Christians on here, I have 2 questions for you🧐?

Christians on here, I have 2 questions for you🧐?

1. Is sex during marriage a sin if it's only done by pleasure?

2. Why do we focus so much on sex before marriage is a sin when masturbating is too?

I genuinely want to learn, I am new to this religion and my family would not approve so gotta keep it on the down... I do accept the fact that all of these are sins but I want to know the answer to these questions.

The poll is just for interest

I'm a Christian who waited/is waiting (sex) for marriage and I HAVE masturbated
Vote A
I'm a Christian who waited/is waiting (sex) for marriage and I have NOT masturbated
Vote B
I'm a Christian who did both before marriage
Vote C
I'm not a Christian (Results)
Vote D
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  • If you don't mind my asking, how new to Christianity are you? As in how recently were you baptized, have you gone through any kind of formation and education in the faith, have you joined and started attending a church, and so forth?

    This will be lengthy, so please be patient, as there is a lot to unpack.

    The purpose of sex is to procreate children; that is what the sperm and the egg are naturally designed to do. Therefore, all sexual acts should be open to that end. The reason for this is because when husband and wife have sex, they are to give themselves whole and entire to each other. It's one thing if a married couple has sex and just doesn't get pregnant as a result. That happens all the time.

    If, however, they actively take intentional steps to avoid procreation, such as contraception, condoms, pulling out (which, for the record, are not totally effective anyway), oral sex, or anal sex (which is just plain disgusting), then what they are effectively doing is using each other's bodies (or parts thereof) to masturbate. Sure, they might be physically and emotionally intimate, but true and complete sexual intimacy naturally requires the openness to the creation of new life. So for a couple to intentionally interrupt that end in any way is for them to ultimately reject each other.

    Something else to consider is that marital sex is a participation in and reflection of the creative work of God. The pleasure that a married couple experience during sex is a means to an end: procreation. If the pleasure then becomes the end in itself, then it becomes an idol.

    And since you mention it, I'll close with this quote from CS Lewis on masturbation...

    “For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back: sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman. For the harem is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no real woman can rival. Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover: no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself. . . . And it is not only the faculty of love which is thus sterilized, forced back on itself, but also the faculty of imagination."

    Does all this help?

    • I haven't gone through the real steps yet I have to hide it from my family. Thankyou for the explanation!

    • You're welcome. Why do you have to hide it though?

    • My dad is strictly against religion

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Most Helpful Guy

  • If you are someone who has converted to Christianity from another religion it's important to be aware that Christianity isn't just *one* religion, there's literally *thousands* of denominations of Christianity that *all* have different different interpretations of the bible and Christianity.

    Asking people here you'll get random answers that might not match up with the denomination you have choosen to convert to.

    May I ask what religion you have converted from and what denomination of Christianity you have converted to?
    Feel free to follow me and pm me if you want to talk in private.

    • Thank you! I haven't chosen yet I dont know how to choose. I wanna ask Jesus and see what signs he says. I haven't gotten to that point yet

    • I suggest going to the YouTube channel ready to harvest and watching videos there, he has fairly neutral coverage of the various denominations. For a quick introduction to give you a idea about their relationship to each other look up useful charts on YouTube, he has made a series of videos giving a *really* useful overview of their relationship.

    • Personally I really like the mindset of Quakers and that idea of a inner light in *everyone*. There's a few different Quaker denominations too. But yeah. If you want the original Christianity the closest thing is probably one of the eastern churches. There's a *lot* to choose from.

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  • 1. God put pleasurable feelings and desires to make it easier for us to procreate you know go forth and multiple

    2. Masturbation is a sin. We are supposed to resist those urges.

    • So you think sex before marrige isn't a sin? lol am pretty sure it is

    • I do. But think about it. If there wasn't a natural pleasurable desire people wouldn't have sex

    • Yup thats true

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  • Sex is not a sin.

    • Huh? You mean after getting married?