Boyfriend dreamt he fuc*** a random girl and I woke up to him wan**** over it?

Question

We've been together for around a year, first time this has ever happened.. haven't been having as much sex lately but still mostly everyday, and I'm feeling a bit insecure and ugly due to some weight gain

Last night I woke up to vibrations on the bed and my boyfriend was wanking, i was kind of upset but just went back to sleep.. the next day he apologised and said he had a dream he slept with a random girl at a party/had kinky sex so he was turnt on

Made me feel a bit sh** as if I ever had dreams about sleeping with others which is rare I don't get too horny, is this normal/does he actually want to sleep with others in real and am I not fulfilling him? If he had just woke me up I would have wanted to do stuff :(

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

Ok, grab a seat. I
"Is this normal?" - Yes, guys will often dream about having sex with either a stranger, or someone they know, or a celebrity.

"does he actually want to sleep with others in real (life)" - Want to? You can bet the mortgage on that one. There's hardly a man out there in your age range (and other ages too) who doesn't want that.

"and am I not fulfilling him?" Let's say for argument that you are for the most part. It still wouldn't prevent him from thinking about others who turn him on.

"If he had just woke me up I would have wanted to do stuff" - Maybe so, but the fantasy was "real" at the time, and he wanted to finish it with the girl in his dream.

Get your head around the idea that no matter how good you are in bed, or often you have sex, most men will think about what that other girl would be like. Nature of the beast. If you let if effect your own self-esteem and give you doubts, you're going down the wrong road.

ImNoOne111 · Accepted Answer

Its probably not about you. Communication is the key so say the things you told us to him. Men on average are more horny than woman so it might happen and it doesn't mean he wants to sleep with other girls. If you think you have left him unsatisfied, again. Ask him

summiter · Answer

It is not your fault at all. All younger guys wank even if they are having some sex. How often are you two having sex? Maybe try to increae he frequency or go for round 2?

MrTuxedo · Answer

Maybe he wants you to engage in more of kinky sex with him.

bowenw · Answer

At least he was honest and apologized. A lot of guys would have said they were thinking of their girlfriend. Remind him if he gets horny to wake you and you'll do whatever he was dreaming about.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If I had a girlfriend who had a sex dream about having sex with a random guy it would bother me to see her there laying there dildoing or fingering herself to the dream

VikingWarLord · Answer

Lifelong monogamy ain't natural.

Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.
You'll finally understand what this CULTure has never taught you, because it would ruin their cash cows (Marriage Industry and Divorce Industry).