who has either never been told to shut up or has too many men showering her with interest and what she wants to care when a man does. if ALL men told this woman to shut up and didn't give her what she wanted, she would have to either adapt to the shift in the social dynamic or would have to accept being lonely and not spreading her genes.

another example: a guy bends over backwards for a woman, is romantic, is a good listener, and is all what women say they want in a guy. they get stepped on, chewed up, and spit out. they realize that a relationship does not benefit them at all. they then either choose to adapt to the new social dynamic of a woman not wanting a pushover man and becomes more of a self-assured womanizer (all women like womanizers, even if they hate how unavailable they are for a relationship), or he continues to be unsuccessful with women while looking for love and maybe gets trapped by a carnivore woman or worse becomes a herbivore man and accepts that he will never spread his genes.

So, as much as either person could choose to remain the same.. how beneficial would it be for them really? Everyone has a choice, but sometimes that choice is akin to choosing between giving up vegetarianism because the earths vegetation was eradicated or starving. If people really want womanizers to disappear and entitled women to disappear, then they need to start setting a better standard. Men need to stop priorotizing sex as much as we do so that we can tell women to shut their mouths when need be, and women need to stop letting men manipulate them when they want a relationship as well as learn that giving a man space and not making the relationship all about them isn't setting them or women back 200 years.

this is for the dudes who are getting screwed over by women, and the women getting screwed over by men. for everyone else who is getting exactly what they want, whether its commitment or casual sex, you keep doing you.