Boyfriend rather masturbate than have sex even tho is muggy in the bathroom?

[Anonymous]

He acts all annoyed when I wanna fuck because "it's too hot to fuck" but our bedroom is always chilly because we got an ac in there.

We do fuck when we go to bed and in the morning, and we used to have quickies throughout the day, but recently, it feels like he doesn't wanna have sex unless he is the one who initiates it. Even if I'm msgng him or telling him in person that we should have a quickie or something, he just giggles and agrees but gets annoyed if I start to take his pp out. He be touching me inappropriately and all that but if I do it back, it's a problem?

[236color]

Many people are embarrassed to masturbate in front of others, even their intimate partners. It's not about the temp, it's about privacy. Now you could suggest some mutual masturbation, either you stroke him, you stroke each other, or each do your own thing next to each other. He may not go for it, but it can be a way to make it a bonding experience, and can be very sexy. I do understand the heat thing, I do. When I was stationed in Puerto Rico in the Navy, we had a lot of power failures. When we had more babies than usual in the nursery, the joke was always, "Must have been a power failure 9 months ago." Truth is when the AC was out, you didn't want to be that close to anybody.

[Asker]

But that does not excuse his behavior when he is the one to start touching me sexually first and if I touch him a little back, he gets all annoyed and uses the excuse that it's too hot. We have fucked many many times in the heat and such, but I guess now that I think of it, we've only really had sex when it's hot as hell is when he's the one to start the penetration.

[236color]

Hmmm, I wonder if his problem is that he feels threatened by you initiating sex? In that case, I'd say he either needs to grow the fuck up and realize you are a woman with sexual needs that you want to express, or find another man secure enough to deal with you expressing those needs

[ohsheeT]

Okay so what he's trying to tell you is you f*** his brains out and you just wear him down LOL

Is he getting to be a little bit out of shape gaining weight because that's what happens guys start to get lazy your girlfriend's just tear them up so they would rather masturbate anything but f*** their old lady because they know they're in for the ride of their life LOL and they just can't take it no more you need to start getting him in shape start walking around the block after dinners otherwise another year from now he won't even want to have sex he'll just want to masturbate

[Asker]

That makes sense... He loses weight fast, but yeah, he has gained a bit of weight ever since I came to live with him. I'll suggest that to him and see if anything changes.

[ohsheeT]

Well most guys will say no no whatever but I guarantee it when that starts to happen it's because it's getting out of shape

[ohsheeT]

I mean there are things you can do and he won't ever want to masturbate who want to have sex

[Nikki1989]

If he would rather masturbate, your sex life is in big trouble. I would be looking for a new man.

[Asker]

But we have sex a lot in the mornings and at bed time? It's just weird that majority of the time, he would rather initiate it and if not, he would be annoyed

[summiter]

How much is he jerking off?

[Asker]

I'm not sure. Maybe just once or twice every few days, that I have noticed.

[summiter]

As u know all younger guys jerk off frequently... but it should not interfere with ones sex life!

[Billlewis]

That's strange.

[Alex-Snow]

All guys jerk off but I would think they want sex also!

[godurty]

Try to have a talk with him, because this is a problem but can be solved by communication. And if don't improve than this is not good for relationship.

[Asker]

I don't know how to initiate this conversation. It's kinda awkward to randomly ask him to talk about it because I know he's going to say it's not a big deal or "we do have sex still" which isn't the problem..

[godurty]

On any good day between you just tell him that we need some good talk and start with that now a days this is the thing , I feel like this and I think if there is some issue we cal talk and solve it for good of us. May be this will work.

[Asker]

Hmm I have tried that in the past and sometimes, he would sit down and talk to me about the topic, but other times, he would plain out say, "why are you starting shit" 🫤

[Wise4myage]

Why haven't you dumped him?

[2021biguy]

At least you are still fucking, try doing kinky stuff when you fuck. Maybe that will excite him.

[Asker]

Like what? I think stuff gets him nervous and he laughs instead.

[2021biguy]

Try to find out what kind of kinky stuff he likes. try watching some porn together

[Asker]

I have asked him if we could watch porn together and he gets all weirded out. He be laughing but annoyed and say "wtf calm down" We've done anal and a bought a swing. We've played with toys while having sex. I've asked if we could do blindfolds and at first, he'll be all into it but he backs out last minute

[2021biguy]

It sounds like you are on the right track and are having fun, keep trying.

[Blake_909]

Tell him I wasn’t able to have sex with my wife for 15 months due to a bad accident, so appreciate what you have because you don’t know what tomorrow brings