Boyfriend said he’s pansexual , how do I handle this?

[JanetMaree]

I don’t know how to fully accept it without feeling like he’s still not honest with me. Like maybe he’s gay and In denial. I’m so confused

[provokeesmokee]

Have you even asked him to explain pansexuality to you?

Gender doesn't matter to him. If anything, that he chose YOU over everyone else is more a positive thing.

Just talk to him, or admit you're homophobic, dump him, and let him be with someone who ISN'T homophobic.

[JanetMaree]

Not being comfortable with something and being homophonic are two different things. Smh.

[JanetMaree]

Homophobic*

[Lliam]

Oh, @provokeesmokee, you are soooo woke. LOL Accusing someone who is heterosexual, excuse me, "cis-gender", of being homophobic. Could you be a bigger, judgmental ass hole?

[provokeesmokee]

@JanetMaree nah, in your case they're the same thing. You're automatically jumping to "omg my boyfriend is gay" when he literally told you what his orientation is. You're fearful and uncomfortable of something you don't even understand. That is, by it's very definition, phobic. Just because he's attracted to many different genders, or doesn't care about gender, doesn't mean he automatically doesn't care about you. You're projecting your insecurities onto his sexuality. Just talk to him, or admit to him you can't handle talking about sexuality and let him go so he can be with someone more mature.

[provokeesmokee]

@Lliam Cisgender doesn't mean heterosexual, you idiot, lol. Cisgender isn't even about sexuality! 🤣 A heterosexual can be cis or trans. Heterosexual means you're attracted to the opposite gender. Maybe learn the language if you wanna try insulting people, m'kay? Lol.

[Lliam]

@provokeesmokee. Why would you even WANT to be educated on this trending weirdness that is being manufactured and up graded constantly to "normalize" every variety of sexual kink? Were you indoctrinated in some gender studies course? Are you immersed in the LGBTQI+ community? Do you consider it your duty as a woke as possible? Isn't it ironic that your "education" has made you heterophobic (uncomfortable and hostile toward those who aren't sexually attracted to alphabet kinks and genders)?

[provokeesmokee]

@Lliam Why do I want to understand more about human sexuality, gender, and our experience and expression of both? Because learning stuff is fun and easy? And understanding other humans is beneficial to me in interacting with them. How is it "trending" or "manufactured" when homosexuality and third gender identities have not only existed for all of human history, but even within the animal kingdom you see homosexuality? None of this is new, or made up, or even a sexual kink. If it were, you dating a girl would be considered "a kink". It ain't. Like, bud, have you never had sex? Do you consider sex on a futon in "couch mode" to be "freaky"? If same sex attraction registers to you like some unholy carnal desire, dude... Your porn searches have got to be more vanilla than a Bridezilla wedding cake. 🤣 Weird you assume I'm heterophobic when I literally spent yesterday with two cishet friends and we watched movies together, lol. Oh nooo, I'm so phobic I like spending time with straights. You might wanna take a few breaths and remember there's no shame in learning things. You *did* go to school, right? You remember learning can be fun?

[YesterdaysChild]

Throw him in a pan and put it on high. You will wind up with a hot guy.

[Lliam]

Are you okay having a boyfriend who isn't heterosexual? He likes dudes, so he's either gay or bi. Ewwww, ick!
Find a man. Let him find romance with an LGBTQII++

[JanetMaree]

I really care about him. I wouldn’t care if he’s bi.

[JanetMaree]

Hopefully he’s honest and not just gay is my problem

[Ironic_Method]

Would you feel the same way if he said he was bi? I just feel like you're making an issue where there isn't one here.

[JanetMaree]

He just sounds confused to me is the problem

[JanetMaree]

And for some reason yes I rather he be bi at least that make more sense

[HelpfulWoman]

if you're already jumping to "oh he must be gay", leave him. He deserves better and to have someone who understands him better.

[Lliam]

What would you call it other than gay or bi? He certainly isn't heterosexual. So what heterosexual would want him. He needs to find an LGBTQII+++ to be romantic with.

[HelpfulWoman]

@Lliam because a pansexual isn't attracted to the gender of it. And she didn't say bisexual, which if you want to be black and white and a simpleton, would probably be the appropriate label. "Pansexuality is sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people of all genders, or regardless of their sex or gender identity."

[HelpfulWoman]

I see from other replies that you are just a homophobe anyway, so apologies that I wasted effort replying to you. Have a good day!

[Gent207-2]

Just run

[artgorgeous]

So.. can he like.. fuck dogs also?

[JanetMaree]

Wtf don’t disrespect him like that. Get your ignorant self off here stop trolling and get a life. Loser.

[artgorgeous]

But isn't this a pansexual thing?

[artgorgeous]

Oh, sorry. I probably need to go to the university an take a gender study degree.

[JanetMaree]

Dude just keep swiping on tinder and keep paying for gold weekly services you can’t even get women lmao. It’s ok you slow I’ll give you a pass lol

[artgorgeous]

I removed tinder account 2 weeks ago. I keep swiping on here.

[exitseven]

What kind of pan does he like to use?

[Alex-Snow]

I would ask him what he wants out of the relationship. Have you two had sex? Is he interested in that even?

[Al_Musafir]

Ditch him.

[BigDog1989]

He likes everything, he doesn't jusge. Something well should be more willing to do