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2 mo

Can’t enjoy sex or trust my boyfriend after wrong hole accident?

to clarify, I live with my parents still.
my boyfriend was over and we were downstairs on couch when he started to get frisky. Now, we never have sex in my bedroom as it’s upstairs next to my parents room and their tv room and they’re located upstairs on the complete other side of the house. they generally never go downstairs and when they do they make an attempt of loud footsteps or calling my name in advance.
We’ve also been together for 3 years

So while we were having sex there was a moment where he slipped out and slid into my asshole. I immediately tightened my body up and burst into tears. I couldn’t move for a few minutes and just laid there crying.

It was one of the worst pains I’ve ever felt and I’m a gal that enjoys anal sex when prepared for it but I never would’ve imagine it felt that way when unprepared.

Right as it had happened my boyfriend was like “omg im so sorry” but mostly attempted to shush me and get me to cry quieter (I wasn’t screaming sobbing or anything it was just the initial reaction that made me Involuntarily cry out) because he was worried my dad was going to come downstairs.

It’s just the fact that he was more worried about someone hearing than my well-being in the moment and later afterwards he tried to make a joke out of it being like “it’s just like reverse pooping did it really hurt that bad?” Since then I haven’t been able to enjoy sex with him, I spend the whole time worrying that he’ll slip up and I’m worried that in a different situation like this how can I trust him to comfort me?

Although he never initially intended to slip in, it feels like a huge part of my trust for him is gone and I don’t feel as safe and comfortable with him in that aspect as I did before. Does anyone know how I could bring this up to him or even better just forget about it and enjoy my sex life again?

Updates:
2 mo
Just to clarify I know for a fact that it was by accident. We were both under a blanket and it was wet and slippery down there. It happened in a split second where he pulled out and pushed and it slid up. He had no perspective of my body and immediately pulled out as it happened. Not to mention we’ve done anal and have learned due to other reasons that it’s important to prepare
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  • Reading your question, I don't know how answer and intended to move on to the next question.

    But after reading your details, I can relate to the emotional burden when trust is broken.

    No, my experience was not about sex, but I can totally relate to the "mistake", be it for real or fake.

    And my opinion is, continue the relationship if you want to but lay am ultimatum. He has to understand that was the last time it can happen and future "mistake" will incur serious consequence.

    Then rebuild the trust. This is difficult and time consuming. But if you're willing and in love, perhaps it's possible.

    Just sharing. No real solution.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Honestly that is one of the most painful things and right now so feels like you can't trust him and as a women who has had this happen by her hubby... well sadly it happens and your right him being worried instead of helping is such a hard thing emotionally but if you were in his place... never mind guy reaction!

    You would snuggle and care for him!

    Have a real talk with him and tell him never again or no sex! Cause it is the worse pain and so scary to have happen when stressed and your parents are near.

    Trust will take time and no sneaking around or hiding sex for a while make him slowly get it back!

    You can do this your wonderful and I'm so sorry it happened!

  • OMG, I can't imagine how painful and shocking that must have been! I am also one who enjoys anal, but I have to be completely relaxed and opened up first. It hurts bad if he goes in even just a little early or a little too quickly, so just jamming it through in an instant without any prep would be excruciating.

    I can understand why you would be upset by his reaction. Talk to him and help him understand why you feel the way you do. Let him know you need to trust him to be comfortable having sex with him. Hopefully he will come around and see that.

    • how often do you do anal? Im surprised u said u enjoy it cause most girls dont but why do u like it just curious?

Most Helpful Guy

  • Oh my God talk about overreacting this guys in a relationship with you?
    he must be in crack.
    I stuck my finger in girls an*s on the first day… and I have never a fork who treated like she’s goanna die!
    At the most the tired to control my fingers thrust sided or they opened up their butt cheeks to make it easier..
    I would’ve blocked you after 5 minutes of talking to you.
    He must be fat ug1y or you are or you both are.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I'd be livid. That's no accident! Have a serious word with him.

  • I may be wrong, but his story that it was an accident sounds a little far fetched.

  • Why is this complicated? Dump his inaccurate ass.

  • I say lighten up on the poor chap. Sounds like it was a mistake why make him or both your sex lives pay? Maybe do anal more often so it won't hurt? I dunno

  • well you said it was and accident if you're such of that let it go and get on with your sex life, if you think it wasn't then tell him no more sex for him

  • Sweetie there is no wrong hole

  • Is your butthole the size of a golf ball at all times? It is physically impossible for a dick to just casually go inside your ass. Your lying.

  • Yes, but a dick is never going to just slip into your asshole. So he's lying about that in my opinion.

    • Were you on top of him? If not, then I don't see how it could be an accident.

  • By the age of 16, most guys know the difference between a vagina and an anus.

  • Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel. See how he reacts. Hopefully he’ll reassure you it will never happen again and apologize for his insensitive comment.

    • yeah that should never happen. Its not that hard to aim. Have u ever tried anal? and how was it for u?

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