Boyfriend complimented my mums boobs?

[Anonymous]

I dont know how to feel

[kkirk4442]

It's a little unusual for a boyfriend to comment about his girlfriend's mother's boobs. However, it may be that he saw enough of her boobs, to notice that they were nice, and just commented about it. If this is the only odd thing he says, don't worry about it. But if he keeps making odd comments, then get concerned.

[rjroy3]

Rule of thumb:

1. Understand he's still a man who is going to notice other women sexually. Even your mom

2. If something bothers you it is your job to come to him about it. Speak up

3. Unless you honestly believe he is trying to sleep with your mom. Relax a bit

[Latenightoverthinkwr]

I'm sorry but I don't agree with what you just said. 1-yes he is a man that might be attracted to other women and notice them, just like women are still attracted to other guys.. Its only natural.. but that is no excuse for behaving that way 2-she should speak up and express her concerns and make sure such things don't happen again yes it is her responsibility, again however he should know better 3- it doesn't matter if he is trying to sleep with her mom or not, yes he might find her mom attractive and other women as well, that does not in any way excuse him saying it out loud or acting on these impulses in any way, the fact that we are still human and still have attractions to the opposite sex even when in a relationship is inevitable, but acting on these impulses and being a decent human being who understands what it means to be in a relationship, and its responsibilities, is a fucking choice.. I no longer accept " he is still a man" as an excuse to behave in any way that's Inappropriate and let the guy off the hook as if we are expecting too much and demanding too much.. Excuse me sir, but that is just bullshit .. Respectfully

[rjroy3]

@Latenightoverthinkwr You don't have to agree with my end stance to logically understand what I'm saying. I quite literally use the term "understand" by its book definition and not the often misuse of the word which is essentially "agree with this or give it a pass because of X". When I say understand he's still a man. I'm saying understand that men naturally are a certain way. Accept this fact. It will forever be true. Men and are not women. Men think and move differently from women. And even if you don't like it you very much have to accept it because it will not change. Or don't accept it and continue to get angrier and angrier over time. Men are not women. Understand how men truly work so you can proceed intelligently. Rather than getting mad that men are not women, don't think and move through the world as women. Men are not women.. And I say that to you specifically because you speak as someone who doesn't understand that men are not women or angry at that fact. Which is why you said things like "he should know better" in regards to a behavior that really is perceived differently based on who does it, who the girl is, who the mom is, the culture and a variety of things. I've been places where telling a mom how hot she looks is acceptable. And you really don't know anything about their area. All you have to work off is her saying how she is unsure how she feels about it. Now you're taking your life experience and painting her story with the brush of your life story. Men are not women. Men are not women. Men are not women. Common thing that girls get pissed off about in regards to men? That men are not women.

[rjroy3]

@Latenightoverthinkwr For the sake of your happiness as a human on this earth. Sincerely. Acceot this fact or be tormented for the rest of your life over it. Men. Are not. Women.

[Latenightoverthinkwr]

Really? It's really quite simple - you should feel disgusted!!! Are you kidding me? That is wildly inappropriate and unacceptable

[AustinMan]

Just ignore him. Put his hands on yours and squeeze.

[Red_Arrow]

If he told you something about them, that is no big deal. If he told her, that is out of line!

[Red_Arrow]

Since he told you, it is not a big deal. He was just letting you know he liked them, not that he wanted to do anything with them. He may believe genetics will make yours the same when you are older, and wanted to let you know he likes that.

[RawIronhide]

Yeah he shouldn't have said that lol. Feel good, same genetics 👍.

[jshm2]

He feels you're going to develop the same.

But he must be autistic or be lacking his "inside voice" as that sort of shit is not said out loud.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Lol innovative shit people do to make things awkward.
But seriously, that's so disrespectful. I don't think there's much you can do, he should know his limits and manners. Just tell him that it's not appropriate to do so.

[bowenw]

That is highly inappropriate. If he thinks she has nice boobs he should keep it to himself. He obviously has some maturing to do. If he does or says other disrespectful things it may be time for him to find a new girlfriend.

[chriscdi]

jit weird

[AmeerX]

It is not wrong

[Born-for-sex]

Did he compliment her boobs to her face? And how has he been acting toward you since the compliment? Dose he seem to like your boobs?

[MrSkin]

That’s really weird. Did he compliment her or tell you this.

[Wise4myage]

How did this come about? Did he just randomly say something to your mum?

[jasco]

HAHA i mean honestly that would be a bit weird but uh i just forget about it

[Mangospacho]

That is weird. Are you two gonna break up now?

[Shihab-91]

that's rude to be honest

[Valnac]

Why do you need to feel anything?

[Ilikegirls2-2]

That’s weird. Does she have nice boobs

[Waldoe]

confused to start with, but you have the ability to "Choose" how you feel about anything, You really do. how do you want to feel? Maybe he sees a lot of You in her... thats a compliment to you too...

[colivares878]

They must be nice

[EaterPeter]

He complimented to you or mom or to mom in front of you? Well, red flag. You probably feel num. Lot of us just get stunned. You heard of fight or flight there is one more thing freeze which happens to me and feels like happening to you too. I believe it's a warning sign. try to set boundary and see how he reacts. How mom feels about it? Does she know about it?

[NYlatefun]

He told you or directly to her?

[Asker]

Told me

[NYlatefun]

I guess it depends on the context and the way he said it. If he had told her that’d have been terrible.