Boyfriend had sex with me In my sleep?

My boyfriend had sex with me while I was sleeping and chummed I'm me. I'm pregnant now.. I've been considering abortion, he didn't even consider what he did wrong but.. what do i do.. everyone I know wants me to have this baby...
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  • Your boyfriend raped you and you need to file a case against him.

    Is your family crazy in the head or what? It is YOUR decision. How far along are you? If the baby is under 22 weeks consider abortion... if that is what you want. Raising a child comes with a huge responsibility. Your "boyfriend" should be your ex now. Dump that asshole. Are you sure that you can provide a good life for your kid, financially, emotionally and overall a safe and secure childhood? Are you ready for a baby? If you are not in a mentally good state right now, that will affect the baby's health.

    You have a few options:
    - if you do not want to carry the baby consider abortion
    - if you do not want to abort the baby, but at the same time don't want to raise it, consider giving it up for adoption
    - if you want to carry the baby, and raise it, then choose to keep the baby and try to provide a good life

    Will your family support you and help you out in raising the kid? It's NOT your family's choice whether you get to keep the baby or not. It's your decision and they can have no say in it.

    • I'm 20 weeks.. I have my abortion scheduled for next week. It sucks cause I'm so far along but I didn't choose this. Yea I did finally dump him, and I've been keeping my distance. He doesn't see wrong in what he did instead he is more like an abuser like.. he says well you like it.. I don't know dude shit is real messed up. I guess I just came here cause my mental has been fucked up ever since.

    • I’m really sorry that you had to go through this. Sending virtual hugs ❤️ Do you want to press charges against him? You could, if you want. That asshole deserves to rot in jail. Your mental health should be your top priority. Maybe meet with a therapist?

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  • Someone who has sex with you without your consent has committed rape. Different if you had or have prior agreement on sexual acts while sleeping as long as you consented, though prior talks. Only you know what you should do in the end. What's the rapist's family have to say? anything? I find it disturbing that your family seems to be overlooking the rape part of this all. I feel for you, its a rough situation. But if you really want the baby keep it, if you do not and go through with your termination, none of us are here to judge you over what you choose to do, though maybe you should talk to a counselor or something if you can, before your procedure. Everyone wants you to have the baby you said but what do you want? for yourself?

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  • Not possible to be raped like that unless on drugs and/or alcohol. Would you consider putting your boyfriend in jail for a quarter of his life for it? Just get the abortion if you aren’t ready to take care of a child. It’s a huge responsibility. Most likely you’d end up as a single mother relying on your family to raise your child. It’s possible you would have a beautiful child who would grow up into an amazing person, but that hasn’t happened. You are in control of your future. Do what you want. I don’t think your boyfriend deserves jail or to be a convicted felon. Unless you actually don’t know him or something. Then why are you with him to begin with? Lay off the drugs and alcohol as well. It’s not good to be so messed up you can’t wake up and defend yourself.

    • I smoke weed to sleep and work several back to back shifts! Yea I didn't know shit! Crazy but thanks for your response I'm not sitting here trying to put him in jail!

  • Jees. Are you saying your family are ok with your b/f raping you in your sleep and then making you have the baby?

    • Literally.. yea tbh and it's like oh just have it if you don't want it we will take it! It's like no I'm going through a fucking traumatic experience ☹️

    • WTF is wrong with your family? and why are you still with that guy?

    • I've calmed down a bit.. sorry for that. I just think any guy raped my sister, nobody would ever find his body! but that's not helpful.. let's see what your options are.. How far pregnant are you?

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  • iam sorry he's raped you hunni but there's one thing i will say i could not kill a baby u wouldn't like it to hapoen to u or finding out your mother tried to kill u when u where inside her i will say i understand exactly what you mean this kid is a living thing like you have the kid and adopt it dont kill it i know what you mean because it was a kid uhad and you got raped for it but its not the kids falut its his i would kill him instead of the kid the dirty basterd but dont kill a kid it his fault adopt it and let it live with other people remember your a living thing to just like ure child hunni

    • you can all disagree if you like i wpuld never nevee kill a child its discusting same as rape adopt the kid dont kill it it wasn't the kids fault i dont agree on killing it it wouldn't be nice

  • The only thing that matters is what you want. Having an abortion doesn't have to be traumatising. It happens more often than you think.
    I had an abortion when I was 23 and i didn't regret it for one second. My life would be much different now., în a bad way.
    And you should report your boyfriend to the police and break up with him.

  • Ahahahaha…isn’t that rape? Tf…
    You could always find a good family that can’t have a baby, and let them adopt yours. :)

  • don;t be a troll.

  • Congratulations. Good luck

  • Have the baby but get rid of him But make sure you get child support

  • Uh you got raped

  • Bad trolling.

  • 1) it’s absolutely your choice…and yours alone to remain pregnant.
    2) your boyfriend raped you. Does “everyone I know” not care how you got preggers?

  • Is that rape?

    • Yes she could press charges

  • That's rape! You should be having him arrested 😦

  • How is that possible? Have you never feel anything?

    • I work till nearly 5 am everyday around this time and or 2 am other days and would smoke to sleep..

    • Are you using drug or what?

    • Smoked weed

  • That’s rape hun

    • I feel the same way.. my parents are saying keep the baby and ditch him.. I didn't ask for this though.. it's so contradicting

    • Yeah I’m really sorry about that

  • Girl dump him. Thats rape. If you feel like carrying that baby will hurt you mentally or you will mistreat the baby because its a product of rape. Don't be ashamed to do what's right for you. There is adoption and abortion. Both are options.

  • That's sexual assault

  • It's your body and your choice alone. If you aren't prepared to be a single mother have an abortion within the laws for your area or put the child up for adoption. Also speak to the police about charging your boyfriend and dump him now.