Can a man really be just friends with a woman?

Do you think a man and a woman can be just friends? What if the guy is sexually attracted to her? Do you believe no feelings would develop?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's extraordinarily unlikely for a man (and to be clear, we're talking about SINGLE, HETERO men, who aren't good-looking/popular enough to have his choice of women) to truly be "just friends" with a woman. We're talking about a sub-1% chance. And while a lot of women are always focusing on what's POSSIBLE, they should be really focused on what's LIKELY - and being "just friends" with a guy is very, very unlikely.

    I know it's a lot easier for women to be "just friends" with men, but men don't work that way. If there's a girl who is physically attractive, we want to bang her, and if we hang around with her and like her personality, then we want to bang her even more (and sometimes want a relationship with her).

    Just because the guy doesn't ACTIVELY act out on his attraction for her doesn't mean it's not there, and if it's there, then it's going to have an impact on the relationship, and sooner or later, the issue is going to come up directly. A lot of women try to pretend otherwise - in no small part because they stand to benefit by getting a lot of attention and favors from guys they "friend zone" - but if the guy is attracted to the girl, then he cannot be genuinely "just friends" with her. And that's going to be how it is 99+% of the time.

    Sure, they can be colleagues, they can be acquaintances, but they can't be FRIENDS - meaning, they can't be people you hang out with alone, by choice, in your free time. Many women may THINK that a guy they do this with is "just her friend", but I promise you, HE doesn't see it that way, and as long as that's the case, then you aren't just friends.

  • I've had more female friends over the years than male and I can count on one hand how many sexual partners I've had in my lifetime.

    While some friends were attractive, others were not so much, but regardless, friends is where things stayed at for multiple different reasons.

    Sometimes I might think there was more going on but she just wanted to stay as friends. Other times they would come onto me and want something more, but I was already in a relationship and wasn't about to cheat or dump them for no good reason other than "what if."

    But the majority of friends were simply just friends and nothing more.

    So it is possible.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's possible but sometimes unpredictable. I think it depends on their connection and length they've known eachother

  • Yes, I've had plenty of platonic friendships with men over the years.

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  • Yes, a man really can just be friends with a woman. Seriously, my sister is a woman, I have lots of cousins who are also women and I have absolutely no sexual desire for any of them at all and yet, they are all some of my best friends like ever.

  • Maybe in Bizarro World.

  • Yes.

  • The only way a guy can be friends with a girl is if he is gay then he's like another girl.

  • Only if he isn’t sexually attracted to her then yes he can be, but that’s a long shot , most guys that friend a girl secretly want to fuck her , Why it’s best for a girl that’s already in a relationship with some one to limit her friendships with guys out of respect for her partner and vice versa for men as well with girl friends , Main reason I am divorced cuz my exes so called co worker friend that just wanted to be friends with her ended up fucking her and cheating on his wife with her , I busted their asses and was ready to kill , I didn’t go that far but I got some damn good revenge. So out of respect for your partner limit the opposite sex friends , An opposite sex friend will support your relationship , not try to pull you away from it

    • Do you even think that you could keep your self from just fucking any girl who gave you any hint at all that she is more than willing to spread her legs for you. I am so happy to let people know that you are an aberration, and not the norm when it comes to men being able to restrain themselves from just fucking a damn cactus if the opportunity presented itself. With your talk of revenge I take it you feel that someone wronged you for what? What did you do to bring that shit on you. Things like this are generally brought on by idiots who do something and end up with someone seeking revenge on you and then you turn around like the dumb dirt clod you are and "Duh, I'm going to take my revenge on you! Can't think of why... but fuck it you are dead!" You can't even trust women anymore since your dumb ass mind is so fucked up... It would be merciful to put a dog in pain down, don't you think?

    • LOL I was just answering a question but that’s fine you can define it on however you like , I just base my answers off my own experiences and things that I have witnessed through the years so no need to get all butt hurt over it , in most cases guys do want to fuck a girl that they friend , just how it goes , whether they choose to pursue it or not is a whole different story , but in most cases it has crossed the guys mind from shit I experienced and witnessed , So in my personal opinion I say it’s best to limit your friendships with the opposite sex if you are in a relationship out of respect for your partner, but what you choose to do is on you and I don’t give 2 fucks on what you choose to do , I am just saying what I would do in that situation. Your choices are your own consequences

    • Please feel free to imagine that you could actually use your own perspective to project onto everyone else and see them as a mirror reflection of you. Other than the fact that is only how the least developed minds could possibly think... without that sudden light bulb going off and letting you know that we are all unique, think differently, act differently and experience things differently. Granted, this is something that is generally achieved in third grade... did you not make it that far or what? You want to know what is truly funny, is that you actually even remotely think I give a flying fuck about you, what you think or anything about you. Hell, if you were to suddenly disappear from this world, I would not miss you any more than you would miss me. So, get this, you are nothing but a something I ran across that irritated me and I just reflexively jumped and responded to the sheer idiocy that I encountered. Yep, that was all there was to what you had to say... was not looking to make friends or even get to know. I give as much of a fuck about you that you do me, So, let's go our separate ways for now... until you write something I read and reflexibly point it out for the sheer BS it is. Have a nice life.

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  • All my life I have had plenty of female friends who stayed just that. And they had plenty of female friends as well. Life can be really good with friends of your female friends...

  • Well she was my 'friend' but I still wanted to eat her pussy and fuck her, and SHE knew it. We discussed our sex lives, hers and mine, and she masturbated to mine, and I jacked- off to hers. Go figure?

  • I can be friends with one, even while I am single as long as there is something that makes me know we wouldn't be compatible for a long term relationship.

  • Absolutely, I have quite a few

  • The older I get the more I don’t think so. Acquaintances or maybe in a group of friends sure, but in most cases a strong one on one platonic friendship isn’t possible. Feelings are going to develop at some point, or it’s unlikely that you’re going to have a lot in common to keep a strong friendship.

  • no, that why i don't have any friend girl, even if some of them they had try to be whit me, but i alwase destroy thous intentions because been just friend whit a girl is imposible.

  • Only if she is ugly.

  • Yes, I'm just friends with quite a few women.

    Some I find physically attractive, others I don't.

    I find a lot of women attractive, that doesn't mean they are compatible, single, or interested.

    Are you implying every guy willl hump anything with a pulse? or that all guys like the same looks or mind? or that all women are the same? You know most guys are picky right?

    if good looks were enough to want her that way, I'd be married already.

  • Yes, if they aren’t attracted to them.

  • I have had a guy friend since back in grade school. We are just friends. If he has ever thought there was any more he has kept it to himself.

  • Yeah but there may be some sexual tension.

  • I'm friends with a number of attractive women. There are quite a few things that instantly turn me off to someone that makes it really easy for me not to crush on any, in addition to being reciprocative when it comes to energy.

  • Yes. A number of my best friends are women.

  • I’ve had various female friends. They became like family.

  • Sure, it’s what happened before social media sexualized everything. In fact being friends was the best thing, especially if it blossomed into something more down the road.

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