Can you control your sexual thoughts for other people when you are taken?

Can you control your sexual thoughts or emotions for other people when you are in a relationship?
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By this I mean if you can stop thinking it if you choose too
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  • Yes! My first friendship is was a fling and toxic I was loyalty but didn’t feel that emotional connection and wondered what was out there sexually and emotionally all the time. The partner I am with now i am satisfied sexually, and emotionally. I don’t thirst for someone sure there are attractive people but they don’t line up to my current partner. It’s normal to be attracted to other people and healthy it’s if you pursue it or it’s overrides your feelings for your current partner. Maybe you just aren’t that into them?

    • This actually makes sense cause personally when I fall in love with someone it all goes away

    • You only feel the attraction of that person you are with

    • Yeah, I learned this the hard way. I didn’t love my first thought I knew what love was but it was the emotional connect tied to the sexual act. I wasn’t used to it. When I meet my current partner I learned the difference between love and a fling. Don’t get me wrong you still might fall in love with the fling but I’m not sure to what degree

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Most Helpful Guys

  • i dunno, i never had a girlfriend but im gonna imagine my sex doll was a real living girl...

    ... hmm... i dont think it would be possible for me to cut off sexual thoughts, like if im walking down the street and see a girl in joggers with a nice butt infront of me... its kinda impossible not to stare and be turned on... so i dont think its possible to not have those thoughts, they jus come naturally.

    but still i would resist any urge to do anything other than stare, i think its fine to stare, but do anything else is jus a lack of self control...

    • the only reason id resist to do anything is cos i dont need what i think i need, i got everything i need at home, n dont want her to be sad like thinking she ain't good enuff for me or something, if i care about her that is. if i didn't care about her or she was a bitch to id probably jus be cheating left right and centre lol

  • Somewhat. The analogy I like to use is this.

    Say a great chef is cooking human eyeball soup. Since he's a skilled chef, he can probably use the right aromatics and spices to make that smell amazing to our noses.

    So I can't help when I smell that for my nose to say, "Yummy!" But I can tell myself, "I don't want to eat human eyeballs!" Like I can argue with my nose and win.

    • I do it that way with other women now that I'm married. Like my inner caveman gets excited when an attractive woman bends over in front of me at the beach in a bikini. But I can argue with that inner caveman and win by imagining she has herpes and things like that.

    • I do this type of mind hack and it works fairly well. I can also make foods taste good or bad to me like that based on how I think about them and imagine them. I used that trick to grow a fondness for lots of healthy foods when I didn't like how they tasted at first, but I used these sorts of mind hacks to make them taste good. I haven't been able to do it successfully for alcohol though. I think I'm a little bit too addicted there because I can imagine alcohol tasting gross, I can imagine being hungover the next day, all sorts of unplesant things, and I still want to drink it.

    • You always got some interesting shit to say lmao You are comparing yourself with women and comparing it to a chef and eyeball soup, that's the best comparison you could come up with 😂

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Yes, I can stop thinking about other people sexually.
    In all honesty, I don’t think any other guy can satisfy me like the guy I am with. I am still a virgin, and I can’t see myself sleeping with anyone else in the future. 🤷🏾‍♀️
    Since we are long distance, I can’t say that temptations having come my way. For some reason, I can’t see myself ever fully submitting myself to any other guy, but him.

    • That's good and healthy for your relationship, keep it that way, I feel like im about to hear a lot of unhealthy stuff here tho 😂

    • 😂😂😂

    • And people that can't follow directions, I know single people are gonna comment as well, you'll see

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • yeah i can. i only need one woman to be satisfied.
    the only time i thought otherwise was when i was in a bad relationship

    • I'm proud of you G, you have a healthy mentality

    • 👍👍

  • No, you can’t because sexual attraction is beyond our control. It is part of nature. As long as you don’t act on it, you’re good. Majority of people are guilty of fantasising other people which is harmless.

    • It's only harmless if you make it harmless, but turning your sexual attraction into a habit can form major problems in the relationship, including maybe even losing sexual attraction for your partner which is what I mean by control, you can sexualize a person but if you turn that into a habit, you will think sexually of that person instead of your own partner

  • Does it really need to be controlled? Like it's just a thought and I let it happen.

    • It should but your situation is different, your man supposedly let's you sext other dudes so he isn't so strict about situations so something as simple as sexual thoughts being controlled... I don't believe this refers to you lol

  • No comment 🥺

    • Lol.

    • Ayo, Chris, your buddy is here. Should I tease him, or let him be? @themajesticking777 🥴

    • It's not my problem 😂

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  • I can. No issues there

  • About 40% of the time.

    • That's below half lol

    • You did say thoughts, NOT actions.

    • Fair point my friend lol

  • Quite easily

  • Yes I can. But I'm single

  • NO... you can only choose to NOT act on those feelings, it's called being a "grown-up"

  • no why would you need to its natural

  • No, and I don't try to control them either.

    • At least you are honest lol