Can someone please answer me I’m so confused and sad?

[Anonymous]

So today I was very excited to have sex with my boyfriend I even ordered us condoms. He was hard but in the middle of sex he kept on getting soft until he said I’m sorry baby and stopped. He looked like he felt very bad about it and he said that he was embarrassed he at first said that it was too hot and that he was tired so I asked him “is it because you touch yourself too much?” and he said no and then later he said that it’s because he touches himself a lot to my pictures, that he was afraid of my parents coming in, that it was mainly his fault, etc. I had also asked him how often did he touch himself and he responded with I don’t know. I don’t know if I’m just overthinking a lot is something really up? I’m just confused this guy is 24 and we only have sex once a week. The last questions I asked I got very negative comments saying that maybe he’s not interested in me anymore and now im worried and sad but also confused because he is always there for me and always so sweet and talking about our how could he not be interested in me? Maybe he’s just not attracted to me? Please help me I am so confused

[virtue2332]

Performance anxiety could be an issue. Are you under any time constraints? Does he feel pressured? I imagine if it's happened once it could become an issue of confidence. If you care about him more than sex you should communicate and reassure him. If he is out of commission down there for whatever reason he should work on his oral game or get creative. They make pills that are available online that could help. If you care more about the sex then the guy and are all about the pleasure it's time to move on and find someone you are more compatible with. It honestly could come from a number of reasons that have nothing to do with you. Also you should keep in mind your pleasure is also your responsibility so you should be able to communicate or show him how you need to be touched.

[Asker]

I told him it was okay and made him some noodles he still felt bad though. Lately when I tell him that I wang to have sex he says that he doesn’t know if he does or let’s see I don’t know if it’s because of the pregnancy scare

[virtue2332]

So don't tell him just let it happen. Sometimes you have to play games with yourselves. Take an evening where you tell each other sex is off the table but you spend time touching each other the goal being arousal but no sex. Take your time and get to a point where you are both Soo turned on that sex comes natural. It's easy to jump into it but foreplay and teasing should take up the most amount of time. Penetration doesn't have to last that long provided you put the effort and work into foreplay and discovering each other. For me I try to make sure she has at least one orgasm before penetration. It takes the pressure off me worrying about if she is satisfied. Sex is a whole lot more than penetration. For me it's easy to make a girl climax orally. Since fingers are also involved I can use the information later to figure out the tempo some like a slow build up with a strong finish. Some like it fast and rough. He may just be lost or too much in his head so you have to show him the way. A woman's orgasm is an amazing thing to be a part of and if watching you shake and spasm and pulse down there does nothing for him you have to move on.

[RealMarek]

It sounds like he was nervous the first time and probably worried about what happened the first time on the next occasion. I think it would help to try someplace more private where there are no worries about your parents coming in. Also, if he is well endowed make sure the condoms are not too small for him.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Oh I feel you baby you're with wrong guy...
On bed always your happiness matter.

I feel sad for baby 😘

[Cowboy6666]

He is selfish and immature guy
Move on you can get better guys...
If I were your boyfriend l would have sex with you at least 5 times a week and can give you longer oral for at least 20 minutes per round ;) I usually go at least 3 rounds