Can I tell my boyfriend to be more rough?

[Anonymous]

I would like to tell my boyfriend to be more rough in bed without hurting his feelings, it is a good idea?

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes, but be careful, if you think asking this will hurt his feeling, then you really need to think if he is mature enough to handle it.

other provisos - does he drink alcohol and then have sex?

does he have a bad temper at all?

Anyone doing rough sex needs to be very very conscious of how rough they partner actually wants it, when they do and do not want it rough, the signs that it’s too much. it’s not all about safety words, you read your partner and understand when you have went or are approaching limits.

I cannot stress safety enough, it’s scary how many people try stuff without understanding the safety side of things.

[IronLady6354]

Absolutely! In fact, you could tell him in a way that turns him on. Talk dirty to him when you tell him to be rough. Also, when you talk dirty boost his ego. When he's inside you scream to him (in a sexy way, not angry way) "Faster! Deeper! Harder!". When he does that tell him how much you love him f*cking you like that, how strong/sexy he is, and how you love feeling his humungous cock pound inside you (men love it when you compliment their penises during sex).
Bottom line: during sex "beg" him to f*ck you super rough (compliment his body and his penis when you do this). When he does it moan really loud and tell him how much you love it when his huge dick f*cks you hard. He'll both give you what you want and absolutely love doing it

[Stephbs2]

Just go slow. Depending on how you phrase it maybe he'll think you don't like how things are now. Just tell him you want to try something new and go step by step.

[BillHe1]

Sure why not, I would love for my wife to tell me how she wants anything.

Is he just trying to stay romantic with slow casual sex? He might just be trying to stay slow and easy with you.

You want more aggressive action, try to show it, take the initiative be rougher with him and then ask if he likes it and that you want more... a little "show & tell". As I've told my wife, we don't read minds.
Go ahead tell him what you want, you may both enjoy it more.

[rachel776]

i don't think it would hurt his feelings haha

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

That’s when you say harder and faster during

[slatyb]

Yes. If you can't talk to your partner about sex, it won't be much of a partnership. It's very possible he also wants to do these things but has been afraid to try them with you. Be somewhat specific. Do you want to be thrown around a bit, spanked, fucked more vigorously, held down, tied down, hair pulled, what? If he doesn't like what you tell him, then maybe he's not the guy for you.

[bowenw]

Sure. You could start by asking him if there are things he would like to try in bed. Then tell him what you are into. You could also invite him to watch some porn featuring rough sex and tell him you would like to try it.

[Nik1hil]

Yes... Be honest and tell him...
If you will enjoy it more

[Mr1derful]

Absolutely! Communication is always the key and very important! Wouldn't hurt my feelings at all!

[HawkPerception]

Yes... just tell him to fuck you harder. Dirty talk him and bring out his primal beast form.

[Jersey2]

Moon louder when he does what you like. That is the universal way women tell their men what they like.

[Jersey2]

Moon? Wtf? Ok, how about moan... lol.

[karaspara]

Yes but in a respectful way learn and grow together

[Wise4myage]

Be casual about it, and maybe mention role playing.

[TheFlak38]

find a better man

[Arichip]

Ya just say you kinda like that

[jeremy_09]

i like to start gentle and then get rougher and rougher unless the girls says slow down. many girls you wouldn't think like it a lot

[Arichip]

@jeremy_09 Ya that is good for me

[swettannie]

yes it is lol

[Still-alive]

just tell him directly.

[jasco]

Yea go for it. He shouldn't be offended by it

[JamieLoves]

Why not? Ask for what you want/ need...

[Joshua0213]

Yeah you can and he'd probably be happy too

[NYlatefun]

Sure, I’m sure he’ll love it!

[james_d0007]

You can watch porn together and a scene with rough sex in it and tell him I would really like this if you did this to me. That way he knows what you want and you want have to say a thing ;)

[Romeocuck]

Yes. Open communication it's important