Boyfriend stuck his finger in my anus without asking?

im in a recent relationship with 3 months, we are only just after having sex and I was telling him I never done anal before, a while past he was meant to be just fingering me and he ended up doing my anus like I think its disrespectful not to ask, or am I thinking to much into it?
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  • I think your thinking into it too much. If your having sex sometimes partners will slip a finger in the butt to stimulate you more. I’ve done it and it for sure turned on my partner more. Didn’t ask because we were already having sex. I then asked for her to do the same me to up the mood.

    • Oh if you never had anal before then yeah he should respect you and ask first. I didn’t see that part. My partners have done it so they expect some rear play. My case was different, sorry.

  • It's borderline in my book. Did you ask him to stop? If so, did he?

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  • You are definitely thinking too much. Sounds like he was trying to give you pleasure. It's not something all girls like but some do.
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  • In the heat of the moment, maybe he wanted to be adventurous. If it bothered you say something.

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  • After sex you tell him, you never done anal before. Sounds like you left it open ended, something you might be open to

    • I had told him I never did it and said I didn't want to do it that day

    • Then i slap him and ask what were you thinking, he says something tell him you don't do that

  • He needs to understand your boundaries. That was highly disrespectful. If he does it again, you might want to withdraw from this relationship. There will be more this boundary jumping to come.

    • Especially if you TOLD him you didn't want to do that... He was out of line.

    • She didn't want to do anal, a finger in your ass is nothing like anal.

    • @Twalli Finger in your ass is putting something in your anus. And he even SAID he was only going to put finger in your vag, then sneaked it in... He ain't right... Crossing lines...

  • Nope run girl

  • Rape! Rape! Rape!!!

  • As long a’s he didn’t lick h
    Is fingers afterwords and
    Ask for 2nds, it’s ok

  • That is disrespectful

    • like that isn't caring for someone is it?

    • He should’ve asked first

    • She told him she didn't want to do it at that precise time... I stand by disrespectful... pushy...

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  • lots of people like bum stuff, if you're not about it, just tell him not to do it. nothing wrong with that, unless he keeps doin it I guess

  • If you don't or didn't articulate it as a limit, I'm not sure that respect has anything to do with it

  • Yes you are overthinking it you do need to let him know if you don’t like it lol

  • no it wasn't disrespectfull. he was trying tuff out and one finger is really noting outrageous. if you don't want it, say stop. if he doesn't stop, that's problematic but as is, that's normal.

  • Drama queen

    • I had told him I never did it and said I didn't want to do it that day

  • Well did you like it?

  • Talk to him. I've done it a million times without asking but I see your point

  • It's disrespectful not to ask if you think it is. Not every woman feels the way you do, and some expect men to be more aggressive in the bedroom.

    Perhaps your partner has had more experience with another girl like that, and assumed you were the same.

    He was wrong to assume, so don't be to hard on him. But tell him firmly that you expect him to ask permission before trying anything new, especially with your anus.

    It's your absolute right.

  • It means you were sexually assaulted.

  • it was.

  • Lmao GOT EM!

  • You're thinkig too much into it.

    Besides, it's your duty to provide him pleasure so just shut up and let him fuck your ass properly

  • I guess he wanted to surprise you and see if you liked it, next time surprise him with you sticking your finger up his anus

    • I said that to him, that I’ll do it to him next time and he goes you won’t be

    • What does that mean? He will get you first or you won’t get a chance?

    • Ya I goes to him if you stick your finger up my ass I’ll do it baxk to you and he said no you won’t I won’t let you

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  • not good. not good

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