Boyfriend suddenly won't have sex with me without a condom?

[christine940000]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months. When we first started dating we would use condoms because I wasn't on any birth control. But I then got on birth control, and after a few months into the relationship we stopped using condoms. We have a very active sex life and would have sex without condoms ALL the time. He would never cum inside me he would just pull out. Now, all of a sudden, my boyfriend won't have sex with me without one. He says it makes him "uncomfortable and uneasy" but I don't get how we had sex so so many times without one and it didn't bother him then. Just last night I wanted to have a quickie (like we've done so many times before) but he turned me down because we didn't have a condom, and it kind of led to a fight because I just feel like something is going on, he knows I use my birth control religiously so I don't get why this is all of a sudden a concern. Should I be worried? Thoughts?

[ThinkingHead]

That's peculiar. I think the key indicator, though, is that he would never cum inside you. Us guys love that freedom. And CONDOMS make me uncomfortable and uneasy, and since he will no longer have sex with you without one, perhaps one of these two instances apply; (1) he absolutely will not risk fathering a child with you, or (2) he has learned something about his sexual health and he is protecting you.

Do you know anything about his desires to be a parent one day? Have you ever touched upon the subject of a future with you? Could he be bisexual?

Something is not right.

[christine940000]

We always talk about getting married and eventually have kids one day. I'm only 20, he's 23 so that would be a few years down the line, but we have talked about it.

[ThinkingHead]

Well, that's a good indicator that he's not withholding because he couldn't possibly see you as the mother of his child. Therefore, I would sit down with him and ask him about it. Tell him that you think that condoms are an unnecessary barrier to your intimacy and you want to give him and yourself the pleasure of his release inside you. Being in an exclusive relationship affords that level of intimacy and it's something you really want... and then ask the big question: "is there a reason you are uneasy about releasing inside me?" Being that frank about it should evoke a true and direct response, and from there, hopefully you can settle it and enjoy sex again. Good luck!

[ThinkingHead]

I was going to PM you with a further private thought, so message me if you're interested.

[Regnatrix]

This all seems so sudden, for him to go from being confident to paranoid Something happened to him that made condoms seem like a top priority. Perhaps he looked at some pregnancy articles or overheard someone who didn't use a condom, had their partner use birth control and still got pregnant.

Try talking to him about it. I think its wise to use a condom for extra protection but if you've been having sex the smart way before without him using one, why change it? :3

[PinkAcid]

all i can think of is that either he doesn't trust you any more (maybe his friends/family/looked through your phone/watched a tv show where someone accidentally got pregnant whilst on birth control or your behaviour) or he is cheating on you and is paranoid about giving you an std and you going to the drs, finding out about it and working out that he must have cheated on you.

[gray_sailor]

The first thing I thought was "I wonder if her bf thinks he might have an STD." Wanting a condom would protect you but you should know if it's true.

Alternatively, there may be a story going around his guy friends that makes him fear getting you pregnant. Some women have faked taking bc pills in order to trick a man into impregnating them.

Have him explain his change to you. You need to know.

[kairon156]

maybe he just want's control over not having a baby. you haven't been talking to him about wanting children have you?

I heard they are going to start human trials on a male birth control that's suppose to be 100% effective and reversible. you could look into that for him.

[againyes]

It's a mind game. He has heard or read about pregnancies that happen anyway and it scared him. That's my take on it.

I wish my lover was as um... frisky as you are!

[ClauseViter]

Why are you so Paranoid. Don't be so Paranoid.
-Kanye West, father of North West.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

The only sensible explanation I have is that he has had sex with someone else and at least suspects he's got an STI so he doesn't want to give it to you.

[Anonymous]

My guess is that he had to hit on you or talk to you first and ask you out first

[Anonymous]

He probably cheated on you and thinks he might have an std.

[Anonymous]

I can't really explain why he wants to not use them, but for me I use them every once in a while with my girl. She's on birth control too and we watch her fertility calendar and the days she is most fertile, we always use a condom, but all the other times, we do not and I don't cum inside of her either. And I can always feel a difference when I'm wearing one and when I'm not. I love it so much better without one too, but she's the boss, so if she wants me to wear one, then I have to! No questions asked! Lol. And I would never turn down sex!!!

[Anonymous]

He's getting smarter.