Can a guy be aroused by you but not have feelings for you?

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Sangita93 · Accepted Answer

Yes any guy can feel aroused by any girl without any real attraction or sexual feelings. Because - First things first: Sex means different things to different people, psychologically, mentally and physically. Sex is the ultimate expression of romantic love and intimacy - an emotional roller coaster, or a tension reliever or it can be mix of many more things. It is not necessarily constant, either and it is all perfectly normal, because humans are much more complex than all other lives on the earth.

Women are more expressive about emotions, men have the same or greater physiological response to emotional stressors. This difference is due to the influence of the culture in which we live. We are simply acting on what we are told or taught traditionally is acceptable. But, young generation now believes that whatever your gender and whether you openly express it or not, your emotional response to sex is uniquely yours. Some people require emotional attraction to experience physical attraction, some experience attraction without emotional attraction. Perhaps some guys felt that first twinge of excitement when a girl made them laugh or just look at them, that certain something nobody can put into words, but they know it when it happens.

Nature has designed sex one of the most pleasant and enjoyable activity with a purpose to encourage men and women to produce babies to keep life everlasting on earth. That is why men and women are seeking intimacy. Once their feelings are in the HOT zone, they make an emotional connection; they may begin to feel physical arousal. Outside of that HOT zone, they are just not into sex. They are into making love. For some acting on physical attraction lead to emotional attraction, some people are physically drawn together like magnets. There is a chemical reaction; hormones are on play, a hunger, a purely physical craving for getting physical with another person. It is lust. When the chemistry between people is just right, getting physical can grow into so much more.

There are two areas of the brain that track the progression from sexual desire to love. One is the insula, located in the cerebral cortex. The other is the striatum, located inside the forebrain. Interestingly, the striatum is also associated with addiction. Love and sexual desire activate different parts of the striatum. Sex and food are among the pleasurable things that activate the lust part. The process of conditioning - of reward and value - activates the love part. As sexual desire is rewarded, it becomes a bit of a habit, which can lead them right down the path to love. As feelings of lust start to turn into love, another area of the striatum takes over. But for some, they may find emotional and physical attraction operate in two entirely different vacuums. We are intricate creatures with many layers. For some of us, there are clear dividing lines between emotional attraction and physical attraction. They do not necessarily come together. You might be emotionally attracted to someone without having the slightest sexual urge. Or you have a mind-blowing physical attraction for someone who does not really do it for you emotionally.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

Oh 100%, that’s why hookups, one night stands, and friends with benefits are common lol.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely.

Most men have the ability to separate sex from love/emotional connections, while most women do not. That's why most women have trouble understanding or accepting that men can want them sexually but not having romantic feelings for them - but that's indeed possible and common. Men's sexual interests are NOT limited to their romantic interests, unlike how most women work.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes. That's what we mean by we're visual. A beautiful woman is enough to arouse us sometimes, we don't even have to talk to her or know her at all. Hence strip clubs etc. It's not just that we like to look, it can and does sometimes arouse us physically.

slatyb · Answer

Yes.

AvaOneLasTime · Answer

Obviously.

RealMarek · Answer

Yes, it can be purely physical, so don’t assume that sex is love.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Given that you are a member of the gender that has to put up with so much of this exact kind of poor treatment, I'm surprised that you are even asking this.