Caught my daughter giving her boyfriend a blowjob?

What do I do? I don't even want to look at her and I don't think that boy is ever going to set foot in this house again. She's still a teen and I don't think this is acceptable. A woman shouldn't behave such way, what do I do...
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  • You need to rethink your attitude slightly.

    it happens and the big thing is not making it worse by damming her to hell for doing something sexual.

    it’s about sitting down and going over sex and what it involves, about acceptable behaviour under your roof, but also you accepting she will do this outside as well.

    it’s not something you can stop without causing mental health issues.

    have you had an open and frank discussion mother to daughter about growing up, changes, masturbation, boys, girls etc?

    be nice with her, do not blame her or be overly aggressive about what happened.

    she will be deeply embarrassed and most likely scared of what you will say or punishment you will give her, she will be upset.

    I appreciate it will be hard but being open and nice about it is a far better approach

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  • You said she is a teen, but that takes in a 13 year old, and a 19 year old, which may may make a lot of difference in what to do. You also don't say if it's a boyfriend, or just a friend or acquaintance. Whatever, understand that your daughter is obviously interested in sexual acts with at least one guy, and it's not likely that she will suddenly not want to be involved in a sexual way with any guy in the future, just because you find a way to keep this boy away. And it's also likely that she will be able to find ways to give a BJ in places and at times, that you can't control. The best thing to do is to look at her, treat her as a person with sexual desires, and to talk to her about what took place. And talk to her about what is good and wise for her to do, without being judgmental. It will not help to drive her away from you.

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  • "A woman shouldn't behave such way"... That's not a healthy attitude to raise a daughter. Don't shame her for being curious about sex. That can really backfire for her later on in life. On the other hand, if you're concerned you shouldn't just let it slide either. Sit her down and talk about safe sex and educate her on how to protect herself from STD's, talk about consent etc.

    If you think she is too young to be sexually active, be open about that to her. Tell her it's important to be ready before engaging in sexual activities, and that many times teens just aren't there yet. Be careful not to come off as judging or too harsh since it will only make her stray further from you when it comes to this subject, and then you will have even less control over what she is doing and with who.

  • you didn't say how old she is... is she 13 or 19? anyway it's very popular to give blowjobs to your boyfriend... most girls are doing it so it's no big deal... infact maybe take her out to dinner and congradulate her for giving her boyfriend head... she could've given him coitus sex and possible pregnancy... invite the boy over and tell your daughter to get on her knees until this boy cums.

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  • so you're 18-24 and your daughter is a teenager?

    • My thoughts exactly...

    • Actually I wouldn’t even put her daughter at a teenager yet.

    • me thinks women lie about their age online as much as men lie about their dick size

  • Well given the fact that YOU are between 18-24, I’d call the police! I mean how old is your daughter ffs! Three, four? I’m smelling a huge load of bullshit!

  • As an 18 - 24 year old with a daughter old enough to suck a dick, I guess your only choice is to help her out you fucking lying TROLL

  • You are 18-24 and you have a daughter who is a teen? Best case scenario is that you became pregnant at age 10.

  • It’s all perfectly normal. Why the fuss? Just apologise for interrupting her and let her know you are cool about her enjoying herself with her boyfriend.

  • you are 18 and have a teenage daughter?

  • Realize that this happens and she is old enough to make the choice for herself. Just tell her to be safe. The more you tell her not to do something the more likely she is to do it.

  • My question is...
    At what age were you sexual? When did you give your first blowjob?
    If you are 18 to 24, I am guessing you must have been 12 when you had her and so you were what 10 when you had sex?

    Realistically, she is doing what every teenager has ever done; Learn about sex with boys, it happens. Don't be such a prude. The best thing to do is to have a long real talk about growing up, protecting herself, birth control, being a woman in today's world, etc. If you do it in anger, your daughter will never respect you. Learn to be a parent please.
    Good Luck.

  • Good thing. You realized she's not gay. You might become a grandma. Be happy.
    Yet again, it depends on how teenager she is. If she's 15 to 17 years old, it's pretty standard these days.
    Sometimes there could be developments about one's sexual life that begin even before that age.
    Completely against it, but the amount of information young people have access to these days make them lose their innocence way before we were used to.

    • If she's 15 then asker gave birth at 9

  • Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

  • Give her my number

  • >(18-24)
    >teenage daughter

    The oldest you could've been when you had your daughter was 11 and here you are being judgmental of her sexual activity. Oh my, isn't that ironic!

  • At most you’re 24, so for your daughter to be a teen she has to be at least 13, which makes you about 11 when you gave birth and 10 when you got knocked up.


    You’re a really shitty troll.

  • Be silent (for a whole) and calm down. Let this be a teachable moment.
    Buy and read this book thoroughly and sit her down when you are ready.
    https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1225913.Men_and_Marriage
    Use it as a handbook for teaching your daughter the value of modesty and self restraint... and the nature of young men.

  • You have a teen daughter, and you're between 18-24?

  • Accordiing to your age range, if she's still a teen, YOU were doing a LOT more than just blow jobs at her age!! Shouldst thou judge?

  • Oh shit.
    Don't go all taboo on her.
    Don't make ur daughter feel ashamed.
    If she's doing it, you're only gonna make her do it behind your back.
    So try to "guide" her.
    Otherwise she'll be exposed to "the world" without your guidance.
    Now at least you can guide her by saying things like: "Careful. A lot of men will just use you to get a blowjob and then dump you."
    Or: "Do that only with a guy that is clean from STDs and which you'll stay the rest of ur life."

    Try to talk to her. Now she's also scared cuz she'll be afraid u'll punish her.
    But if she's already doing it, she's not gonna stop if you prohibit her.

    Be her guidance and help. Don't be her judge and executioner.

    The last thing this world needs is another good-believing well-thaught girl who doesn't get the necessary guidance to deal with some harsh men walking around. :(

  • So you are “18-24” and you caught your daughter engaging in sexual activities? Ok. 🙄

  • It says you are 18-24 years old this is weird question for you to ask if you are that young

    • She is just upset about her 5 year old daughter giving her guy a blowjob.

  • Like you never gave a blow-job to your boyfriend when you were younger.

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