Boyfriend being egocentric in sex?

Hey. So, I love my boyfriend a lot, but when it comes to sex, there are a lot of things I don't like.

For example, I was in a mood for sex, yet he was in a mood for oral, so he literally gently pushed me down saying that he really wants oral.
Also, he knows, far too well that I don't like it when he ejaculates in my mouth during oral, yet, he did it, saying something like "well, you won't be hungry anymore" , while doing it. I mean, I'm sure he just wanted to speak dirty, yet it affected me in a negative way when he did it without even asking me before.
While giving him oral, he started kinda thrusting himself in my mouth, mimicking sex moves, and after we finished, I asked him " a new technique?" He said "yeah, you like it?" . Again, without any consultation with me if I am okay with it.
He was kinda thrown off after litetally pleading for anal, which I specifically told him I'm not ready for, he was displeased.
When I told him I never had orgasm with him, he got mad at me because I never told him? He thought that I am pleased when he finishes.
For these 5 months, since we started having sex, not once, did he ever touch my genitals, yet alone gave me oral.
Now I know I should talk to him about this which I plan to very soon, but I just wanted advice of other people on this. In (almost) all other things, he is so good to me.
So, before I confront him about all these problems, I want your opinion, because this makes me feel bad, him not even thinking about my feelings when doing stuff above.
I am very passive and quiet person and he is my first boyfriend, so it's not easy for me to talk to him (or anyone) , and this is the only other place where I think I could get some opinions and advices on what to do next.
Thanks.
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Superb Opinion

  • He's an arrogant and selfish fucking asshole!
    If he doesn't go down on you until you cum then you should never touch his dick again.
    Being passive is a good way to get taken advantage of.
    You have to stand up for yourself.
    If he gets upset with you because you never told him that you haven't cum in 5 months? What a piece of shit! He should know every time you cum because he should be making sure you cum before you even touch his cock.
    If you don't stand up for yourself then he will continue to treat you like you're his sexual plaything and he won't take any responsibility for your pleasure.
    If he threatens to break up, fine! He doesn't deserve you.
    If he loves you then he'll make your pleasure a priority. If he doesn't make it a priority to make you cum then he doesn't care.

    Actions speak louder than words.

    Ignore what he says. If he doesn't make sure you cum first then he doesn't love you and he's only into you for the pleasure he can get from you without having to work for it.

    Literally, he's a lazy fuck.

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  • He sounds like a dick. I understand you said you loved him, but he honestly sounds like the kind of guy you'll regret having been with if you invest to much time into that relationship.

    • By the way, talking rarely does anything to change the behavior of an egotistical guy. He'll smoothe talk his way out and won't change. Please don't let yourself get caught in his trap.

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    • I completely agree with this. He's absolutely right.

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  • sex is your obligation. It's literally the only thing you have to offer. if you don't want to satisfy him then break up and let him find someone he deserves.

  • approach him as if you are asking for advice, not complaining, tell him you cannot orgasm, NOT that he isn't giving you one... ask him how you can get better at cumming, he will be Proud to help... and so on... if you make him feel like a loser, you will lose him.

  • another reminder, i sometimes get filled with resentment when i see couples in their 20s, because it reminds me that i was single for most of those years

  • He never went down on you for 5 months?