Can friends have sex and remain friends?

[Anonymous]

You and a friend smash. Can your friendship remain unchanged?

[nightdrot]

In this case, I can answer pretty simply. Yes. Been there, done that.

There was a gal I knew in college. Never anything romantic, really. We just got along really well and would sometimes work on volunteer projects together and so on.

So we both graduated and you are in that phase when you have your diploma and have no idea what to do next. So we would get together for drinks every now and then or maybe lunch. Again, never anything romantic, just general chatting, talking about the job hunt, etc.

So just one day I went over to her house for lunch. She still lived in her parent's home, but they were both at work. She got to talking about an ex-bf and I - jokingly - mentioned something about sex and, somewhat longer story short, we got to talking about how sex would be a stress reliever and wouldn't be great...

So, out of my mouth pops, "So do you want to?" She almost offhandedly said, "Sure." Next thing you know, we are having sex. Some really good sex too.

It was a little awkward the first time, but we went on to have sex three more times. We both said, "Well, this is just to relieve the stress and for physical relief..." and we sort of ran on that.

We really only decided to stop because, at that point, we both agreed that we could not afford a pregnancy. (She was not on the pill and I was not big on condoms.) To me, I felt like if happened it happened and we would deal with it and I was great - even under those circumstances - with being a dad.

However, she held a different view. (In fact, we were actually pretty lucky. Of the four times we had sex, we used protection only once.) So we amicably ended the sex, but stayed friends until I got a job out of state and moved away.

Not saying that would happen in every case, but a lot depends on how you go into it. In our circumstances we were friends at it was about physical relief and because we had always thought of each other as just friends, it just sort of stayed that way.

For my part, I have to admit, in my younger days I tended to be a bit cavalier about sex, and as I already mentioned, I was always open to fatherhood. For her, I think it was just dealing with stress with someone she trusted and while she was open to pregnancy, she thought, realistically, it impractical while she searched for her first real job.

Overall, our circumstances were a bit unusual, no doubt about it. However, as I say, there is nothing to say that friends can't have sex and stay just friends. A lot depends on where you are in life and how good the friendship is and the attitude you take to sex going into it.

[Apope16]

Yes. I've done it a few times. Sex for me doesn't change the nature of the attraction that exists from the beginning.

In other words, if you fall in love after sex with a friend or acquaintance. .. most likely those feelings were under the surface to begin with. And yes, i had a fuck buddy that I fell deeply in love with. I realize now it wasn't sex. I would have fallen for her wothout it. Sex just was confirmation of my feelings.

On the flip side I have had sex with a few girls. I get horny with them only because I know sex is going to happen. I have no feelings of love. Just an erection. Emotionally Im not attached. Just friends. No desire to date.

I recommend everyone have a friend or fuckbuddy they can trust. Its a great thing. Just make sure they are someone you wouldn't date. I recommend someone who might annoy you but is on the ssme page of only wanting sex. A fuckbuddy friend probably reduces disease and rape in society.

[Justacatlady]

Yes in certain circumstances and if both are capable of friends with benefits relationships. Should know if you can handle it before you ruin a true friendship

[OlderAndWiser]

Is it possible? Of course!

Is that the most likely outcome? Certainly not! People develop feelings after they have exposed themselves in a most vulnerable way and their initial feelings of trust in their partner have been validated.

[Loliking]

Its possible but not easy

[Anonymous]

Men and women can't be friends even when they are not fucking

[Pulimuli]

I have female friends though

[Opinion Owner]

@Pulimuli you masturbate thinking about them tho

[Pulimuli]

No LoL im not attracted to them

[Opinion Owner]

@Pulimuli are you gay?

[Pulimuli]

Is that a proposition?

[Opinion Owner]

@Pulimuli no, just trying to determine whether you are lying or not

[Pulimuli]

I wouldn't admit if i were lying though

[Opinion Owner]

@Pulimuli of course, thats why im asking if you are gay. if you are then you are probably not lying, if not then you are. im being subtle, trying to figure out the truth through another question

[Anonymous]

Not hardly. You're playing with fire.