Can you live without sex?

[Anonymous]

Do you feel guilty or proud after sex

[nightdrot]

Can I "live" without sex? In the physical sense, sure. I need sex, but not in the same way that I need food, water and shelter. Without those I cease to exist.

That said, there is no doubt that I need sex. That I need that sense of my manhood, of doing what nature made me to do. I need the physical release and I need to fulfill that instinct to impregnate a woman.

In the particular, I need that sense of total giving and sharing and total acceptance with the woman I love. Our sex tends to be very primal and animal - not in a BDSM sense, but in a raw and instinctive sense. Yet it gives me a sense of being loved and accepted unconditionally and that gives me, in turn, a sense of happiness and connection to one person in a way that I can with no other.

The data show that is not unusual, by the way. Studies have found that men who get sex regularly - though the frequency varies by study - tend to be happier and healthier. Men who get less sex tend to be more aggressive, more prone to violence, more prone to depression and physical illness.

Women show similar traits, but it is less pronounced. Partly because women tend to be more verbal and thus bond more easily. Partly for reasons of evolutionary biology.

As to how I feel after sex. I feel a sense of deep emotion and connection. All I know is that I just need her and need to hold her and it is like the universe just shrinks down to the two of us. I start sex and it is all about my penis. I finish and it is all about our warm entwined bodies as I drift to sleep with her in my arms.

Perhaps less romantically, I also feel like a man. There is, I cannot deny it, a sense of conquest. I proved I am the alpha male and I have fulfilled my need to breed a female and put my sperm in her and produce offspring.

In fact, back to the romantic, in a funny putting my sperm inside her is this incredible sense of giving. There I am, all that I am, stripped to nothing but myself and I am sharing with a woman the most elemental thing I have to give. A part of me and she accepts it and takes into herself. It is also the chance at being a father and knowing that my girlfriend is making herself subordinate to me for that. (We have three children and you would not be able to wipe the smile off my face if she told me tomorrow that she was pregnant again. She has proved my manhood and made me the most besotted milksop of a father on the planet, all at once.)

Frankly, all that sort of jumbles together. It is not like it is distinct in my head. However it is very real and I cannot imagine life without it.

[Glenn603]

I can live without sex. I generally go months from one sex session to the next. I do feel slightly guilty straight after it for a few minutes but then proud

[CapricornHoney]

I could live without it but I’d prefer not to. I don’t feel guilty or proud - just satisfied.

[LittleTurtleDuck]

Yes I can live without it.

After sex I feel connected with my partner.

[Drumlin2001]

Can i, yes. But wouldn't want to

[holidaze]

I feel great after sex! Doesn’t have to be either of the two options you gave.

[AngelLily]

Yes sex isn't a human need.

[Anonymous]

Does self sex count