Can guys orgasm from slow, gentle sex?

[Anonymous]

OK, I think I have a pain disorder when it comes to sex because it ALWAYS hurts, I used to think it was just the guy I was with but this has happened with my last two boyfriends as well as the guy I'm currently dating. It hurts a bit when they enter at first and I can handle that and then during is usually fine as well but when he's close to finishing he goes really fast and rough and it hurts so much, it feels like I'm being stabbed and I can't even say anything because it hurts too much to talk. I told one of my ex's about it and he said he could only come if he thrusts really fast. can guys still come if they try to finish with slow, shallow thrusting? Or does this not work? I want to be able to enjoy sex all the way through but the last couple of minutes is always me gritting my teeth to get through it :(

[G-Daz]

It depends on the guy and their level of sensitivity really. For some guys it would be almost impossible for them to get off through slow gentle sex because the sensitivity in their penis is much lower than others. If the guy is cut for example, thousands of nerves that would be contained within the foreskin would be removed and it would require much more stimulation for them to be able to get off from penetration, slow and gentle sex generally won't do it.

It might be a case of you not being fully prepared before sex, try to get him to give you oral before for as long as neccessary to ensure you get wet enough for it not to hurt. who knows, it could just be a case of you not being wet enough for it, if you can try and get him to give you an orgasm before penetration so its less likely you won't be wet enough and sex should be more enjoyable for you even if he does go faster

[Asker]

thanks! we do use lube so I'm usually wet enough, it's more that he goes too deep/fast towards the end. and yes when he does oral for me the sex is usually better lol

[G-Daz]

Your welcome, good lol, I have no idea if he is cut or not but depending on that determines the level of high or low stimulation he will need as a minimum. lol have fun though, guys generally won't say no to giving oral :P enjoy

[setcheck67]

Yes, but it would require A LOT of sexual sensitivity for it to happen. The end for a guy is this feeling of pleasure that gets stronger with more speed and sadly for us guys it lasts for so short a while that we try to make the most of it lol. However few guys know that by a slow sliding can get their rocks off as well. If you want it to be like that get in a position that creates a lot of surface tension(complete skin on skin contact) on the head of his penis for the finale. He should explode as he would the other way.

[Asker]

that sounds like a good idea, do you which positions are best for that?

[setcheck67]

The lotus is a good one for that.

[Cartiphilus]

Yes

[amameninas]

I can't speak for every man, but there is usually a crescendo of fast thrusting at the end to bring us over the top.

You may be chronically dry. Use a lube like "Wet" or Astroglide and see if that eases the problem.

You may have a condition called Lupus. What you describe is exactly what a girlfriend who had it experienced with me and I am not large. Read up on this on the internet.

Have your slow comfortable lovemaking and then end it with a fast hand or oral job on him.

You can probably come by external hand stimulation or by oral as well. Try to work these in to your experience to improve it.

Good luck.

[hsshannah96]

FOREPLAY.

[cutekid]

Sex can make guys come whether its fast or slow..

[snackeyg]

The slow part makes me think no. It's the speed and constant pleasure in that moment that brings us to orgasm.

[tony7b5]

if a guy can't orgasm during gentle sex, it's because he isn't doing it right. period. there is a myth that good sex, that enjoyable sex, has to be hard and fast, that it has to last for ever, that it has to be loud, etc. i think we just watch way too much p*rn. going slow is no less stimulating than going fast.

the truth is that nothing is sexier than slow sensual sex. after you've had that kind of sex, hard fast sex is less not more stimulating.

the trick is to build the tension slowly. foreplay is hugely important, and it begins with a sidelong glance or a gentle brush. when it builds slowly, it will release all on its own.

[Anonymous]

well the other guys seem to have answered pretty well and I agree with them

and sex shouldn't hurt

i think you should talk to a gyno about any problems you have about sex

they know much more about a woman's physiology