Thats a basic reaction of our gene's. That thing he has to learn that girls are not boys. Mood is really important and sometimes sharing time without orgasm is great too. He is focused on the score
He’s very much focused on it
He has to learn it when you're not in the mood u will get no orgasm, also tell him that no orgasm is ok too. Because the time spent together is more important
I say it to him, but he thinks I’m just being nice about it
cause apparently he derives a lot of his validation from his ability to make you cum, which doesn't seem very healthy. i mean a bit of it is fine. confidence fluctuates naturally.
Its kind of self validation i guess it would be same for you, imagine u couldn-t make him finish
Yeah it makes senss
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Pretty obvious, guys hang a lot of self worth on their sexual performance.
Thinks you've gone off him
It's a lot harder to make a girl orgasm from a guy's standpoint so if he's capable of doing it it's like winning an award because you know you did a good job
Cuz the greatest joy for any man is making his beloved orgasm.
Because men like feeling desirable too. I'm always surprised at how many women seem to forget that. You wanting him makes him feel good. It takes a lot of effort and technique to make a woman orgasm.
He measures his worth by happy you are.
Big mistake.
What do you mean?
Read the fuckin message with your eyes.
You had a lot of errors
Okay... so?
"Why?" What do you mean why? Because. That's why.
Dumb answer. Next
You mean, the correct answer? Alright sis.
I’m not your sis. Try harder.
Self-validation. I do the same thing. Sometimes when I make her orgasm she calls me her cocky little bitch. ... I kind of like it.
guess he just need to know he does good for you I don't know what would you think if you couldnt always make him cum?
Because he's a normal male emotionally, but doesn't fake confidence well. Men's ability to get sex and be proficient at it is a big part of how they feel about themselves.
Why is it? Women are not like that
Who knows, we can only guess. Probably because the ability to be chosen as a mate and able to perform sexually is, from an evolutionary standpoint, the goal of men. If they don't fulfill this, they die out and vanish. Only males who succeeded in doing this are in our gene pool, so males with that desire are who we are descended from. From women it's different - for women it's almost taken for granted that a man WOULD have sex with them. So women feel valued and successful based on capturing the full attention, not just sexual attention, of a desirable mate. For men, their semen isn't worth much, their resources are valuable, so being chosen sexually is validating. For women, their womb is valuable, so being chosen sexually isn't meaningful, being devoted to and cared for is validating.
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