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Boyfriend asked me for nudes last night, and I sent him one tonight but he said he deleted it, and was sorry he asked for them. What do I make of this?

my boyfriend and I haven’t been able to meet for more than a month because of the Covid-19 lockdown. We happened to be sexting last night, and he asked me for a couple of full body nudes, but since I was on my period I couldn’t, and I told him I was sorry! I did however promise I’d send him some tonight. Well, I just sent him one, and he told me he deleted it without even seeing it. He also said he he was sorry he asked for them and he deeply regrets it. I told him if he didn’t like them he could just tell me, but he insisted it wasn’t that. “ I love you and respect you a lot, making love to you is a completely different thing altogether but I can’t look at you this way, you’re aren’t my slave or something”... I mean it’s really sweet he’s being so respectful towards me, and I love him to death but I just... I don’t know. I told him he wasn’t forcing me into it. I was comfortable sending them to him... so I don’t see what the problem here is. I thought he’d like them. He asked for them. 
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Okay he literally just called me to tell me he was sorry he asked for them. He thought it was “ disrespectful” and added that he’d rather wait and make love to me, than look at pictures my body like a piece of meat and thirst over it. Like... that’s actually pretty sweet. My stupid anxious self thought he didn’t like what he saw :( when all he was doing was being respectful and decent. Guess I was just overthinking all this, too much. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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I’d also like to ad that we’re both Christians. Not very Devout ( since we’ve already lost our virginities to each other ) but we still are pretty old fashioned when it comes to some things. Guess he just asked for the nudes in the heat of the moment and later felt deep shame for it. it was just him being respectful towards me.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • As a Christian I understand where you guys are coming from. Its nothing about your body at all its more about his feelings, he just felt it wasn't best for him to have asked and to see it. I know he thinks you are absolutely beautiful! He sounds like such a keeper, he was honest with how he felt about that. In the one relationship I ever had I felt like he rarely wanted to talk to me and when he did it was all about himself. He didn't respect me and often made me feel insecure. I'm glad you have someone who is considerate of you, he sounds great :)

    • Yeah. His initial reaction had me a little confused but after he called me up and explained to me what he truly meant I can’t help but feel lucky to have a man like him in my life. In the generation of guys constantly asking girls for nudes and thirsting over their bodies, I’m glad I have a man that respects me enough to not demand such things from me. Thank you for your words and I hope you find a guy that loves and respects you, and makes your heart sing! You will find him one day! ☺️💕

    • Thank you so much 🥰❣

  • His response is very contrasting to what he said previously.
    I would feel the way you do as well.
    Since he is your boyfriend trust him enough to believe he is telling the truth.
    I wouldn’t send him anymore naughty photos from here on out even if he changed his mind and requested them.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm sure he'd like them. Are you familiar with post-nut clarity? When he was horny, he felt very comfortable with it. Afterwards, he had his mind back and his normal morality with it. It's not uncommon for a guy to regret things he said or did while aroused because they were kind of scummy. He probably just normally finds asking for nudes disrespectful and once he had his head about him, he regretted doing it. Had nothing to do with you. When he's gotten more comfortable with you, that kind of thing will most likely fade.

  • Well, it was just a matter of perspective, like somebody ask for your help than he immediately cancel it because he thinks it bothers you when the fact is you wanna do it gladly. But the good thing is, he's a real good man. It's rare nowadays

    • He thinks by doing that he exploits your body while you think by doing that he loves your body. And when he asked for the first time he was really horny. A man can't be himself before he cums LOL

    • I was a little anxious until he called me up and explained what he really meant. I consider myself lucky to have a decent and respectful man.

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  • Respect him, He Reconsidered and was Considerate. No Idiot. xx

    • I do respect him. I was just confused by his initial reaction but now that he called me, and explained to me what he meant and why he reacted the way he did, I get it. He was just being decent and respectful and I find that really sweet.

  • RESPECT YOUR BODY. DO NOT SEND NUDES TO ANYONE. Internet is a dangerous place to share such images.

    • Simp

  • Stay classy gal!! Never send nudes always make them work for the opportunity to see your skin.

    • I am. Literally saved myself for a guy that deserves me and he’s proven that he truly does :,)

    • Yeah his response was very shocking. I didn't expect it. I'm usually pretty accurate on people behavior but she showed class. He don't want you disrespecting yourself. That felt wrong to him. Definitely a keeper!!! (I don't over 99.5% of men are for keeps)

    • Yes. His response made me go... 🥺💕

  • He probably made the request in a moment of horny frustration.

    • Yeah, haha

  • I’m sure he liked them but he probably felt guilty that’s all. And don’t send nudes unless you’ve been with the person for a while trust me just don’t lol. He can’t wait see your body in person hun or just sext with him

    • Yeah. That’s what he told me. It’s not even about my safety to be honest because no matter what, I know for a fact that no matter what, there’s just some things he’s not capable of doing and leaking my pictures is one of those. We’ve known each other since we were teenagers, and are each other’s first love. :) we have plans to get engaged by the year end, and I know he has his heart in the right place. Thank you for the advise though. 💕

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  • He just wants to masturbate to your image

  • Maybe he feels like he put you up to something you wouldn’t otherwise have done? That’s my best guess. Maybe on another day, send him another without asking and check the reaction

    • yeah that’s what he felt like. He called me up and we cleared things up. It was just a matter of respect. Also, no I don’t think I will ever send him any unsolicited nude pictures. I only sent him one because he asked for it in the heat of the moment. Now that he’s told me how scummy it makes him feel I’m not going to keep doing that.

    • Understandable. :) I wish you two well!

    • Thank you! 💗

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  • Lucky you. The risk of seeing them on the internet or being blackmailed is high enough and you didn't land there.

  • Yup the classic fight between lust and senses of principles, you slide a little bit then you are back to upholding principles

    • yep.

    • You have an innocent baby face maybe that's why his senses came back🤷‍♂️

    • ahaha. Mayhaps! 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • The power of Christ is compelling him.

    • Lmao

  • Lol all his friends and several web pages now have these pics :)

    • You talk with such a firm conviction like you’ve known him all his life. Haha, too bad he’s not a douche. Not all guys think from their manhood. My man has his heart in the right place and we actually have plans to get engaged by the year end, and I couldn’t be more happy. Have a good day. 🙂

    • You keep telling yourself what you want :)

  • I don't understand your boyfriend. If I would have received those nudes, I would have cherished them with all my heart ❤️

    • I’m actually kind of glad that in a world where guys constantly ask girls for nudes my guy has enough respect for me to not do that? I actually found it endearing.

    • That's really sweet. I hope your relationship last forever. I would love to have a relationship like yours someday.

    • Thank you so much. I Hope you find someone that makes your heart soar! 🤗

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  • Lol i hear you stay cool

  • He maybe was joking. But girl don't send nudes

    • He asked for them... twice last night. I don’t send him anything unless he asks for it.

    • He respects you a lot and probably felt bad you actually sent them. He is a good guy. He didn't want to see you as some slave but as his beautiful girlfriend. He maybe was ashamed of himself

    • Uh? People do send nudes to each other. It's called sexting, it's incredibly common.

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