Boyfriend is still shy to go fully nude around my nudist family?

He finally got nude with me the other night in the hot tub but kept covered when we joined the rest of my family inside. Is he just worried about having an erection around them? or self-conscious cause of my dad's size?
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  • Don't push him if he's not comfortable. It may not be a big deal to you but it seems to be for him.
    If you grew up with it then you're used to it. For him it would be like. Well. Going nude in front of an entire family-- not to mention his girlfriend's family-- for the first time.

    He has likely never done this before and is very self conscious and feels embarrassed to be nude in front of people.
    In most cases we are taught that nudity is shameful unless only with your spouse. So that instinct to cover up definitely kicks in. Especially when faced with strangers or basically anyone besides your partner. Even that can be scary.
    To add to that is the fact that being nude feels much more vulnerable than clothed if you are used to the latter. And no one likes to be vulnerable. Especially in front of people like that.

    Just take it slowly because this can't be as easy as you may think.

  • I doubt your dad has anything to do with it, but self conscious yes and probably worried about an erection. Talk to him about it and ask. And just give him time. Maybe he needs to just "practice" right now with just you, before he joins the family? Especially if you haven't been together that long. And if you're not having sex etc, because again, he'll be worried about an erection. You can also let him know that if he gets one, it's ok and normal and not to worry so much about it. He's thinking too much about it (in his head too much).

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  • Our culture has super sexed. the naked body. I've tried to raise my boys to not be ashamed of the naked body and I also don't make them cover their eyes if people are nude on TV. (Total other topic here, but nudism as opposed to gratuitous violence, I would rather more acceptance of naked bodies instead of bloody bodies). Most people are uncomfortable with nakedness and it will take some time being around your family before he's able to break free from the herd mentality. The fact that he's dating a nudist and has even hung out with you guys all naked , indicates that he's probably open to nudism if given enough time and acceptance of his desire to be clothed.

  • Ummm I mean this respectfully but I would be uncomfortable too 😂 and I’d never break out of that shell. It could be he might get an erection but mainly he’s not used to it nor is it common for a family to be nude altogether. Allow him to be himsel f and don’t force him to

    • I totally agree

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  • Are you trying to force him to get nude?

  • This isn't for everyone. He might be nervous about getting excited around your parents, or just being nude around them, or making a bad joke and offending someone.

  • Well, most people aren't comfortable being nude around many people, let alone their girlfriends family

  • It took my wife a few visits to my family to warm up to going nude around them, even though she was perfectly comfortable going nude with our friends or around strangers. I think everyone is naturally nervous meeting their SO's family for the first time, nudity just adds another layer to that.

  • It’s a size thing likely. If your dad has a bigger penis than he does he’s not gonna want his smaller penis to be seen.

  • Lol! I think he is self conscious about everything! Just give him some time! Haha! Your dads size will have to do with it I am shore our mothers breast would have something to do with it... lol! If you have to get sisters or brothers that will probubly also mess with him! But he will be fine!

  • Nudist family? :o
    Those exist?

    • Yes, we do exist, lol.

  • He's probably worried that he will get an erection around you family. And he may feel a little intimidated, if you Dad has a big penis. How many people are around the house, besides your mom and dad? What are their ages, and how helpful are they? There may be a couple of strategies that will bring him out sooner.

  • That's weird that your whole family gets nude together. I think that he's not used to that. Hence, the uncomfortable.

  • What the fuck? Why would he want to see your whole family naked, let alone your whole family see him naked?

    That's just utterly strange & uncomfortable, enough to turn me off dating you tbh. You can't just invade someone's boundaries like that if they're not comfortable..

    Would you be fine being naked in front of some random family? Seriously?

    • I agree and I don't get it too

  • Quite honestly, I think you're putting too much pressure on the guy. It may be 2nd nature to you but I think you're making him try too hard.

  • That's understandable just be patient that would be a lot for most people. Just the fact he has stuck around says he really loves you

  • I think it’s both.

  • Give him time. When people grow up with nudity being sexualized it's hard to unthink that

  • Don't try to force him. If he wants to cover up, let it be.

  • I would be too that's not normal.

  • Not everyone is comfortable being nude around other people. And it's doubly uncomfortable when parents are involved. I think you should let him be.

  • Maybe he's just not into showing every part of his body off to other people. Don't force it, he'll resent it.
    I wouldn't go naked in front of anyone outside the bathroom or bedroom either.

  • I would never go nude just because my girlfriend comes out of a freaky family. I don't think it's normal to be naked next to strangers

  • Jesus Christ why wouldn't he be uncomfortable he had to see your mom and your dad all naked

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