Boyfriend is self conscious about how long he lasts?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend doesn't last very long in bed, and it's really bothering him.. is there a way to get him to last longer or reassure him or something? Please?

[Octavion]

If you want to just reassure him judge when he's about to orgasm and whisper to him you want him to orgasm right before you think he's about to. That should fill him with confidence. If you want him to last longer then like another poster said you might have to get him off once during foreplay before you start having intercourse.

[kheserthorpe]

Yeah. If you comment on my opinion it will remind me to point you in the right direction tomorrow.

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[kheserthorpe]

First things first:
- pressure makes guys either lose erection or cum fast. When we lived in the wild stress = danger = finish one way or the other. Ironically the more he wants to last longer the harder it will be. He needs to relax. If you can downplay things it helps. Sure longer would be fun but that doesn't mean every time. If he aims for perfect it will suck. Gotta accept sometimes he will cum fast.

The best resources I've seen anywhere in this are:
www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/
Ignore rest of the forum. Start with stickied threads.

Basic idea is to develop a few things:
- improved awareness of how aroused he is. It's very hard to pull down arousal right near orgasm. It's MUCH easier to pull back from like '8/10' to 7/10'. So part is being aware of when he's at 8 not just 'oh crap I'm at 9.5'
- there are a whole lot of techniques to bring arousal down. So he needs to practice all. Some you wouldn't notice the more extreme are obvious.
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[kheserthorpe]

- some of the techniques may require strengthening some muscles and improving control so there are exercises for that. - consistently NOT ejaculating fast will train his brain to anticipate longer sex making it easier. No reason not to expect significant though unreliable changes in 4-6 weeks. And if he wants to he could be a sex God within a year. If he keeps going with it, multiple male (dry) orgasms without stopping is possible.

[Klaatu51]

i guess you cannot do much basiclly i'm afraid... some guys last longer whilst others nt... it's just him...:-/

[Asker]

I think it may just be because we are both very new at this. I'm hoping he'll be comfortable with however long he lasts though

[KDA20]

With expierence he will last longer.

[NYkid27]

This might sound kind of weird but tell him to masturbate a little while before you are planning on having sex. When I jerk off before sex I usually last about an hour

[Anonymous]

Jack him off first, and just make out and/or do some foreplay beforehand. Then when he gets hard again, he'll last longer the second time.