Boyfriend says he prefers to be the one pleasing me during sex?

[almondmilklatte]

We haven’t had sex yet. He says that he likes kissing me to make ME feel good, and says that he wants to go down on me to please me.

This makes me feel like he isn’t attracted to me, since it implies that he only wants to hookup to make me happy, and not himself.

Does this mean he isn’t sexually attracted to me? Do I not turn him on?

He’s super amazing and considerate but this makes me feel insecure.

[arianna2005]

Well if that is what you feel you should talk to him about it but I actually went through the same thing and he assured me it's to make me feel comfortable and loved this is prob his way that he wants to make you feel comfortable and even tho he doesn't say it pleases him too it obviously will but for that both of you need to be comfortable so he is probably just trying to be loving

[almondmilklatte]

We’re you worried that he wasn’t attracted to you? That’s how I feel because I’m used to guys being more forward

[arianna2005]

No but I was confused bc I wanted him to tell me he feelt good. Which I brought up with him. He probably feels pleasure giving you pleasure.

[arianna2005]

Not everyone is going to tell you things straight forward and that can confuse us because we aren't sure how they feel but they can't exactly read our minds either but I assure you he probably just has the intention in getting you comfortable and feelings loved

[Anonymous]

I'm instantly suspicious of these kinds of guys who all they want to do it "please you." It's very creepy and it's too much. Just have sex and enjoy it.

[20yearsolder]

You're not very good at reading a guy are you? Some guys are givers, they want to give pleasure. They do it to people that they care about. He wants to lick your pussy and listen to you moan and feel your hips thrusting while he eats you out.

[Sixgunsound]

Don’t ever let him go or even tell your friends about him. So many people are selfish in bed. If he wasn’t attracted to you he wouldn’t be wasting his time with you. Is there any reason not to believe him or take his words at face value?

[Th3ft]

How in the world did you come to that conclusion?… he wants to eat you out; that means he is very attracted to you. He wants to pleasure you with his tongue as well as his dick.

[nomandik]

Then just let him please you let him hump you if that's what he wants even if you're not getting orgasm just let him it's in his mind it's not about you getting orgasm it's about him getting orgasm anyways so

[Iron_Man]

If he wasn’t attracted to you why would he offer that? Maybe he just wants to have intercourse after marriage. But at the age of 18 most couples aren’t thinking like that getting married so young

[almondmilklatte]

He does want to have sex but wants to please me only

[Iron_Man]

He wants to have sex but yet he doesn’t have sex but he wants to go down on you this doesn’t make sense I can see if he wanted to wait till marriage but I don’t understand this thinking

[Iron_Man]

Maybe he has ED problems that he needs to straighten out with the doctor

[almondmilklatte]

I never said he didn’t want to have sex?

[almondmilklatte]

We’re 18 and haven’t been official for that long

[Iron_Man]

I said he wants to have sex but doesn’t have sex with you. Anyway this is not really my topic I don’t like these questions I don’t even have sex myself And you really should wait till marriage anyway

[Keepitreal007]

This means he’s more attracted to you. If all he wanted was you to please him then I’d worry and tell you to run. The fact he wants to please you is a good sign.

[Tztop2006]

Most guys don't care about a girls pleasure so he wants you to know he does. Like me I hate bjs but like eating pussy, doesn't mean I like the girl any less just bjs don't get me off, but a girl squirming does

[Twalli]

If he wants to pleasure you, he is attracted to you.

[shanshu]

Believe me you have a good one there, a guy who just wants to make you happy and please him and not thinking about himself., He is attracted to you and cares, if he didn't then it would just be a warm bam thank you.

If he want to take the time to get you off then you've got a keeper

[Paul09]

Maybe you should be happy about that. A lot of men, especially young men are very selfish.

[OnTheLevel]

You are WAY overthinking this. Just enjoy him pleasing you.

[LaMiSch]

You over think that definitely. There are many men who would rather make women sexually happy than themselves, and there are many men who love to please a woman orally.

[Anonymous]

i don't like getting blowjobs they physically hurt to much i'd rather eat a woman's pussy out suck on her clit lick her labia lick her g-spot and tongue fuck her wet insides then get a blowjob

[Anonymous]

He's a fool.