Caught my boyfriend using dildo... is he secretly gay?

I came across videos on my boyfriend's phone of him using dildo he claims he's not gay or no that he's just a freak and it feels good. Says he would like it if I used strap on with him but says he wouldn't be ok with a real penis in his butt. I've also noticed he's watched porn of trannys... is he gay or bi? Is this a thing these days?
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  • People have different thoughts on this, but I think many men who enjoy getting penetrated anally have fantasies of having gay sex. Even more so, they fantasize being a bottom under a man who will fuck them.

    I am saying this for two reasons. The first is my own experience where I was a straight man once. I was even married while I had these recurring dreams of getting fucked in the ass. Although I have been able to convince my wife to fuck me with a strapon, that stopped being enough after a while. So, I graduated to the next best thing and surrendered my virginity to a man. My whole life changed after this experience, as I fairly quickly came to the realization of being gay. Although it wasn’t easy for my wife, she accepted my true identity and we got divorced soon after. I have never had any relationship with women afterwards and been living my life as a gay man since then, for many years. I have mostly been a bottom in bed with a few exceptions as I will explain below.

    The second reason why I think men who like getting anally penetrated have gay tendencies is because of my sex encounters during my gay life. After turning gay, I had sex with probably 50-60 different men, most of them married. Some of those, I think, used me as a surrogate for a woman, i. e. they used my mouth and ass without showing any interest in my dick. However, some other were beyond curious and after sucking my dick, many of them wanted to get fucked, just like I did once. And, many of those came back as I fucked them in the ass again, as they wished.

    I know many people don’t want to hear that, but I view those men as gay as I am, or at least bisexual. But, they are clearly not straight by any stretch of the imagination.

  • Nope he's straight. Liking men is liking men. Liking your ass stimulated is liking your ass stimulated. Being gay or bi is about wanting a type of person to do things to you. Unless he says he wants a man to get sexual with... he's just enjoying getting his ass stimulated. He's entitled to that. If he wants you to peg him, have fun, explore that with him, maybe you might enjoy it. Don't go stressing out about if he's bi or gay. As far as he is concerned all he wants is you... his girl... so focus on that.

  • He's not gay. Lots of guys do it and just don't announce it. The prostate gland is the male g spot and guess where it's at...

  • I don't know... from all these answers I guess its normal. A turn off to me, but normal I guess.

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  • "SOME Straight GUYS" Do get pleasure fro prostate stimulation. Not my thing... but If he's watching tranny porn, It's not just the feeling... but what he's attracted to/aroused by.

    He's Bi-curious or Bi... in my opinion, from what you've said.

    I personally think any guy into pegging is Bi, and just deny it because they are ashamed and still in the closest.

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  • You should get a strap on and test him out

  • Why does it matter what label he has? He is human and enjoys butt stuff

    • It doesn't just dont want to marry him then 5 years later him tell me he's gay... He def loves me and having sex with me..

  • If he isn't attracted to men he isn't gay

  • I don't think he's gay

  • Hahahahah thanks for the laugh

    • Yeah thanks for nothing im looking for advice not to be a joke so keep shit to yourself. Lame.

    • Hahahahah sure

    • Stay off my shit dumb bitches

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  • That's not a gay thing. If he had sex with another guy, that would be a gay thing.

  • he may be a little bi xD but some guys like anal stimulation without being gay at all. it shouldn't worry you.

    • Thanks

  • well.. if you caught him.. it's not a secret anymore is it

  • haha watching tranny porn that's digusting i could vomit. dildo in the ass is pretty good i have tried a hammer and a finger lol

  • That's not gay lol

  • Did you see him taking dildo in this ass?

    • Yes I have. now that I found video he doesn't hide it but he doesn't bring it into our sex either. We've talked about me using strap on but I'm not ready for that.

  • Ewww

  • Any man that messes around with a dildo and plays with his butt is gay.

    • That makes absolutely no sense and it has no correlation

    • @kaskas19: You're not a man, so you wouldn't understand. What the hell is a man doing playing with a dildo especially putting it in his butt? Dude is straight gay. Ok?

    • A gay man, is a man sexually attracted to males. Many straight men use dildos because their G-Spot is located in their ass. It's called a prostate. I can't believe I'm having to explain this. Many straight men that use dildos also have 0 attraction to males. I'm going to take a quick guess and say even with facts shoved in your face, you're still going to stand by your original opinion. That's okay, many people don't listen to learn. They listen to reply. Even if it is without facts.

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  • Largely not gay... Just have fun

  • The last time I check, being gay means he would only be into guys not if he using a dildo

    Nice try troll

  • Could be bi or just like being analy stimulated a lot

  • lol i'm not an expert on guys using dildos, but from my point of view, if he can't get enough pleasure and sensation from his penis, i think he is turning gay

  • there is no connection between being a gay and using a dildo. Being gay means being attracted by your own sex.

  • not at all, (atleast for that reason) I have a fantasy of a hot girl fucking me with a strap but no way another guy.

  • No he's not. I've had women stimulate me anally before and if your relaxed and comfortable it can feel pretty damn good

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