Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 5 months. I am 24, he is 26. We've been dating for a year now. He's been wanting sex for a while. He's been so frustrated by a lot and he deals with so much stress from his job. The reason I haven't been giving to him is because of his ways. Talking to other girls, flirting with them, etc. He's been doing a lot to disappoint me and he says the only reason he's like that is because I don't have sex with him and I don't give him attention. But he's always been like that before the 5 months no sex phase. He will be a good boy for me but only like a day just so that he can have sex. This includes helping me, taking me out, treating me right, meeting his friends, etc (stuff he normally doesn't do). He has told a few people on how I don't give him attention and how we don't have sex. He doesn't just get angry when he doesn't get it but he will say or do something to hurt my feelings. I'm afraid to give him so much sex and attention because when I usually do, he will feel too good about himself. Not just in his confidence but his ego.
Advice?
Boyfriend gets mad when we don't have sex. Help?
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14 47why would he even wanna have sex with u when u do finally alow him to tho?
i mean,... i thought the whole point of having sex is cos u both wanting it and the accepting part makes u happy... if u are jus giving him sex as a reward.. then u dont really want it urself... that would feel kinda like rape in a way... if i was him i would look for a girl who also finds me sexually attractive and actually wants sex with me.. and not jus doing it for a reward like training a dog to be a good boy
This relationship sounds horribly unhealthy. You hold sex out as a bargaining chip (which is beyond messed up), and he feels the need to put on aires to impress you so that you'll actually have sex with him (which is also beyond messed up). Just end things before y'all end up doing severe psychological damage.
Dump him
Move on
Stop wasting time moaning.
Sounds like he is not for you.
One. In this case withholding sex is a form of abuse.. Same as withholding affection. Using it as a bargaining chip like you are is even worse.. That doesn't excuse what he is doing though.. If he really is that bad, leave him.. On that same token were I in his shoes, if have left you long ago.. I don't tolerate that kind of behavior in a relationship.. The withholding of sex and affection part.. I won't be with someone that chooses to manipulate me like that.. The moment someone does something like that to me, I'm gone..
Both of you are in the wrong here, both of you need to find a different partner..
No sex won't change him, so just get rid of him.
Break up with him because he is using
Withholding sex and staying with someone you don't trust seems stupid. Move on or continue to expect the same from him. Neither of you truly love or trust one another, so why stay in that relationship?
Why the hell is he with you? Holy fuck he needs to break up with you. You suck. Hard.
There, that's the advice-- tell him that he should break up with you, the sooner the better.
He is manipulating you and extremely selfish. I'm sorry, but I don't see any love from him for you. Make the right choice and all the best!!!
Time you both went your separate ways , and it seems you want to control him , using his sex-drive , which will be far stronger than yours.
Leave and try again elsewhere. If he's flirting in front of you, I promise he's doing worse behind you.
I you can go days without having sex there is something wrong with your relationship. If you can go months then you don't really have a relationship. Why aren't you leaving him? Why isn't he leaving you?
Well yeah, what do you do otherwise. He goes to work every day to pay for you, the least you could do is put out occasionally.
Let me start by saying that you're an awful partner who has nothing to offer in a relationship. Sex is literally the last and only thing and even that you refuse to give.
As for the guy, he's the usual desperate thirsty pussy slave who puts up with your bullshit instead of dumping you.
This guy... Shouldn't be flirting with other women's for any reason... Suspising that flirting means to... Be trying to gain the interests and attentions of other women's..,.. that's wrong #1... he only treats you right if he think he gonna get cooter? That there is RED FLAG #2 if that's true... RED FLAG #3... your presence after work should be decompressing to him... Unless all you do is bitch at him...
U alrdy hav a gut feeling not to give him sex, go with that
Dump his ass
That is abuse. Using sex as way to control your partner.
Your relationship is doomed. Withholding sex as a form of punishment means your relationship is broken.
Keep at it, you obviously love being cheated on. Serves you right, too.
Sounds like you guys should seek help.