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Can girls orgasm through penetration alone?

I have been dating this girl for 4 months now. We have a lot of sex. But I have only made her cum once or twice through fingers... she has gotten closer other times. But I feel like I am not enough for her. And it's kind of taking a toll on my manliness and self esteem: We have talked about what she likes and what turns her on. I am average size. Above 5.5 inches, almost 6 inches. And girth wise it's about 4.5 inches around. Is that a good size? I feel like my game is weak. I want her to cum, and get her feeling through sex. I am even thinking about buying a vibrator for her so i can use it on her while doing her. She does masturbates, and she has no problem completing then. Could it be that she watches porn? Quite possibly quite often. . And I make her squirt almost every time. I just don't understand. If I can do then why can't I get her complete? I feel like this will cause problems between us. And I don't want there to be any problem because I can see her in my life for a long time.
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  • Short answer: Yes, but not that many.

    Long answer: Most girls who orgasm through penetration alone do so because they're getting clitoral stimulation during intercourse. This is partially because some girls have bigger clits than others, making it easier for them to get exposure to touch during intercourse. It's also because different positions can cause more stimulation, especially when done well. You know the saying, "Size doesn't matter, it's how you use it"? This is where the "how you use it" part comes in. Think about the position that your penis is in as you're having sex and whether or not it might be rubbing her clitoris (and if you're unsure, there are plenty of anatomy lessons available on the internet). In missionary, for instance, if you move your body forward slightly so that your penis is going inside her at more of a vertical angle, your shaft will probably be rubbing her clit as you do so. If she's on top, she can angle forward so that she rubs against you that way.

    That all being said, many girls just can't get there through intercourse alone. So, some other tips and thoughts:

    Your size is fine, but your game IS weak. Your game is weak because of your approach. For one thing, you're making this all about you. It has nothing to do with your manliness or your penis. It does, however, have something to do with your brain. You need to make it about her. Ask her to tell you when something feels good so that you know what to repeat. More effectively, ask her to masturbate for you. It will be a hot scene, but more importantly, watch what she does. There's no universal key for making a girl cum. They all like different amounts of pressure in different places. Watch what she does to make herself cum and then apply that knowledge. Reenact those motions with your fingers and with your tongue. Once you figure out what works best for her, you may be able to incorporate those things into penetration (e. g., rubbing her clit while you're inside her) but they still may not lead to orgasm. And if they don't, it doesn't matter. Just make sure you're paying attention to her needs during the course of events.

    • Thank you for your comment. This is the actual serious and helpful comment. I appreciate it and will definitely keep it in mind.

  • Cowgirl tips
    Here’s the way I have found, with the help of a very cooperative girlfriend, that a woman can ride her man all the way up the mountain to multiple, increasing powerful orgasms and ultimately, squirting.
    • He needs to understand that he can help with this position by grabbing her hips and helping her move. At first, leave to her own devices but as she gets more and more aroused, he should become stronger and more and more forceful in moving her back and forth.
    • Put him on his back and mount up with you on your knees.
    • Slide him in and settle in so you’re comfortable.
    • Rock like you’re riding a horse, slowly at first and faster as you get more aroused.
    • When you’re ready for him to help, reach down and put his hands on your hips. For effect, you can beg him in your sexy slut voice to help you.
    • When you start to get close to cumming, move like you’re trying your best to break that thing off. Of course, you won’t but the point is to not hold back. Just go crazy.
    • When you’re right on the edge, tell him to do you. He thrusts up as powerfully as he can and holds it with you impaled as deeply on his cock as possible, perched on his erection. He also forcefully tilts his hips and slams his shaft into your G-spot.
    • As you cum, don’t even slow down. Keep going and you will cum over and over, each time increasingly intense.
    • If you have The Big One, as I call it, you may very likely squirt so if there’s a gush, it’s not urine. It’s female ejaculate. Keep going until you’re completely done.
    Here are a few ancillary suggestions:
    • Pee first so that if you should squirt, you can be confident it’s not pee.
    • If you’re into S&M, have him forcefully pinch your nipples as you’re starting to cum.
    • He can slap your tits around if you’re into that. One girlfriend of mine liked to be slapped while she was up there with me telling her what a trashy slut she was for being up there in the first place.
    • Some ladies like their men to reach around and smack their ass while they ride.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Think about what the vagina is actually for (childbirth). Are you really surprised there aren't that many nerve endings in there? :P

    You're fine; most women don't orgasm from penetration alone. Usually, clitoral simulation is necessary.

  • Girls can potentially orgasm through penetration alone but I think it's something like 70% of women don't. Honestly, just get a vibrator, they're great, or give her oral. That usually works for me.

  • Most girls can't orgasm through penetration alone at all. Don't worry about this, you aren't doing anything wrong at all.

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  • It helps if you understand female anatomy - this MyTake is very helpful:

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22418-what-s-really-up-down-there-misconceptions-about-lady-parts

    (thanks @suki248 )

    Women have two main pleasure points - the clitoris and the G-spot. If you know this, and where they are located, you can use this to your (and her) advantage during intercourse.

