Can Sexual Attraction come with time? GIRLS AND GUYS OPINIONS?

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I've been dating this guy for a while and he's so good to me. He's very attentive and takes me out all the time. I had sex with him twice, the first time was not very good. I was hoping the second time would be better... but i recall myself rushing through it a little. I find myself really comfortable with him at times, and at times i don't really know what to say around him. Im not nervous though, it's just a weird feeling. My question is, does sexual attraction come with time? I feel like I'm not dying to get into bed with him, and usually I'm very sexually active. He really is perfect though in every other sense... will it ever come to me or... is this a problem?

i1T2daty · Accepted Answer

I've written this so many times, I should have saved it to copy and paste. In the age of internet p*rn where all women are beautiful and unblemished, ready to have sex with any other guy, girl or other anytime, and get turned on more than anything else when a guy shoots a wad of come in their face, Reality tends to get distorted or completely lost.

1) Masturbate, a lot, with as many toys as you can find. (in a pinch an electric toothbrush will take to realms hitherto unimagined. This will get you to know your sexual response better. Men & women have what scientists term, their orgasmic curve, charted extensively. 97% of the time, a woman has a slower response and goes through stages, e. g. you probably don't want direct clitoral stim immediately but it will feel great in 15 mins. Your arousal is a slowly ascending curve (on x/y axis) his is a steep curve. Younger guys need to slow down, spend a lot of time on secondary erogenous zones and wait. When your pussy is very wet, that's a good indication. The good part is once you reach it, 60-70% of women can have multiple Os. (in case of women defined as anywhere from 2-8 orgasms in 30 minutes, 10-12% of men can have more than 1 in same time frame. Just when you are ready to start coming like crazy, he has likely shot his wad and has lost interest-often for night and you are left to get yourself off. One way is to have him get you off as many times as you are capable of before fucking, giving him head or whatever. Most often it requires him going down, thoughtfully and knowing what he's doing-on you AND keeping at it if you feel you can keep coming. Then deal with his hard on. What p*rn doesn't lie about, Hollywood does.

joshuataylor92 · Accepted Answer

Honestly sexual attraction doesn't come over time. Your either sexually attracted or you arent. I dated a girl for awhile one time and I just wasn't sexual attracted to her. She was gorgeous but sexually her body wasn't what I wanted. Her boobs werent there, her pussy wasn't all that attractive. So when it came to sex with her I wasn't as in to it like I normally was. I never wanted to foreplay cause her tits and pussy werent attractive to. So i really just wanted to stick it in and go at it for a bit and that was it. That never changes. Emotionally she was what I wanted and her face was absolutely gorgeous. But thats all at least for me. Needless to see since I wasn't sexually attracted and sex was not where it should have been we fussed a lot. And it caused us to end things. So my sexual attraction never increased towards her and we didn't end up staying together. Sexual attraction happens right off the bat. Either you are or you arent. Unless he goes out and finds a better looking cock grows a bad ass muscle body and manages to rock your world in bed one day

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. I would definitely communicate any sexual issues you are having with him though. Guys like to be told what you like, so when he does something you enjoy, be very verbal about it. If you don't enjoy it, be direct but try not to be negative or overly critical, just suggest a different way. Attentive and takes you out are great things, but don't necessarily develop your needs in a relationship. Does he provide, protect, and make you feel like a girl? Does he kiss you with passion, like he truly wants you? Is he confident? All of these qualities can build sexual attraction.

happypants · Accepted Answer

Yes it does, its happened to me before. Sometimes it takes awhile to recognize hood qualities in a person, and sometimes those qualities are sexy as can be. ;)

MeisJoe39 · Answer

y'all had sex twice, and it wasn't great. One of y'all should talk about what was done wrong. If he's so perfect, you may want to figure out that. If attraction isn't there so much, maybe its that your not getting what you need that much. Maybe a person could be too perfect to make the other person nervous. Sometimes we have to tell the other person what we need sexually though.

x0607 · Answer

Well, sometimes sexual atraction comes over time<------ very rare (or in cases of forced marriages) mostly people are already atracted to each other from the beginning.

zombiebabe · Answer

its not a problem its normal... no worries

gorar · Answer

have you ever your foot ran over by a car?

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