Boyfriend wants to have sex, but I'm nervous about the appearance of my vaginal area. What can I do to help not feel like that?

Just like in the title I feel like my vagina isn't attractive. My inner labia is a little longer then the outer, it isn't cute in my opinion and has made me shy away from being intimate with every guy I've been with. Has any guy been with a girl like that? Or maybe a girl who is kinda the same?
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Well he's seen it, tasted it, and touched it since I last asked this question. Today is the day we decided to try and have sex. I'm pretty excited for it and scared at the same time.
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  • Every woman is unique and WONDERFUL in her own way!! I haven't been with many, but I have been with one that was pretty much like you!!
    She was afraid, because she wasn't like the horribly mutilated, cosmetically altered porn types!! That is just NASTY and disgusting, that anyone would let someone cut, and change their natural body, because some think it looks more appealing!
    How messed up, is that?
    I think of women's labia, like the wings of beautiful butterflies. SERIOUSLY!
    Maybe your 'wings' are just barely showing, with the outer 'cocoon' kind of hiding them.
    What happens, when you are really feeling sexy, and maybe thinking about that special person? They get more sensitive, maybe redder, maybe a little bigger.
    Sit, facing a mirror, and look at how beautiful you are, and maybe open the 'cocoon' a bit, and let your beautiful butterfly wings show, like they really should. See how beautiful they are, like a Butterfly!
    If you can't love your body, and don't feel confident, in it's natural beauty, how can you trust anyone else to?
    So much, so sensitive, and with the right companion, that loves to share that, and find your special places, with the best feelings. Find that special companion, and just relax!

  • Of course; lots of guys have been with women like that, as lots of women look like that.

    Vaginas come in a multitude of appearances, and yours is perfectly normal. They all feel the same for the guy, and they all give the same pleasure for the woman. They all taste great, too.

    Plus, your inner labia being longer means that it will glide along the side of his shaft, while he's inside you, so there's a little extra sensation. You have nothing to worry about. 😊

    • Thank you, Thor! You were always my favorite! 😂

    • Haha, well thank you, and you're welcome.

    • Also my boyfriend is kinda in experienced with stuff like sex. Does that matter at all?

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  • It's not gonna matter in the heat of the moment. Go for it.

  • Talk with your boyfriend about this and how you feel. You're not the first girl to have a vagina with longer lips and like everything usually it's not symmetrical. It's completely normal but porn has made it seem like it's not. I'm sure your boyfriend won't care and will just feel lucky to see your most intimate area and play with it.

    You don't need to worry but please express to your boyfriend how you feel so he isn't confused as to why you might behave different.

  • Do you want to have sex? If you aren’t ready you aren’t ready and there is nothing wrong with that. As far as the appearance of your vagina, it’s like they all look slightly different, yet the same at the same time. I think you will be pleasantly surprised that he likes it.

  • Don’t be, just accept it as part of you, be happy with it.

    love it and enjoy it, be confident

    guys really do not care about the appearance of a shop door before going inside.

  • So many of us have been with gals like that and absolutely love it!!! Forget your insecurities. Some guys have a preference against that. Some guys love it! But probably most just don’t notice or care! You are fine! Even better!

  • Yes I have been with a girl like that and both sides were longer way longer than others. She was going through the same thing as you she didn't want to have sex because of it thought you was going to have to become a lesbian because of I reassured her that that's not the case I also read insured that that wasn't or was the reason why I'm taking her I was dating her because I like her I like when she was a person didn't have anything to do with but her p**** look like what you need to do is accept yourself and just go for it game that knowledge in that experience so you understand it more so believe me you're okay I believe you probably a very beautiful person on the inside and also on the outside but experience it with him that way you can understand that that's not why we take girls why we don't date girls

  • I have been. You have nothing to worry about. And mind you, I am obsessed with giving oral so, if I say this, you're good. In fact, there are many men as nd women who prefer elongated labia majora.

  • For some reason, many younger women feel that the vagina should look like a peach... just a crack and the inner lips hidden.
    There are many women who have larger inner lips. There is nothing wrong with it. In fact, there are many men, like me, who love larger inner labia. There are web sites that show and talk about larger inner labia.
    So my advice for you is to know that your kitty is just fine and looks normal and many men would be happy to have you in front of them.
    Relax and enjoy.

    • Why didn't I think of using those websites? 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • I don't know, but they are a good way to see how other women view their body in a positive way.

  • We literally don’t care in the slightest honestly like at all I don’t even remember what the vagina of my last girl I slept with looks like

  • 99% of guys don't care. It's the feeling that matters and not the appearance. I've encountered this and she had big lips. I didn't spend a minute worrying about it. Just forget about it and have fun.

  • Probably most women don't think their vagina is cute. Guys don't care what your vagina looks like, they just want in.

  • Your worry about this is very common these days. My own girlfriend used to feel self conscious about her longer inner labia. But she's not anymore because she learned that her labia are perfectly normal and very common, even to the point of being more common than "innies." (If you're interested I can send you a link to a one page summary of a study on this done by gynecologists.)
    So the key is to realize that it doesn't make any sense to worry about a body part that is perfectly normal. Porn gives a very unrepresentative and inaccurate depiction of what vulvas look like in the real world. And I love the way my girlfriend's vulva looks with her visible inner labia and I wouldn't want it any other way. It's erotically beautiful.

    • I will take you up on that link, I'm quite curious.

    • Here is a link to just ONE study that found that having inner labia that are visible through the outer labia (so-called "outies") is more common than otherwise. But there are others that find the same thing.
      This is a one page "Abstract" (summary) of the study's findings. Scroll down to the "Results" section and you will see that 56% of the women examined by the participating gynecologists had visible inner labia.
      (If the link doesn't work copy and paste it into your URL bar.)

      https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28369012/

    • Thank you!!

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  • Sounds perfect to me, the inner labia is connected to the clit hood so the bigger the better and very nice for when giving oral. Consider yourself lucky to have such an amazing vulva area. I'd love It

    • If you want to chat about it to ensure you feel good about it, feel free to message.

    • I'll keep that in mind. 🤔

    • Don't worry you'll both enjoy it. Don't forget I'm available for you to contact for unbiased support and advice.

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  • My first girlfriend ever, never even let me see her nude... she was super self conscience about it. Always wanted it to be dark.

    Self confidence is a tough one though, often times the only way to get past it, is by doing the thing your afraid of doing.

    I can tell you, your inner labia being a little longer than the outer, would not be a issue for 99% of guys out there.

    Don't be surprised if he just wants to stare at it and study it. Might help you though too, just lay there and let him stare for awhile. You'll get some confidence because he obviously wouldn't stare if he didn't like it.

  • I'm sure he won't mind.

  • All vaginas are unique and beautiful. I'm sure yours is very attractive. It is not uncommon for inner labia to protrude with the added benefit for more to lick and enjoy plus more contact during intercourse. A guy that is into you won't care. If you are feeling bashful dim the lights until you build confidence.

    • Have fun and be yourself.

    • I will! ☺️ Thanks for the advice!

  • Outies are way hotter than innies. There is nothing wrong with you. A pussy should be hot, not cute.

    For me, outies are a way bigger turnon.

    • I got lucky with a few girls who had outies. Not many, tho.

  • He is not going to worry about what your pussy looks like. He is going to be overwhelmed on how good your pussy feels

  • Homie is probably going to be happy he gets to touch a woman. If it’s really that much to you talk with him about it.

  • Why worry it the only one you have.
    Most guys don't even look as long as it feels good.

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