Boyfriend has taken to pulling out before cumming?

He used to always cum inside which I like. I’m on bc and he knows I am. So why has he started to pull out every time we have sex? It feels like a rejection of sorts. It can’t be for variation only as he does it every time.
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  • My guess is that it turns him on. Some guys see finishing inside as kind of “vanilla”. Guys in porn ejaculate on the woman and smear it around. Guys are visual creatures and are prone to being aroused by things like that. It’s probably not a rejection of you but rather a sign that he’s reached a comfort level with you sexually that he feels safe carrying out his personal kinks. The only way to know for sure is to talk about it openly with him. The only other explanation is that he thinks you’re trying to get pregnant... but the fact that he’s taking the time to smear his cum around on you leads me to believe he’s having his fun. I’ve had plenty of partners do the same to me. It’s pretty normal.

  • He doesn’t wanna risk it. Birth control isn’t 100% foolproof.

    • Possibly, but if so why did he not pull out ever for months?

    • @Asker Because he wasn't thinking it through properly and now he is.

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  • That’s weird.. He would literally be preventing himself from enjoying the best part of intimacy with you.. Whenever I’m with a girl and she finally looks up and tells me she wants to feel me finish inside her, it’s like the most freeing feeling to push deeper inside and I cum so much harder and longer.. If it’s someone I really like and trust, I’ll do it even without her being on the pill because it feels so much better for us both. I’ll spend the money for the morning after pill just to enjoy that natural pleasure

  • Talk to him about it, away from the sex. It's vital that you be calm, direct and matter of fact about this. Get calmly to the bottom of why.

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  • Maybe he finds it sexy?

  • When he pulls out where dose he cum?
    Maybe he is just been in to the idea of cumming on you, and as it's kinda degrading he hasn't been doing it till now

    • Makes sense. So you think he’s more comfortable with me now and more confident fulfilling his sexual fantasies?

    • He always cums on my ass or stomach then smears it around

    • I think he just know your not going to get mad about it, seems like he likes watching himself cum on you... If you are ok with it, you can always make is day by asking him when he is getting close if he wants to cum on your tits or face so he can full file his porn fantasy, Although it is deming so dont let him do it everytime, and let him know you like it when he cums in side you, you should both be able to live out your fantasys in a way that none gets hurt.

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  • Sounds like he's been watching too much porn.

    Otherwise perhaps he doesn't trust BC and doesn't want to become a father yet which in one way doesn't make sense because he was OK with cumming in you before.

  • maybe he wants extra protection

    • Why would he start wanting that all of a sudden?

    • doesn't want a kid lmao

  • Uh because 1) variation is indeed nice, and 2) baby scares are not worth it. Birth control isn't 100% effective.

  • Where does it go when he pulls out? If he shoots it on you it is probably a turn on for him. It is kinda hot to do that. If he lets it go somewhere else maybe he’s just trying to be extra careful.

    • On my ass or belly depending on position. He usually also smears it around

    • Ok then he probably thinks it’s hot. Personally I like to finish inside but I totally get doing what he does also. You should talk to him about it.

    • Is it some kind of dominance or territorial marking thing involved in this?

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  • he doesn't want to make you pregnant

    • Maybe, but why would he not pull out ever for months if that’s the case?

    • Maybe he doesn't know that he can so

  • If I were him you mouth would be used like a vagina

  • Have you asked him?

  • Because birth control isn't 100% effective

  • Did u ask him why?

    • No, feel awkward asking

  • Hmm. I sense a misunderstanding! I think it is time for a conversation with boyfriend. Ask him why he keeps doing this? And tell him how it makes you feel. I suspect you will be surprised by his answer.🤔

    • How do you mean surprised? What is it you’re suspecting?

  • Yeah

    • Yeah what?

  • Why don’t you guys communicate with each other about it instead of asking here. He’s the only one who can tell you.