Boyfriend upset we didn’t have sex?

It was past 10 pm and we were texting and then he got horny and asked me to come out in the middle of the night to have sex. I didn’t do it because it was late and I was getting ready for bed. Does he have a right to be upset?
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Superb Opinion

  • It was late and you were tired. There is no reasonable expectation for you to be at his sexual beck and call. You can get some sleep, and he can jackoff.

    By the way, my testosterone level is 700 ng/dL, which is considered near optimal.

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  • No he does not.

    it’s your body and not his.

    there is a thing called respect, by getting upset he is showing you lack of respect over your decision and also that it’s your choice.

    he needs to grow up.

    • @ Pretty Pink Anon, thank you most appreciated

Most Helpful Girls

  • That is a pretty dumb thing to be upset about. Furthermore him being upset doesn’t make you want to have sex with him. He is cockblocking himself.

    • Literally!! Spot on answer!!

  • Why didn’t he just come to you if he wanted it so badly?

    • No he said he’d book a room, but I couldn’t be fucked glint at 10 pm. I wasn’t horny and I’d need to shave my legs etc etc and it wasn’t worth it that late at night when I had to get up early the next day. So inconsiderate too of him tbh.

    • Going*

    • I get it. Yeah, he could have been a lot more understanding there.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • No, just because he asks for sex doesn't mean he's going to get it every time he wants it. And, honestly, if he's upset about that it's kind of a red flag to me.

  • I'm sure he was horny but a little planning would have helped. I'm sure he just jerked off instead. Maybe next time he will discuss it with you ahead of time. Why do you have to go to him? If he wants sex can't he come over to your place?

    • I still live with my parents

    • Ah haaaa that complicates things.

  • He was horny so he expected you to go to HIM in the middle of the night? The term 'selfish prick' springs to mind.

  • His being upset about that is a him problem. You were perfectly justified in saying no.

  • well that just probably gave him more to work with when he pounded out his problem that night

  • No, he doesn't. Even if it wasn't late, even if you wouldn't have had to drive over, he doesn't get sex just because he wants it. Part of respecting "no means no" is not guilt-tripping your partner for turning you down, he should know that.

    • Very low testosterone answer..

    • @Mark-IV oh so sorry I'm not a shithead who pouts because I didn't get my dick wet

    • @mark-iv You’re guaranteed an incel

  • No, tell him to take a cold shower.

  • Sounds like he’s got a small dick

    • He doesn’t, but why do you say that?

    • He probably doesn’t get sex elsewhere which is why he’s upset. I’ve seen this situation before. I bet he’s 3 inches MAX

    • DUH I am his girlfriend dumb shit and he’s much bigger than 3 inches the fuck

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  • Booty calls are so juvenile. SMH.

    No; he doesn't. He has zero right to be upset. If he wanted to have sex with you, he should have planned it in advance like a normal human being.

    • Agreed

  • sex is your obligation to him. he has every right to be upset.

    • Okay incel

  • Yeah, he was. As it is with women, that can be dangerous for some people too. You have to watch out, especially if you’re in person with someone. Some people will hurt you physically if they get all worked up and then get denied.

  • He has no right

  • But would you have done it if he drove over to your place? He just sounds like he’s too cheap to pay for the gas to drive over there.

    • No he’s not like that. He knows not to drop by unless I tell him so

  • No. He waited too long.

  • A right? Since when is it a right?

  • I would have dumped you right then and there.

  • Nope he doesn’t because it’s not right to except someone to drop everything in the middle of the night just to satisfy him.

  • No. He has no right or reason to be upset.

  • You should talk politely at that time.

  • You can't stop him from being disappointed, but he should respect your decision and not pout about it. If he's horny he can watch porn or fantasize about you and jerk off.

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