Boyfriend says I’m too timid sexually?

He says I’m shy and timid because I don’t want to meet other guys for sex. His kink is cuckhold/Hotwife. Basically finds it hot if I went to bang other dudes or blowjobs and took videos that he can watch.

He’s also into gangbangs so I suggested a threesome or gangbang with him there cause I would want him to be with me if I meet guys. But he’s not into that he says it’s hotter to do things alone. Should I just try it once? I feel so weird and almost unsafe meeting guys alone..

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  • I don't think you should feel compelled to do these things he wants. He basically wants to convert you into a slut and does not care about you - only his fetish satisfaction. Possibly there might be risk for you.

    An important point is subsequent boyfriends will probably not like that you have done these things. Most guys want to be confident in their girl's fidelity cause they don't want to raise another man's child.

    If you have done gangbangs I think they will have issues with it. You could say you were forced too but I don't think it will make it much better. Do you have ambitions of being a wife someday?

    It doesn't sound like you have much desire to do this, so don't let him make you. Get a normal boyfriend.

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  • The way I see it he shouldn't be pressuring you into anything you aren't comfortable to do. Him saying your timid etc almost seems as if he is trying to guilt you into it.

    You could say to him that at first you want him to be involved when with another guy then as you potentially get more comfortable then move onto the next part of him just watching etc.

    You need to ensure you are happy and if he trys to pressure you into anything is a red flag and is something that would only continue in the future.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Oh no, that’s not nice! He doesn’t seem to be respecting your boundaries. Also, him saying you’re ‘too timid’ is manipulative/guilt tripping. You aren’t ‘too’ anything and shouldn’t be made to feel like you are. There’s nothing wrong with you or your preferences. You shouldn’t feel pressured to do something you aren’t comfortable with, please don’t do it if you don’t want to! He should respect that.

  • he sounds like a bonafide pervert... now if he wanted blowjobs from you that's much different... but he's wanting all these outrageousl perverted things... has nothing to do with being shy and timid.

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  • Wow that just sounds horrible the fact that he doesn't mind watching you with other men might as well be single. Plus it's also not safe at all to meet other guys and you risk getting all sorts of STD's and unexpected pregnancy just wrong in every way.

  • Just no pressure and no using. Do what you feel and like with no pressure.. Not accepting because of only demanding

  • If you are intrigued by the idea of what he's suggesting it may be worth trying so you know for sure if you like it. I think it's best if he is with you to make the videos and keep you safe.

  • Your guy is disgusting.

  • He's gonna keep using you until you're all used up. Keep staying in that relationship don't be surprised if it ends ugly for you, get out while you can.

  • Porn ruined his life and he can't accept reality, so just break up with him and find a guy who isn't stuck in "Pornville"

  • You should find a new boyfriend if you don't like where he wants to take you sexually. Being a hotwife/hot girlfriend requires a mindset that enjoys what it entails, and if you don't, "trying it" isn't going to make you like it. Find someone else.

  • I agree, this guy is a pig, so don’t do anything yiu don’t feel comfortable with.

  • Hmm, I guess it can't hurt to try. If you like it then you two should be all set. Just set up some ground rules. If you don't like it, then you are going to have to tell him and have a talk with him about it.

  • no guy should pressure you into doing something sexual you aren't comfortable doing. if he doesn't take no for an answer... well you may want to have a serious talk with him about how this isn't cool.

  • you need to break up with him immediately.

    • lol why? We’ve been together 4 years don’t really want to

    • he doesn't respect you. Let me ask you this. If he had a fleshlight would he let another guy borrow it?

  • No, you should not. I'm also into cuckolding and have lived the lifestyle. It's not something you should do against your will or because you feel pressure from your boyfriend. The desire should come from yourself, otherwise it's frankly more like your boyfriend is a Dom that's pimping you put.

    It's supposed to be because you want to, when it suits you and with whoever you want to do it with.

  • It doesn’t sound like you’re sexually compatible

  • its your personal choice follow your heart not his.

  • doesn't sound like a big deal to me, indulge in hi fantasies and then he indulges in yours.