Can’t orgasm no matter what I do... normal?

I’m 23 and I’ve never had one, unless I didn’t know but I’m pretty sure I would I’ve had guys ask me certain sexual questions that it’s embarrassing to answer because I honestly can’t orgasm. I’ve tried the whole self exploration and eventually ended up buying a vibrator... it was too intense even on low and I started to go numb so I stopped. I’ve come to realization it’s just never going to happen. I like sex though I can just keep going for a really long time.
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  • There is a book called "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality" that I hear is pretty good for this. Apparently it gives major advice on being able to reach orgasm. I used to hear about it on the radio talk shows years ago.

  • I suggest you start with a good gynecologist. It's probably either psychological or neurological.

    • What would my gyno be able to do though if it’s psychological or neurological? I don’t talk about anything sexual with her.

    • I suggest you do so since she's smack dab in the middle of your sexual anatomy. Talk to her. She's heard and seen it all.

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  • It is normal. If you ever do want to have one, you will need to do some research and learn how to have them.

  • I don't think it is common, but I am sure there are many people who feel as you do.

    If you trust your doctor, it is probably one to talk to them about & see if they can offer any help/advice.

    For now though, "giving up" on achieving an orgasm is probably actually a good idea, ad then you can enjoy the build up more & maybe eventually you will figure out what it takes for you without even looking.

  • Welp, that sucks.

    • 🙄🙄

  • Well no idea why my girlfriend has 2 orgasms every time we have sex
    First after i lick her :P and second during sex
    She said u have to learn it meaby you do need to learn too?

  • Probably either because of a depressive nature or you just haven't had good sex yet

    • Definitely not depressed stressed maybe but not all the time. I don’t want to say the guys I’ve been weren’t good I don't know...

    • If it's good sex, it's caring sex. A back and forth. A conversation with the bodies.

  • Muy wife didn't have her first orgasm until after the age of 30. It's not as unusual as you may think for a woman not to be able to orgasm.

  • See a sex therapist to help

  • You just need a really good tongue... and you would orgasm, also maybe a bit of feeling, warmth, love could help, and orgasm can be complex.

  • It's about clitoral stimulation, just just vaginal