    If you are having sex as you often see it in porn (where the actors' positions are manipulated to improve camera angles), where the only thing you are touching is your genitals, getting her to orgasm can be difficult or impossible - especially if she isn't used to having orgasms from intercourse.

    There are two specific things that you can do to greatly increase your odds:

    - Grind-thrust instead of standard thrusting. This is mostly for face-to-face positions; push yourself all the way in to her, and then grind your pubic mound into hers while making short, deep strokes. You will be grinding on her clit, and adding not just motion but pressure, and this will feel fantastic for her. Most of the time, thrusting does nothing at all for her clit, and that's where she's used to getting pleasure from.

    - Use positions that stimulate her G-spot. Look at the pics in the MyTake so you know where the G-spot is. Practice fingering her there until you can get her to cum easily that way, which gets her used to having orgasms from penetration (this could take weeks or months, BTW). Then, when you have sex, use positions that cause your penis to hit her G-spot during thrusts. Doggy-style does this for most girls (which is why so many like it), but also Deck Chair/Folded Deck Chair (Missionary with her knees way back or with her legs on your shoulders), Reverse Cowgirl with her leaning back, or Spoon position are all good for this.

    Over time, her body will adjust, and she'll automatically learn how to breathe, position herself, etc. to help reach orgasm through intercourse, and will in most cases be able to cum in any position - but at the beginning, you have to have as many factors in your favor until it becomes second nature for her.

    Finally, remember that for girls, sex starts WAY before intercourse - even before physical foreplay (which you should be giving her plenty of) - for girls, sex starts when you text her in the morning to say "have a good day - can't wait to see you tonight", or when you send her a Snap at lunch, etc. Stimulate her brain with a bit of attention during the day and she'll be much more "ready" when it's time for sex.

  • yes women can definitely orgasm from vaginal sex. however, lots of women are incapable of reaching an orgasm this way (only about 1in5). furthermore something like only 40% of women can consistently have an orgasm at all (vaginal or clitoral).

    The squirting you're looking for isn't an orgasm and is even more rare. only about 5% if not less women squirt. so it really isn't something you should be seeking with any expectation of finding it in a partner

    I think a big issue here is your expectations and understanding of the female orgasm, squirting etc don't seem to really mesh with reality

    • I am not looking for making her squirt! I want her to complete. And I have made her squirt through penetration couple of time and almost every time when I use fingers with her. So I feel good about that. It's her completing. Do you get what I am saying?

    • well squirting and orgasms are two very separate things that have nothing to do with each other. so the fact that you can make her squirt has no bearing on your ability or inability to make her orgasm. if she doesn't orgasm it's most likely something having to do with her. is she able to orgasm vaginally on her own (like masturbating)

    • Yes, she says that she masturbates. I have made her orgasm through when I use fingers on her but only once. She is horny like 99% of the day so she masturbates like once a day or once very couple of days. She has told she watches porn which I am cool with it. Weird thing is that she has used vacuum cleaner on her clitoris to organs and squirt. Which is weird but it works for her. She likes the oral I give her but my mouth obviously can't compete with the suction of the freaking vacuum cleaner! Is that weird?

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  • 80 percent of women need extra stimulation especially to their clitoris to orgasm. if you have to finish her off with fingers or tounge. I don't think she will mind. if you get the chance to watch her masterbate pay attention to what she's doing you can use that to help you

  • Some can, some can't. In my experience, most can't.

  • you probably do have many things going on, first she is desenceitised by watching so much porn and masturbating so much. If you can get her to stop both of those bad habits then maybe if you both have A LOT of foreplay like over an hour and if you go real slow and deep and give time to get into her grove than ill be bet she has a great cum shot

  • Theoretically you can make her come with only penetration, but you'll have a lot more luck by stimulating the clitoris (the little button on the upper part of the vagina.)

    Side note: It could have nothing to do with you, just a kind of "performance anxiety" It is a lot harder to climax while someone is looking at you. Talk to her about it, what does she think will make her come, focus on her pleasure before your own.

  • U have a mouth to ask or just get drunk

  • Yes, I can ;)

  • All my girlfriends did except two (out of 28) who never had had an orgasm at all and didn't with me.

    I don't know why exactly. I thought it was normal for women to orgasm from penetration until I read differently on the web but looking back I can see that many of my girlfriends were surprised by it. I apparently differ from the average guy in that all my girlfriends approached me, I have a very large and particularly a thick penis, wider at the base, I last a very long time, I go slow and am very sensitive to subtle changes and signals in the woman. I don't know if any of those things made a difference or if I'm just an example of an extreme statistical anomaly.

  • All girls have the mechanics and the potential.
    There are many road blocks which can hinder this but functionally we all "can".

    A lot of those blocks can be mentally in her, so you shouldn't beat yourself up about it.

    • There is a major difference in the clitoral and vaginal orgasm, so even if a vibrator is introduced, her orgasm will still only be clitoral.

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