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Boyfriend used to last in bed but now can’t?

When we first used to have sec my boyfriend could last a good 25-30 minutes in bed but now it’s honestly no more than a few minutes and that’s interrupted constantly with multiple positions. It’s sooo frustrating for me because just as I start to get a nice rhythm going and on the way to an orgasm he cums. It completely kills my vibe and I feel so unsatisfied and constantly hungry for more.

I masturbate to porn when he’s in the shower because I’m so sexually frustrated. I don’t know wtf happened but this was never an issue at the start for months. But now two years in I feel rushed to orgasm and often can’t because I feel time pressured so I can’t even relax. HELP please 😫😫

I love the sex itself and his dick feels so nice but just never ever enough

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  • I don't know why the change from 25-30 to just a couple of minutes. You may want to consult a urologist.
    Have you had a heart to heart with him about this? What does he say about it? When I was young I'd cum way too fast and then I spoke to an porn actor who happened to be the college roommate of my uncle. He taught me a method the porn actors use for lasting longer. Simply he said that a the speed at which a man cums is tied to how excited he is. First you assign a number system to your excitement level. 1 being none and 10 being orgasm. When you start having sex, when his excitement level climbs to a seven, he should slow down until it drops below five, then he can speed up again. Once that is going really well, he can start to push it to #8 and follow the same process. Over time he'll be able to last as long as he wants (within reason). It may take a few weeks of 'training', but it's obvious you love him, so if he's game, you got nothing to lose.

    You can be on top but he has to tell you when he reaches 7 so you can slow down. I can't make promises but for me and a few weeks of daily practice, ti changed my sex life significantly for the better! I was finally able to fuck her until she... asked me to stop.

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  • It’s hard to tell why. If he’s getting out of shape, his endurance could suffer. It could be that you have gotten used to each other and it’s easier for him to orgasm with you. It could be that he’s getting lazy in bed.

    Have him give you oral first and don’t give him as much foreplay. The lack of stimulation and being aroused for awhile before penetration should extend the amount of time he lasts during penetration. Also, he can do things mentally like silently recite the alphabet backwards to distract himself. It also helps to remember to breathe.

    • Omg yessss he used to train a lot but now nothing at all. Definitely the muscle tone in the lower body has decreased. This really helped!!!

Most Helpful Girl

  • Same but it was cause of our bed it had dimples so he could never get comfy!

    My advice is maybe see why he is changing! What he feels to cum and don't let him have that!

    Try oral or rubbing him with porn earlier so he lasts longer! My sister had to do that her man was a 2 pump and done man lmao!

    What porn is your frustrated fav? I have some I use when my man is to tired from work but I need something with my butterfly sucker toy! She is amazing!

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Is he getting fat is he getting lazy because that's usually what happens with guys they're in it to win it at first and they want to please you so they're going to do whatever it takes but then time goes on the guy starts getting out of shape and doesn't want to work hard anymore send you to the Moon so they become selfish wham bam thank you man and it's over and you're still laying there as he's getting up and you're going where you going and he says I'm finished and you say WTF what you didn't even start he says oh yes I did and I'm finished they're lazy and it gets worse from there because pretty soon they don't want to do anything except for sit on the couch they'll watch p*** for a few minutes they're ready for a nap he needs to get back in shape

  • he could masturbate less. if you guys used protection in the past but don't know it can certainly change the ability to last long.

    i think i may find a delicate way to ask him. just say is there something different about what you two used to do compared to now

  • Maybe he's so turned on that he can't keep from climaxing.

    • This could be the case. Our relationship has gotten a lot stronger since then and we’ve gotten a lot closer emotionally. But What can I do to slow this down?

  • Breakout the toys & have your minute man tickle your taco after he cheeses.

  • Point is eroding your sex life and soon your relationship

  • You should have him give you multiple orgasms orally first and get you half there again orally just before he slides into you.

  • I don't blame you, one reason my ex left me is because I couldn't last long enough. I understand your frustration.

    • Sometimes I get upset like does he not care but is it genuinely a completely involuntary thing? I really wanna understand and work on it !!!

    • My ex knew what turned me on. She would clench her vaginal muscles on my boner and I couldn't resist that, I would just explode. She was just too kind, I felt... She wanted to give me pleasure but I had a lot of trouble controlling my orgasms and waiting for her. What's the minimum time do you think a guy should last? I agree that I guy should work with his girl so she can get satisfaction too.

    • I think 115 minutes is so good honestly. Nice amount. Maybe you could focus all your efforts on her pleasure at the start and make sure she’s soooo turned on before you put it in. That way she climaxes first and then it’s your turn.

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  • Can you give him a handjob first... that might slow him down a bit? Maybe have him give you an oral orgasm first? How often are you two having sex? Maybe increase the frequency?

    • It’s usually head first then sex. I have never gotten head from anyone and the lack of foreplay for me and the foreplay for him just makes him cum as I’m getting warmed up. It’s hard for me to let go of control and just let someone go down on me but maybe this is something I need to work on

    • Does he go for round 2 or 3? Have or teach him how to give you some oral. How old is he?

    • Oral on you is a must. It's the easiest way to get a woman off if you can't last long in bed.

  • Visit a doctor with him, this is not healthy.

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