Boyfriend said he hasn’t been able to cum because of me?

[Anonymous]

Last time he was able to cum was 2 months ago. He said our sex life is stale and I’m too plain and not kinky enough that’s why he hasn’t been able to. I give him blowjobs every night. I try to surprise him with lingerie and dirty nudes but it’s not enough he’s still so bored he said. I tried to be kinky recently and sent him a few public nudes and even a titty pic in a local bar. He didn’t think it was kinky. What should I do to spice things up?

[NamerOfStars]

Let me get this straight: he's having a sexual problem, and blames you. He claims that your sex life is stale; what has he done to improve it? Has he tried anything, or even suggested anything? He says that you're too plain; has he told you what he'd like you to do differently? Style your hair, wear a Starfleet uniform, speak only in rhyme, whatever? You say you're trying things, but he says it's insufficient; does he say what more he wants?

Because if he's not telling you, or putting effort in himself, then what you should do is call him out on it. If what he's experiencing is a medical problem, then it's not your fault (unless you whacked him in the crotch with a sledgehammer or something, but I'm guessing that's not the case), and if what he's experiencing is a psychological issue, then at worst that's only slightly your fault, and it's up to him far more than you to find a way to fix it. Now, since you're together with him, part of the onus of that falls on you, but it sounds like you're doing your part- I'm only getting one side of the story, here, but it very much sounds like he's the one who needs to up HIS game.

[Finchie40]

LOL dump him that’s how you will spice things up go find yourself a guy that would love every second with being with you because he clearly isn’t the guy for you , if a girl sucks my dick every night and wore sexy lingerie for me , she would be a girl I would keep by my side as much as possible and I would do my best to show my appreciation and love to her , so you are clearly dating a guy that only cares about himself that only values himself , He doesn’t value you period , he just likes the convenience of you , he will keep you around until someone he feels is better for him comes into the picture , if he hasn’t already , you are giving yourself to someone that doesn’t want to give back the same in return , realize you deserve better than that. He is clearly stringing you along by saying you can’t make him cum that everything is your fault , the truth is it’s his fault by trying to play a victim when really he is just a selfish POS , Do yourself a favor and kick him to the curb where he belongs , Value yourself worth and realize you deserve better than that , A girl like you is a girl I would so keep by my side

[sheikalana]

I don't think it's your fault at all. There's some underlying health issue here that is perfectly treated. I once dated a man who had delayed ejaculation but he always assured me it was not my fault. We would have long sex sessions and he just wouldn't cum his penis would stay hard the whole time and he was visibly aroused but he just couldn't finish a lot of times. It can be very frustating. I think it's wrong of him to say it's your fault. Did you ask him if this had happened before with other women? In case you want to spice things up ask him what kind of things he expects and wants you to do.

[RoseySarah]

You should end it!

No idea what he is looking for but he is basically saying he is cheating cause he feels your boring!

Doing that is not kinky it will get you in trouble! Run!

Stop giving him things cause he is so greedy not giving you anything! When was the last time you came? He is. A child making you do things for him and not doing anything for you!

He is a big friend not a husband you can find a much better one!

Imagine if you were married or engaged he would force you to do so much worse things!

[chrissykerdock]

he could be gay not that there's anything wrong with it... but if your doing that for him and he's not loving it... loving it... he may be that... sorry to say

[ShesRad80]

he is the problem not you, ask him what is your idea of kinky then?

[OlderAndWiser]

Play games.

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/ sexual-health/a54411-need- some-excitement-in-the- bedroom-are-you-willing-to- take-a

[erandal]

The only thing you need to do is leave him. If he is giving you comments like that now then it is only going to get worse. Cut your losses and run.

[Flower7]

You most likely would need to end the relationship since it seems like the two of you just aren’t sexually compatible.

[summiter]

You are doing nothing wrong. You blow him every night? How can he complain about that. Does he cum when he gets a bj or a handjob?

[Jacq_attack]

Sounds like it's time to get out of that stale relationship. You've done all the things you can... give your best to someone who deserves it and will appreciate YOU.

[BadApple69]

Let’s start off with your boyfriend has a problem. It could be physical or mental. When a guy has a problem they are quick to blame the girl because they don’t want to admit it’s their problem.
I don’t want to bring this up but I know from experience that this can happen. I was with someone. Loved them but another girl entered my life and she was so sexy that I started lusting after her. That lust for her (although I never had sex with her) made sex with the girl I was with impossible. I would fantasize about the other girl then instantly feel guilty and lose my erection. And yes I blamed the girl I was with.
So I want you to be aware, there might be another girl in his head.

