Can't orgasm in front of my boyfriend?

I'm gonna keep this short and sweet. I can orgasm perfectly fine when I'm alone. but I'm having a hard time reaching one when I'm with my boyfriend. I've tried letting him stimulate those extra sensitive spots and I've just tried to do it myself in front of him I think once I actually do it once it'll become easier, I just have to get to that point. let me know what works for you or if you have the same problem I'd like to hear your story.
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Just a little update on the situation, my boyfriend and I were fooling around last night and he came so unbelievably close to giving me an orgasm, all by himself, I didn't have to assist or anything. I'm getting better at relaxing and letting it all out. Thanks everyone for the advice and I will keep you up to date :)
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  • You have to be relaxed for that to happen and it has to be the right guy as well. I think its different when your in private and you are more relaxed so that's why you can by yourself. If you can get that relaxed with him then I don't think it will be a problem. I would try not masturbating a while before you see him again so it might be easier to get there. Just like a guy that hasn't come for a while can orgasm really easily, I'm sure it is the same concept for a girl. It will happen in time and you can't force it so be patient. Also, he may not be taking his time with four play. If its your first orgasm with him then he needs to be patient. If he just goes for intercourse right away then its not going to work. I don't think its you at all. I have yet to experience that but I'm sure it will depend on the guy and how he makes me feel.

  • I had the same problem with my boyfriend for a little while. I got so close, and we tried everything, but it just wouldn't happen. Then, after some time, I grew to be more comfortable with him, and it happened, and it's been great ever since. It might just be nerves, try to relax because stressing about it definitely doesn't help! It'll probably come eventually. No pun intended. ;)

    • yeah I feel some sort of pressure, because I know he wants me to and I want to and so I've been trying to force myself when really, I shouldn't have to, how exactly did you finally reach that point?

    • I don't remember the details, but I know what you mean about the pressure. I felt like I was letting him down and letting myself down because I just couldn't, but we kept at it, and I tried to relax and just focus on what was happening, not on the end destination, and it just happened.

    • yep I feel that way, well thank you! :) this really helped out alot, if I have anymore questions about this, I'll be sure to ask you.

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  • Masturbate in front of him so he knows how you like to be touched

    Send him articles on how to finger, eat you out, clit, g-spot,

    Get him to rub your clit during sex, try doggy or cowgirl, give you an orgasm before sex through foreplay so it'll make it easier to orgasm again

    Incorporate some toys

  • Just relax and focus on what you're feeling. Don't even think about him, just focus on your body and what's happening to it. I think that once you do it once you'll be good to go. If you have a toy that reliably gets you off, just have him use that on you.

    • he's talked about getting a toy, but I really want him to be able to give me the same pleasure I give to him without toys. it'll probably happen, I'm just getting impatient.

    • Yeah. I'm not saying use it all the time. I think that the only hangup right now is you're uncomfortable and once you DO come with him in the room it'll be no big deal and then he can make you come without toys too. Just a thought.

    • yeah your right, I might actually try that, thank you :)

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  • well instead of stimulating, have him try oral and have him do other things simultaneously

  • Your Boyfriend has a needled***