Boyfriend didn't feel up to having sex so I asked if it's because he doesn't find me attractive enough?

[Anonymous]

His reply was 'Don't be silly, of course I do'. Should I take his word for it or not?

[summiter]

I'd believe him. Maybe he had a long day or maybe he recently jerked off (yes all guys do it but won't admit it) How is your sex life with him outside this one time?

[Asker]

When we have sex it's good. The thing is, he sometimes wants it a lot and sometimes not at all, and he claims it depends on is mood, and that he really has to be in the mood for it. It that normal in guys?

[summiter]

We all are different. I'm always in the mood but I can see how his desires change at times. Is he more in the mood in the morning, weekends, nights? Are you usually in the mood? How often are you two having sex?

[OlderAndWiser]

Has he ever given you a reason to doubt his sincerity and candor with you?

[Asker]

No, he's genrerally very frank and upfront about things

[OlderAndWiser]

Then you are very likely responding to your own insecurities, right?

[Asker]

True, and I hope you're right becuase I really do love him

[OlderAndWiser]

When you ask a guy if he is attracted to you, remember that there is a lie detector in his pants! :) :) :)

[Asker]

Is that why he mostly turns his back towards me and makes me rub his back when he's tired? In that situation he usually pulls my leg over his hip and rubs my foot and leg. Is it because he doesn't want to get or show a hard on?

[OlderAndWiser]

That very well could be the explanation

[wildwingsofthewest]

Yeah, sometimes people are just tired. I know when I don't want to have sex nothing will put me in the mood

[cut-the-crap]

If you don't feel like you can trust what he's saying, why are you in a relationship with him?

[Sweepthelegjonny]

Harsh, but definitely accurate!

[Asker]

I’m just being insecure, and worried he’s saying it not to hurt me

[cut-the-crap]

I think it's good that you recognise that it's your own insecurity. Maybe you can talk to him about it? I don't mean that you should push him to reassure you because that can be really taxing but just tell him how you feel.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes, yes you should.

[MannMitAntworten]

You are being insecure by even asking such a question. For me, such questions are a turn off. He just wasn’t in the mood. Leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s bored of it (likes different things or for you to be spontaneous, etc). Usually I say I’m tired.

[Asker]

I have repeatedly asked him if there is anything he would like to try, told him I enjoy outdoor sex etc, but he just said he's not into any kinky shit, regular sex is enough for him.