Boyfriend gets moody when I say no to sex? Normal?

We usually have sex about 1-2 times a day and some days not. I can’t do it too much because I become too sore and my birth control pills has pushed my sex drive down, I can go without sex for a long time without an issue. But whenever I say no to my boyfriend about having sex he gets moody, sometimes he calls me weird for not wanting it every single day or 3 times a day, he’ll try many different ways to turn me on, touch me all over which can get annoying as hell especially when I got stuff to do and he gets pissed off when I say stop touching me and proceeds to say “I can’t touch my girlfriend?”. Sometimes he even says “you don’t even have to do anything”, is that wrong? Because personally I want to be into it when I have sex. And when I have stomach ache or headache he still thinks of sex and says “sex could help”, that’s the last thing I want in that situation!

Is it normal or right for him to get moody? Am I weird or wrong for saying no? Because at the moment I feel like I’m being the shitty girlfriend.
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  • On the pill? Messing up your hormones and moods? That's a red flag, getting together with a girl who does that... who knowingly and willingly messes up their own libido.

    Hey, if you can go without sex and you are willingly reducing your own drive with medicine than this advice is more for him than you but you two just might not be sexually compatible.

    I mean face it, if you two are already having sexual issues based on a difference in sex drives while you are just in the dating phase (when you are supposed to screw each others brains out and want each other all the time) think how bad this will get if you get married or have a kid or have been together 5-10 years.

    This could be a compatibility issue between you two to where you may want to rethink if you two are really a good long term fit.

    • I’m on the pill for him mostly though, my libido was higher before I got on the pill. But he doesn’t want to wear a condom so it’s either condom and more sex or less sex but no condom situation...

    • yeah my recent more ex was on the pill and it pretty much destroyed her libido before she was up for anything (almost) but when she decided to go on the pill we pretty much stopped having sex, I know what I would do... respect your sacrifice, if it is causing you discomfort being on the pill I would choose to wear the condom... and/or be more understanding of what you are going through I mean if he genuinely loves you he will make the sacrifices needed, or accept no sex when you are not up to it...

  • He's getting a lot of sex, so he really shouldn't be getting moody, when you say no. He's averaging at least once a day. It's not just his cock, but your body and your pussy too. You have a right to have had enough sex, and not have it for a day. You have a right to stop when sore, and you have a right to say no when you are busy and into things that need to get done, or to just enjoy your down time by not having sex. Your main goal in life need not be be fucking. Being a guy, I understand how horny a guy can get, and how hard, literally, it can be not to have sex. But there are limits. You are giving him plenty of fucking, and are being reasonable by not wanting to some days, etc.

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  • Ew thats an even bigger turn off for me.

    Sure, tell me you want sex, but if i say no that better be the fucking end of it. Start pushing and you're out on your arse ill have none of that shit.

    If im not in the mood then im not in the mood. And thats usually for an actual reason, be it im not feeling well or im pissed off. If im just neutral I'll probably say yes for the sake of it because fuckit, sex is fun.
    So...

    Basically, i think its normal for hi to be a little moody he can't get his rocks off the way he wants to for the hu dredth time today, but he has no right pushig it in your face and making it clear its YOUR fault. Because its not. you're not in the mood and thats his problem if that bothers him.

    • what if he just wants to cuddle :(

  • throw the whole man out, he's selfish honey. So selfish. Sex should be fun, and hell you guys are having a crap ton already. And you're only on the pill (which lowers your sex drive) because he doesn't want to wrap his dick up. I dated a guy like that in highschool/college, they don't change in fact they get MORE pushy. He doesn't respect your body or your boundaries, his lust will always come first.

    • also, normal guys HATE it when you just let them do you. And that's a good thing. I tried that, "Ok, just let him have his fun" stuff. Every single time he was turned off because my heart and body wasn't into it. Sex is about two for normal people.

    • Throw him out 😂 wow you clearly don’t respect guys feelings at all. I really hope one day when you ask a guy for sex he throws you out, that’s fair.

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  • You need to be able to say no without him making a Federal Case out of it.

    • Wank it jr

    • federal case? omg he's just in a mood! One day even looking at a woman will cause life imprisonment ;)

    • Women shouldn't do that either. It's a separate issue. Accepting a "no" graciously is a sign of maturity.

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  • multiple times a day seems a bit pushing it (not that multiple times a day is bad but expecting it every day is weird). However, imagine if you wanted to go out on a date and he rejected you for it, that would be pretty upsetting to you, does he really care or is he only their for the sex? Same thing goes for guys with sex, is she really interested in him or simply their because of what he can do for her (buy her things for example). However again multiple times a day is a bit weird. So rejecting constantly would be bad from the sound of it he is wanting it excessively.

  • You’re not a shitty girlfriend for not wanting sex 3 times a day. He’s a 20yo boy at the peak of his sexuality and typically will get pouty when they can’t get what they want. Just let him know you love him but your body is different and just can’t take it all the time.
    Do you live together?

    • Well said, it’s the word no that got the guy moody. Such is this word it’s rejection.

  • He is a normal horny dude. But he has to respect your wishes and what your body is capable of. Encourage him to masturbate more (yes all guys still do it in a relationship although they will never admit it) Maybe consider giving him a handjob instead of sex sometimes. Your thoughts?

  • Your boyfriend has a twin-my boyfriend. So my answer is yes, it is normal.

  • birth control can cause a lot but your boyfriend needs to step back and be more supportive and understanding towards things, if you say no it should mean no, not like you are leading him on then shooting him down

  • he has to know that its a lot to expect sex so often... can't you talk to each other and reach a compromise like if you say no it means he is free to go watch some porn and have a wank?

    • I have talked to him about it but he says I’m weird for not wanting sex as often as him. I have told him to go and wank and he has and does sometimes when I tell him but gets even more in a mood after doing it.

    • see in that case i think he has some issues himself. gosh i would be over the moon to get a free wank pass so regularly and would make me love you more but he obviously has some other shit going on. i wonder if its a security thing or he sees it as having control over you

  • Very normal.

  • its not his fault you're so damn fine.

  • Teach him how to seduce you.
    Sex isn't a given right.

  • He should be more considerate.

  • everybody gets moody if they're horny but are denied sex xD

  • give him a good bj and a handjob

  • C a woman's wishes nerd respected.

  • Is your boyfriend 5? You guys do it on a daily basis and he wants more. Tell him you're not a fk doll and that sex actually means something to you and you need to be in the mood for it.

  • You can try anal if your pussy is getting too sore from the sex

    • Good answer right here.

  • First, it's totally normal.
    Second, that doesn't mean it's right.

    PS: BLOWJOBS! Nothing leads a man around like blowjobs. Frequent blowjobs turn the meanest junkyard dog into a little puppy.

    • It also turns them into a chore and the they suck to give (no pun intended) and then we're back to nobody being happy

    • @BaileyisDarcy, there's just no pleasing anyone.

  • Understandable but not right.

  • Your body, your choice. Maybe he just needs a girl with a higher sex drive.

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