[BoopBoopBeep]

He sounds closet gay or you're not being honest about yourself. If you're 100lbs overweight then I'm not going to be able to cum with you either. If you're in shape then he's closet.

[socially_confused]

Just ask him what he wants you yo do, and ONLY IF YOU A COMFORTABLE WITH IT, try to do it.

[Paige90]

Do different more extreme sex acts like anal and threesomes.

[Ohhi12345]

Sounds like a medical or psychological thing on his part. The only other possible explanation is -- being brutally honest -- he might not physically attracted to your body or your face. I would say straight up ask him if he has anxiety or ed or something. If he says no, he either has issues he won't work on or you should go find a guy who's attracted to you. I also recommend that every woman actually asks the male friends in her life for a genuine reality check on how hot they are. If your less attractive male friends are the only ones who say you're hot when asked honestly, then that's your league. And if that's the case, that's ok! It's really not the end of the world. I personally am an extremely conceited person who seethes at the fact that I'm not the hottest guy in the world, but you know what? That's on me

[MementoMori777]

try dressing up as something he would like, whatever it may be

[Asker]

I’ve done that plenty , it’s old news now

[MementoMori777]

thats just a sign that y'all fucking too much no lie, maybe slow it down a bit and let the shit build up

[Asker]

We literally never have sex because he’s bored so that can’t be it..

[MementoMori777]

and you sure these aren't just excuses cause he wants to fuck someone else?

[AviatorTom]

Stop giving him blow jobs every night. Back off and let him experience life without you pushing sex all the time.

[Ohhi12345]

Dude what?

[glennos89]

I should be carefull if I were you because it's total bullshit that he can't cum anymore because of you! Don't believe what he says!

I think you should be worried because it's possible he is searching for his sexual needs elsewhere with other woman.

If he can't cum because if you its just because he doesn't like you enough or isn't attracted to you anymore 🤷‍♂️

[Dargil]

Show him the door.

[bowenw]

It sounds like you aren't the problem. You're doing plenty of things that are a turn on. He may be masturbating a lot, cheating, or have a health issue. I would suggest to him that he speaks to his doctor so you can rule out a health issue.

[MikeTheBartender]

What is he asking for? Rimjob?

[stratford]

Unless you are submissive and get off on that, perhaps you should be more dominant and limit his access to you and the pleasures you give him. Make him work for it more, and only bring the kinky stuff out when he has earned it.

Have you tried anal, throat fucking or cum facials?

[BarryLiverstone]

Plan a weekend trip to some where new. Sounds like after four years together things are a bit stale. So if you all go on an adventure you can reconnect romantically

[Wise4myage]

Time to dump his sorry ass.

[Asker]

Why? I do love him and it’s a long relationship 4 years and we live together so I don’t want to lose all that

[DextroShade]

You are either fat or he is in the closet.

[Asker]

I’m not fat I’m actually cute enough I can send you proof

[DextroShade]

I will take you at your word, so it sounds like there is something wrong with him. He's either gay, impotent, or a pervert so you should get out of this before it blows up in your face. You should have plenty of other options.

[ButthurtGAGpeople1]

Could be ED. Does he watch porn?

[Juxtapose]

Get another guy.

[Surely]

If you are everything that he says you are not. I would ask him why he still stays in your company. No long term relationship to be had with his attitude. Move on!

[boobliker]

I think I would cum in your mouth if you don it to me
do nothing one night and see what he is like the next day it has always worked for me in the past
and look I am 68 and my SO swallowed me up this morning

[Kelly6]

i think he needs more extreme kinky things,

beach sex, hotel sex , outdoor sex

[B4851]

Don't like seeing relationships go bad, but that's certainly not a good situation. However sounds like he's having the problem because you sound like you're eager to please him and try new things. So definitely something going on with him.

[Pterodon]

He’s probably addicted to porn is the real reason

[Zlantur2]

Actually you should leave him. Girls that teased and do all that every day to their men should be worshipped and fucked every day. Find someone who appreciates your efforts.

[Darryl1057]

Toss him out

[Anonymous]

I also vote to dump him. I've dated guys who made me feel not good enough in some way or another, and it has not been good for my self- esteem. Your boyfriend is constantly making you feel like you're not enough (not sexy enough, not kinky enough, etc.), and you've probably pushed yourself out of your own comfort zone trying to make him happy. Find the guy who wants you for you. They do exist. I've been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years now and he has never once made me feel like I wasn't enough.

[Anonymous]

Seems like you’re doing everything right and he’s lucky to be getting Bjs every night. I wish I could but I think the problem is him because maybe he’s just not into you anymore