Boyfriend doesn't like penetration?

Question

he doesn't hesitate to please me orally but he won't penetrate me... after he gets done licking me he asks for a handjob or footjob but he won't go inside me.. he denies his penis is hurting and he still ejaculates just as much (trust me no problem there!) but it seems like he doesn't like to penetrate me :/ i even tried shaving my pubes thinking that was it. but no. has this ever happened to anybody else?

3gmoney3 · Accepted Answer

Is it that he doesn't do it very often or has he never done it at all? I ask just to see if he has any hangups about taking sex to that point in general.

Aside from that, there are definitely times when I'm not interested in penetration. In my experience, girls have always gotten more out of penetrative sex than just the physical pleasure alone. There was always something additional about having someone inside them. It wasn't necessarily an emotional thing, but it was more than just the tingly, happy orgasm type feeling that comes from stimulating a clitoris.

There are times when I get more out of penetration than just the physical sensations on my penis, but those are usually situations when being inside someone brings me an emotional connection. If I'm not looking for that, putting my penis inside a vagina is just a means to an end, and that end can be achieved in a number of ways. Intercourse can be fun because vaginas are warm, and tight, and wet, and I'm generally in control of how my penis is being stimulated. That being said, it can also be a lot of physical effort, and it tends to rest on the guy more than the girl (in most positions, at least). There have been times when it's taken me a long time to cum, and I've come away from sex with serious pain in my abs. So there are times when my thought process is, "I'd like to cum somehow. A handjob sure sounds like a lot less work on my end." (Not a footjob for me, but that's because I have issues with feet.)

There's also something to be said for having someone take care of your needs like that. Handjobs and blowjobs have always made me feel really good for that reason. Still, it shouldn't be like that all the time.

I would first suggest a position that has you taking a more active role and see how he responds. If he still turns you down, explain that penetration is important to you, and ask him what the heck is up.

Yogue7 · Accepted Answer

Normally I give these really long detailed answers but what is wrong with him? If it's worry about getting you pregnant they make condoms, pills, and other contraceptives. Otherwise you need to talk to him and ask him why he doesn't want to.

Diamonnds · Accepted Answer

Let me just lay this out for you.

1. He's gay
2. Foot fetish... Ew.
3. He has and STD
4. Something is wrong and you just need to confront him sincerely and ask him why. Don't take No for an answer until you get an approving reasonable answer.

LeQuack · Answer

he has a foot fetish. enough said.

godfatherfan · Answer

either he has an overwhelming fear of getting you pregnant or there is some weird stuff going on...

cavmanier · Answer

This may just be his thing.

DodgersGM · Answer

Has be always behaved this way, or is it a recent trend that's just popped up? He could just really, REALLY be into feet and hand jobs. It'd be on the rare side of things, but not totally unheard of.