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Can I lie about being a virgin?

I am a 20 year old female virgin. I honestly don't have any sexual hang ups, just never got around to it, and I'm looking to lose that part of my identity. I'm in college, so hookup culture is definitely prevalent. I'm not opposed to just hooking up, but I'm wondering if I need to disclose that I'm a ~virgin~ to hookups.
I feel like it'd be so easy to simply lie. I'm currently thinking about saying my number is 2 if prompted, and just not saying anything if it doesn't come up.
I'm also, ehrm, stretched out down there, so there wouldn't be any bleeding or pain that would make it obvious I'm a virgin.
I'm also a part of a sorority on campus, and I would be MORTIFIED if a frat bro in our social circle told everyone he "took my virginity" (I feel like that's more embarrassing than just plain old "we fucked").
I'd love some opinions on the subject!
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  • Ok time out
    I can't tell you what to do and in most cases I wouldn't ever try
    As I read your words I can feel your heartbeat I can hear them loud and clear

    And I'm thinking to myself this is something that you should be proud of that you have waited this long for whatever your reason might be it's a beautiful thing you should be proud of yourself

    Next thing is fuck the fucking hook-up thing
    You don't wait this long for whatever reasons
    And then go out and get a hookup
    The odds of getting an STD from a hookup or getting pregnant from a hookup it's 50/50 probably 60/40

    I can tell just by reading your story your heart is more better than that you are better than that and I feel you at the same time I was 15 and a half almost 16 when I lost my virginity if you send me a DM I will tell you about it I sent so many times on here it's not about me this is about you right now but I can Enlighten you on a few things

    Look when you have a hook up the odds are you're going to pick the wrong guy you're going to say okay let's go he's going to get on top of you he's going to pump you 5 to 10 times he's going to come he's going to get up get dressed and walk out and you're going to say
    WTF JUST HAPPEN YOUT DONE ALL READY.
    You're going to be laying there beating yourself up because of the way everything just happened and waiting all this time for that you're going to be disappointed in angry at yourself

    This is a moment that you want the guy to make it all about you this is the moment you want the guy to take you some place you have never been before to help you feel something that is the most beautiful feeling in the world when two energies connect and become one this is a very special moment and with a hook-up you can't get that
    So what I'm saying is you have to really think about this carefully you have to find the right guy you have to find the guy that can look deep into your eyes in that moment read the color of your cheeks the way you breathe the way you moan the way you move your hips and he understands everything that you wanted that given moment without you saying one word he has to make it all about you

    Now it's nobody's business if you're a virgin or not
    Everybody has their own interpretation of a virgin if you've been penetrated you're not a virgin so if you have masturbated if you have stuck your finger in there if you have stuck a toy in their if you have come all over that toy you're not a virgin you've been penetrated like I said your belief might be something different than somebody else's belief so you wouldn't be lying

    And here's the other thing if you do it with one of your sorority Brothers and if he's the only into it for himself that means he's going to tell his other brothers and they're all going to try to get into your pants too so think about that one too I don't mean to be such a dick or downer
    All I know is what happened to me when I lost my virginity what I learned from it what I didn't like about it it took a toll on me but it was one of the best things ever because as the way I see and feel about it right now and I don't want you to have to go through that this is a very special moment for you and if you're going to let somebody be a part of that special moment it has to be a special guy it has to be somebody that will make love to you so you remember it for the rest of your life it has to be somebody it will give you two to three to four orgasms that very first night because you will remember that forever

Most Helpful Guy

  • At 20 years old, in college and no sexual hang ups? I say you have no reason to lie, just be honest that your a virgin but you have no hang ups about having sex... that you just haven't meant the right guy.

    Well honestly I am rethinking that a little... if you tell the truth you might want to add something more to the end of that statement... like you are not expecting to fall in love with someone just because you have sex with them. Some guys think that if they are the "ONE" that you are totally in love with them... some of them might be freaked out about that and others will think they own you some how.

    So yeah, there's not need to lie about it or tell the truth just say its no of their business.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I was virgin before 22 and I don’t regret it.

    I found myself a boyfriend who was virgin too, cause I wanted this experience to be as special for him as for me, we’ve been together for 3 years and I am the love of his life and I love him too.

    I wouldn’t exchange this experience for anything.

    Before doing this, make sure you won’t get hurt, having sex for the first time is a special experience and you deserve to have it with someone who has feelings for you and who will make this experience memorable for you.
    Make sure you don’t regret it in future, just because you are 20 doesn’t mean you have to get rid of your virginity ASAP,

    you know how wonderful your first time will be with someone you truly love and someone who loves you back? That’s worth waiting.

    Your choice though… If you decide to do it, try to fond a guy decent and respectful enough to not brag about sleeping with you the next day.

  • Why would you lie? I am confused that you would find being a virgin embarrassing but willing to hook up not? Wow times have sure changed.
    Just because you are a virgin, does not mean first time sex you would hurt or bleed. They hymen can be broken even by bike riding or sports. If someone has you turned on enough or aroused you probably will not a big amount of pain. You are headed down a slippery slope no pun intended, what happens if you meet someone a year from now you wanna marry and think to yourself I should have waited?

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  • You don’t even need to bring it up or say anything. I don’t know what hookups say or whatever, but I don’t think they ask how many people their hookup has been with or if they’re a virgin.


    Anyways, I don’t really see the point in lying. I guess if you don’t want someone to find out, don’t do it with someone you don’t trust - don’t do a hookup with the kids in your college, I guess.

  • Don't say anything, or if someone asks say you've played around a bit and you might of but your not entirely sure, it was dark and fun and because it was new you may or may not have, you'd have to do it again to be sure and then if you do say... then you can decide to say, oh it wasn't like that last time, must of been my first or yeah that is what it was like last time.

    Allow flexibility if your going to talk about it.

  • Why does every girl on this site seem to think she is a loser if she is a virgin? That is nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, I think a lot of guys would like to have a girl that hasn't slept around and had more dicks than a phone book full of Richards. If you want to have sex then do it and hope the "Dick" you sleep with doesn't have a big mouth. But, that's the chance you take when you sleep with someone who may be a braggart.

  • gross immediately you label it as "part of your identity"
    lying is never a great idea, and with something like sex, its important to be honest so sexual partners can prepare better.

  • don't lie
    it would just make it worse
    if the other person is not a virgin he could immediately tell that you're faking it
    I have taken my friend's virginity and I can say for sure there are things that make it obvious
    so don't lie, don't pretend, just be yourself

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