Boyfriend said I’m Boring in sex should I not have sex with him anymore and break up?

Question

We unfortunately in a hotel tonight if not I would go home rn but is 3;31am and is not safe. We had some drinks and I introduced him to this new Netflix show. He really enjoyed it. A few times the internet went out and he would get bother bc he wanted to watch the show. A few minutes passed and we started to have sex. Then we stopped because he started to sweat.

Usually we only have sex on the weekend so I expect him to be hard rock and bust on me but no he never does. I told him how we don’t have sex on week and if he really not having sex with someone else he should be busting when he first have sex with me on the first round. He was bothered and didn’t say much. He tried to make an excuse and said we stopped sec bc he was sweating. Then after a while he called me boring.

I don’t consider myself Boring but I will give you the same energy I receive. I enjoy sex toys and giving him blow Jobs and foreplay but most of the time he just want stick it in and fuck me and cum. So who the real Boring one? I feel confused should I just end things with him?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I've answered questions on here before and the guy was complaining about his girlfriend being boring was no good at sex and I told him to stop they said you're the boring one because you don't know how to have sex because if you knew what you were doing you would be teaching her how to do it he would be telling her what you like you would be showing her what you like you would be making it all about her and making her go crazy and if you make her go crazy she's going to want it all the time so stop calling your girlfriend boring because she's not you are it's your job to get her up quit being selfish and only thinking of yourself if I was you that's what I would tell your boyfriend because that's the truth right there there's no such thing as boring sex especially when you have two people doing it and to be honest with you all you need is one person doing it LOL I look at it like this if I do it right there's going to be nothing boring about anything because I'm going to be making it all about you I'm going to be taking you there where I want to take you so you can experience something beautiful that's what you should be doing but he's being selfish

Effably · Accepted Answer

You both seem toxic. But that doesn't suddenly make your accusations or logic okay. In fact I feel you were worse. Looksie:

Accusing him for things like how hard or not he is, is as if he was to stand there and complain about how wet or tight you are. It may be true, but its horrible bedside manners.

You accused him of not being hard enough. Not coming hard enough and cheating. He retaliated and called you boring. It is childish to lash back at you, but certainly it is very understandable that he did? And if this is how things between you usually go I understand if he is just trying to finish things fast. I also feel a simple boring is not as bad as the other three. While of course none of it should have happened but its really on you.

Aaaaand as a little tip on male physiology. Only weekends does not make us harder. In fact limiting sex to once or twice a week will make it more difficult for a normal guy to get erect. More sex = more erections, within reason. If you up that count to 3-4 days a week instead he'll likely perform better.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I believe when a person really loves someone, there's no such thing as "boring sex" lol. He should've been a gentleman and guided you.

And no foreplay or anything? What he's doing to you is considered the boring one. 😝 Sis, do you really want that?

CA4444 · Accepted Answer

I think you may have hurt him by saying that and so he replied this… so you are a bit hurt but he was probably way more hurt by your comments this wasn’t very tactful I’d say….. he will not forget if you don’t discuss this with him

Honest-Matt · Answer

"I told him how we don’t have sex on week and if he really not having sex with someone else he should be busting when he first have sex with me on the first round."

You literally judge and insult him in something that is an intimate vulnerable. Saying a guy should be able to cum is expecting you to cook and clean without question. Instead of matching HIS energy, give YOUR energy into the sex and put in some effort, flip the script.

Freiburger · Answer

You criticised his performance and he got defensive and blamed you. I would break it off for both your sakes as you clearly lack chemistry, but for the record this is an "everyone sucks here" situation.

Berethor · Answer

He use it as excuse, if you feel very insulted by that then maybe you should leave him.

WhitneySnow · Answer

He sounds awful. Like he doesn’t care about your feelings at all. I’d break up with him.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

Sis, just dump him. Who the heck wants to be called/treat like that.

Th3ft · Answer

Sounds like it!

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No, don't end things, just be more communicative and assertive about things you want in bed. I know that a lot women like to give the energy they recieve, but it's very difficult for men to gauge how receptive you are to certain sexual activities. The man has to know that you want him to push the boundaries a little before he will feel comfortable pushing.

JPresidente · Answer

Dude should have put it a different way. You could probably overlook this now but if he continues with his rude behavior, I’d move on.

Havthrills · Answer

Kind of sounds like you already know the answer. You feel insecure with having sex with him, and he blamed you. So I would break it off.

HaveNoName · Answer

He is probably watching too much porn... or he is studying Kamasutra and wants you to stand upside down on one middle finger while he bangs you with his dick folded back between his legs as if he is banging you with his ass.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I would be real insulted by that and break up with him.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I’d probably break that off. I dated one girl for a while that would probably say I was boring. But she wanted it so rough and hard and fast…. Like, hard…. But I gave it to her that way but it just seemed like a chore.

Twalli · Answer

Ask him how you can make sex more interesting for him.

jimmy2 · Answer

Wow you are sweet loving woman to your man

J3LueMooN · Answer

Drinking kills your sex life.

tobr83 · Answer

Honestly I would 1. I would break up with this guy as you shouldn't be treated like that or 2. if you don't want to break up when he wants sex just start saying im not in the mood and deny sex to him