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I come from a long line of women who are quite dramatically split down the middle when it comes to deciding on having a career and no kids, or having kids and being a stay at home mom or kids and career both. The reason I say the line is dramatic is because those with kids, really had kids. They wanted kids as a sort of dream realized or more accurately, a dream fulfilled. Those that didn't want them, could not be swayed no matter how many pleas or more accurately, threats about loneliness and being eaten alive by cats were made.
This question is by and far one that is almost exclusively heaped upon the shoulders of women since the moment it is discovered in the womb that they are going to be born female. "Oh, she'll make a great mother someday." "Oh imagine it now, we'll be able to have grand kids." "Oh, let's get her a baby doll so she can practice for later." It is a low lying stress applied to a woman's life and the longer she is a female on this earth, aka, the older she gets, the more intense that pressure gets to do as some like to claim is the "duty of all women" to bear children. The duty? Really? A woman can make no other accomplishment in life unless she has kids? Now imagine you are a woman who cannot bear children no matter what herculean medical interventions you throw at the problem--are you less of a woman, not a real woman, incapable of achieving anything in life? That sh-t is harsh to both those who physically cannot bear children and those that simply don't want children.
Look around at this planet we have. Not every woman is cut out to be a mother. They just aren't. Being born with a vagina or a penis, no more makes you a great mother or father, or even a decent one. We should at least have the expectation that those that do want children, first and foremost, actually want them, and secondly plan to do everything necessary to ensure the health and happiness of that child. If a woman literally says, I do not want kids, there should come with that the express understanding that this is a person neither ready nor capable of having children and giving them the life they should have.
Worse, if a woman says "I hate kids," why should the reaction to such statements be, you...YOU, should definitely have a couple of them. This is a set-up for failure. The pressure these women have put on them to have kids as if that will solve something for them, is crazy. What business is it of yours to pressure someone to have children you, yourself, will not have to deal with or raise or provide for? So what if at 55, one woman feels as though they should have had kids---they are an adult, and they made their choice, and what of it. They will have to deal with that feeling, if it even comes because some women even at 40, 50, 60 and beyond have zero regrets about not having children.
Those that choose a path of having children and being stay at home moms tend to really want that job. They feel it in their bones. You can see the love and devotion they tend to spread between their kids and it is marvelous to see, and yet, some still don't consider that, the act of raising good and decent children to accomplish something in this world, "an actual job." Can you imagine as a woman being told or guided and believing in having children is part of being a woman and then being told afterwards that the act of raising them and caring and nurturing them is not worthy of someone's approval. These women are busy trying to groom the future of humanity, and this is not worthy, but rather cause for their condemnation.
It's the pointed questioning that some of these women go through, like how could you even leave a job to be..."a mom," like its some kind of disease they must be quarantined away from. Being a stay at home mom means you know who your kids are with, where they are, what they are learning, how they are growing, what foods they are eating. You never have to wonder or be fearful and set up nanny cams because you have no idea what allowing a stranger in to take care of your kids will do. This is the security these moms provide, and trying to shame them because they want this knowledge and to devote themselves to raising what they literally grew inside of them, is crazy.
Finally the mom who does want it all, home and career. She's spent the better part of her life investing in an education so that she may have a career, so why should she then have to choose between child and career? When things are important in life, you make time for them, and in many cases, that can be 2, 3, 5 things. Difficult, sure, but not impossible. Many employers feel that this is a mom to be punished for this pursuit. They tend to shy from promoting such women. Some women feel that they literally have to hide their pregnancies at work for as long as possible so that they can continue on their career path. You have some employers who literally say that these women can't do both and won't allow them to or at least position them in such a way that their will be no growth for them after their child is born, yet this is something that rarely happens to a man who decides to have children.
It's such a double standard between these things. Women "should" have children, they "should" have a job," but when the two combine, everyone seems to scatter in their thinking what is right or they fail to view a woman as an individual and focus on her merits and how she specifically is doing her job as opposed to how other previous women who have had kids have done their own. Choose to have kids should not be made into a crime.
The bottom line is there are no shortages of women having children on this planet. A scant 28% of women by the time they are 30-34 do not have any children. There is absolutely no danger at this moment in time of the world's population getting smaller. In fact, the danger has always been in modern times, that we are slowly but surely suffocating this planet by over populating it. Having a child is a lot of work, a lot of money, and dedication and those that want them should have them and those that don't, should be left to their own devices to make their own personal life choices. And for those that want both career and family, we need a system that allows this to happen. We need a system that doesn't punish mothers or fathers for that matter for taking time off to raise the futures of this planet; there are a few countries around the world that allow for this practice, and the world hasn't crumbled to it's knees. Let people decide for themselves what choices they want to make for their lives and their families. It's not your business to decide for them.
What Girls & Guys Said
32 26Obviously it will be the kids, there is no bigger joy than becoming a mother.
