Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health About a year before meeting me my guy had feelings for one of his female friends. She rejected him, but now that we are dating and things are starting to get serious, suddenly she is all over him. She makes a point to always sit next to him, laughs at all of his jokes and even touches him casually. It just looks pathetic, but I'm about ready to bite her head off.
My boyfriend admits that she has been acting weird around him lately, but he thinks I'm overreacting.
Do you think it's possible to resolve this situation without getting into a fight with her and possibly my boyfriend? What would you do?
Boyfriend's female friend is flirting with him. What do I do?
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15 15tell your boyfriend that you are not confident that
Threesome!
With a girl who he used to have feelings for, who is now openly trying to get him? Are you nuts? She's the last person on earth they should be doing a threesome with.
Either you're guy will cheat or you aren't. That's up to him. If you don't trust him then that's up to you. But if you feel he is looking for the more desirable of the two who do you think he would choose. The girl who tries to steal men or the girl who invites other girls in? So no. I would not say that she is the last person to have a threesome with. Don't give the other girl power. Take it away by showing your boyfriend who the better woman is.
You don't need to have a threesome with your boyfriend's ex-crush in order to be a good girlfriend or a desirable woman.
then why are you asking what you need to do if you are clearly a good girlfriend and desirable? HEEEEEEY WE REACHED THE CONCLUSION!!!
I never asked what I should do. But, supposing I did, there are options for what to do other than "have a threesome" and "don't have a threesome". Those are not the only two options for how to approach this issue.
my bad. thought u were Op.
Whoever I am, there are plenty of options for how to handle this situation that don't have anything to do with threesomes.
You're right. The obvious thing to do would be to tell him to stop talking to her or for her to do it herself. But hey. What do i know. Apparently the obvious answer isn't obvious enough. I mean obviously my initial post was for laughs but somehow that flew over your head. I did it anonymously for crying out loud.
I respond to every post as though it is serious, unless it is directly stated that it is a joke. Why? Because of the chance that the person actually IS serious (it happens) and the chance that someone else is taking it seriously (that happens too). It can be hard to tell when someone is being serious and when they're not. There are some real nutcases here. And you never know when someone else, someone young or naive, is going to take a post seriously and end up following bad advice. I'm here to help people. That's what I'm here for. If I see bad advice or inaccurate information, I'm going to call it out. Period.
Good for you. For the record. My advice wasn't bad and was able to back it up for reason. it's just lewd.
If say it is objectively bad advice, when it comes to the health of their relationship. This is clearly a sensitive subject already, so the idea of throwing a threesome into the mix is pretty insane. It could work for some people who are less insecure, but it is obviously not a smart plan for the OP. Read your audience. That's a big part of giving good advice.
Or it is smart because it will help with the insecurities. That is also why they come here and ask questions. It's objective until reassured. all you're doing is adding to the stigma of casual sex. I'm objectively saying it doesn't need to be. You're saying it's insane and unhealthy without reason why suggesting you are basing this on your own bias.
Omg dream come true 😍
Same thing happened to me. I told him she needs to go or I'll leave. He got rid of her.
If your boyfriend respects your wishes he'll do it. He shouldn't be letting a girl flirt with him. It's all about respect and love and true colors show here
No see she's an old friend she was there beforeu n can b there after its up to him not to flirt back if he's not no biggy if so then problem but over an ol friend if u can leave that easy bye
So being an old friend gives her the right to come onto him and disrespect his relationship and his partner? With that logic, I could my boyfriend "my ex is going to come touch me and flirt with me but I'm not gonna flirt or touch back so you have no right to get upset or ask me to get rid of him." Man no wonder cheating seems to be normal these days. Where's the respect for other people?
Chill agin if he's not acting on it not prob or at least much of one
Yeah, okay. Whatever you say 👍🏻 Smh
U r a control freak if i was in ur boyfriend situation i wouldve told u to leave
Well then I guess it's a good thing you're not my boyfriend 🙂 Also my relationship is 100% healthy and balanced, not really sure why you'd assume otherwise.. maybe because I have an opinion different than yours? And I guess if some people are okay with their partner being touched and flirted with by someone they used to have feelings with, as that's what the asked stated, then relationships have become a lot more lenient than I last remember
@Loveherbut I guess that makes the 5 women who liked the answer control freaks also 😂 no, its called asking for respect. Any guy who allows an old fling to flirt with him around his girlfriend has no respect for his girl or his relationship.
That's what I did too. Worked like a charm. Never had a problem again. Ain't nobody got time for that shit.