I'll build a career and then when I have kids and they need raising, I will either work part-time or leave the job to take care of them
I want to be in a DINK relationship, Double Income, No Kids
i am more of someone who loves family and stuff but i wanna be like something in between like someone who has kids AND work (and idc whether its a high paying job or not... as long as its a honest job) but one thing is for sure i will take care of my kids at home until my kid is old enough to go to kindergarten i will NEVER send my kid to day care.. hell no
There is no reason to give up either or. You can have both. Or at least try
Kids are overrated. Too many people on the planet already. If I were a woman I would get a hysterectomy. Fix the unwanted pregnancy problem and the monthly hassle too.
Geez, I feel like I just got hit in the face with a wall of text.
My thoughts on the subject are this, do whichever one you want to do. There's also nothing that says you can't have kids AND a career.
If this was already covered in this article then my bad, that's like reading a book.
I would choose kids, i hate working and going out having to dress all formal and all
I don't want kids. Me, myself, and my career comes first, second, last and always
I can do both.
And yet for all the career women out there the stats show that they are miserable and mostly alone, women who chose the traditional route live far more fulfilled lives and are much happier.
https://youtu.be/vF4pd7Ii0vchttps://youtu.be/LMKvbU8cxHUGavin Mclness the only logical republican out there.
@blondfrog Nah not the only one but one of the few logical people alive.
@blondfrog I agree
TLDR - but what I do know is you can't do everything. Focus on what it is you aspire to and do that. Thinking you can burn it at both ends never works.
I don't want to get married and I don't want to have kids. I know I'll be a terrible mother, so I pick career.
Better change the way you think to something positive before it comes true.
I want to work. I'm not doing all of this not to have a job.
I don't want kids. I want dogs. My career comes before reproducing.
I love my career. But I would still choose kids.
Personally I think women who think they can have it all are kidding themselves somewhere along the line they will have to sacrifice, I know a few career women in my family that eventually quit to be stay at home moms because they didn't want to sacrifice the best years when their kids were young and have strangers raise them.
Women belong at home nurturing the children, raising children and being house wife. Men are more productive, left brained (rational/logical) and ambitiouly driven to advance humanity and civilisation. Its what men were made for, his worth is valued by what he brings to table and does for evolution. Whereas women were designed for child bearing and to nurture, career women are less happy than house wives, there was study done on it.
Women are human beings, Men are human-doer's. Women are born, Men are made.
An... thats all folks 😆
You sound very chauvinistic racist
dude, you sound extremely racist... I can't believe you said those things about white and black people.
@pnl86 Were you talking to me or the asker? When I meant racist I did not mean the color of the skin but more that chauvinist pig
@pnl86 Racist? when did i say anything racist? lol
@kitty71 I honestly dont know where you got the idea i was racist from. I just dont, unless you font know the meaning of the word. Look up a dictionary.
@kitty71 you have to understand that on a biological level and evolutionary level, he's right about how these roles work. Democrats want women to work so they can steal your tax money and pretend to care about your rights.
@Mr-Kabuki Yeah the elites used feminism as a tool to get women out to work so they could tax them and eliminate the nuclear family reducing birth rates so they decrease the population. Neo feminism is an occult thats taking part in this eugenics program working behind the scenes that the women no nothing about.
lol Mrwoo99 Following your train of thought, an illogical person can and should be raising children. Try to work through that again.
@Mrwoo99 How are men made like in a factory? Men are born just like women are born. Men are also human beings. Women can work, raise kids and be happy. The man can help with raising kids.
if you do your research, studies have consistently shown that having kids reduces happiness and increases stress, for both genders.
@Mrwoo99, it's called sarcasm... I was doing you a favor of pointing out how you didn't ever state anything that would even remotely touch on "race."
@pnl86 Oh soz mate, I honestly can't tell over the internet. For sarcasm to work you need see body language and hear the persons tone of voice or at least at the end of each sentence put the word sarcasm in brackets.
@AriadneSky You've took my comment out of context. Women have the ability to nurture, emotionally comfort and raise children which us men lack. I'm not saying women have no capability of 0% logic but women have just about enough to be capable of only doing simple tasks like cleaning, cooking (sandwiches) or feeding the baby etc. Us men were built to protect women and advance civilization so we have the biological capabilities to be more analytic, robotic, stoic, smarter, strong under pressure and we also inherit the Adonis DNA gene. Men can excel in every field if he has a passion for it. Anything a woman can do... a man can do better cupcake. Anyways I think you might have some breast feeding to do soon :)
Career. Duh. Stats show that those who have kids later in life, when they are ready (spiritually, financially, emotionally, mentally) have much better experiences with kids, anyways.
Well said!
Well, work "hard" and become someone who can take time off to have a family.
I knew a guy who used to take days off to go to his kids recital. Fucking boss mode!!!
P. S. He was actually a boss. lol. :P
Even if it was a fun career, I'd feel little point in having a job that wasn't paying for a wife and kids.