Common Questions About The Art of Masturbation.

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What is masturbation?

Masturbation is defined as the sexual stimWhatulation of one's genitals for pleasure, usually to reach orgasm in mind.
Is it healthy to masturbate?
Totally! Masturbation is a safe and natural way to explore one's sexuality, feel good sexually and release built-up sexual tension.
Masturbation is common among girls and guys of all ages and usually starts with the onset of puberty.

What is an orgasm?

What is an orgasm?
A series of rhythmic contractions experienced at the climax of sexual excitement, characterized by immense pleasure in the genitals.

Benefits of frequent masturbation

General Benefits of Masturbation

• Masturbation is a safer way to explore your body and experience mind-blowing orgasms without the exposure to potential sexually-transmitted diseases and pregnancy.
• It promotes better sleep and relaxation
• Reduces stress and enhances self-esteem
• Helps us learn our likes and dislikes, and what makes us feel good in bed

• Orgasms are a natural mood booster and can put you in a great mood

• Masturbation is associated with better cognitive function as you age

• It can help you improve your sex life. Studies show that if you can orgasm through masturbation, you have a much higher chance of being able to orgasm with a partner during sex.
• Helps reduce pain induced from cramps, headaches, back pain and joint aches

• It feels f*&^%$! amazing

Female - Specific Masturbation Benefits

• Helps alleviate period cramps
• Multiple orgasms. Women have the ability to experience multiple orgasms - so why stop at one!
• Helps counteract the uncomfortable effects of menopause

• Can help improve your skin - post-nut skin glow is a thing!
• Provides relief for women who suffer from UTIs

Male - Specific Masturbation Benefits

• Helps lower risk of prostate cancer
• May help improve sexual stamina, allowing guys to last longer in bed

• Helps give better erections

• Decreases the risk of heart-related diseases

• Flushes out older sperm, allowing your body to produce younger and more active sperm

How frequently should I masturbate till the point of orgasm?
For girls and guys alike, you can't put a specific number to it. It's a matter of personal preference and it differs from person to person.
Those with higher sex drive tend to masturbate more often than those with lower libido, and highly stressed individuals tend to masturbate more often than those with lower stress levels. When it comes down to what's considered "normal", a large range of frequencies fall under this category. Masturbating once a day, multiple times a week, or a few times a month all fall under the "normal" spectrum.
In general, people should masturbate whenever they're sexually aroused or as often as it feels good for them. As long as masturbation doesn't affect your day to day schedule, you're unlikely to be addicted and shouldn't be of any concern.

Is cumming and having an orgasm the same thing?

Both words are often used interchangeably, but in fact, they're different things. Orgasms are the pleasureable and intense feelings that you experience when you reach climax during sex or masturbation.

Have you ever noticed how your breathing deepens, heart rate increases, how your back arches and your eyes roll back when you're climaxing? Yeah that's an orgasm. Cumming on the other hand, it's slightly different. Most of the time, it happens simultaneously, or with orgasm starting a few seconds before.

Cum can also refer to female or male ejaculate, and thus, cumming refers to the male or female "ejaculation" during sex. For guys, it's the spurting of semen during sexual climax and for girls, when they squirt. In slang, guys and girls love to use it to describe an orgasm - eg. "don't stop.. I'm cumming... I'm cumming".
Though both words carry slightly different meanings, popular culture has made it acceptable to use it as an interchangeably.

Is it normal for a 17 year old girl to masturbate twice a day?

Yes it’s definitely super normal to have the urge to explore your body at that age. Wanting to make make yourself feel good is part of human psychology - we all love pleasure and hate pain. We strive to do everything we can do put ourselves in pleasurable situations and we make our best effort to avoid pain. Teenagers and those in their early 20s, tend to have raging hormones which causes sexual thoughts to occupy their head all the time.
This is why they can’t seem to keep their hands out of their pants.
Let me share a quick story:

I started masturbating when I was 12, and I quickly got addicted to it. I absolutely adored the orgasms and pleasurable sensations that I felt each time I masturbated (or had sex) and I was hooked onto it. I slowly ventured into the world of sex toys and today I have a cupboard full of them! I have no shame in saying that i experiment with my body (and toys) a lot, because not only does it make me feel (so damn) good, it also helps me reduce stress and understand my body better. Masturbation helps me to know my likes and dislikes and what makes me feel good. There’s no limit as to how many times you can masturbate in a day and it all depends on the person - some people with lower sex drives only feel the need to touch themselves once or twice a week, and for others, like myself, I have to masturbate every day (usually more than once - maybe two or more orgasms in a session).
As long as masturbating doesn’t affect your daily life and schedule, it’s never too much!
There’s no limit as to how many times we can orgasm in our lives so why not make the most of it and make yourself cum as many times as possible! With all the benefits of masturbation (and mostly no cons of it), i say go for it!

Is it acceptable to masturbate in a relationship? Does masturbating mean my partner or I are sexually unsatisfied?

It is definitely acceptable and normal for both girls and guys to masturbate (and watch porn) in a happy relationship when their sexual needs are taken care of. I'm gonna use myself as an example: I'm in a sexually satisfied relationship, but as someone with an exceptionally high drive, I still feel the need to masturbate daily (sometimes twice or more in a session). Watching porn is extremely common practice as it might be quite difficult to orgasm without any form of visual/auditory stimulation. I also incorporate sex toys in my masturbation routine as it helps me reach orgasm much quicker and the resulting orgasm is a hundred times more intense. Sex might feel better than masturbation but it's definitely not the same. Just because someone is having sex regularly doesn't mean he/she doesn't need to masturbate. Masturbation helps us know our bodies better, and in turn, allows us to be better in bed. Of course, ethically speaking, to avoid any form of "emotional" cheating, you should not be fantasizing about anyone else (but your partner) while you self-pleasure.

Is it rude to masturbate at someone else's house?

It's definitely not rude to masturbate in someone's house but that might be the case if you're having sex.
Masturbation is extremely normal and as humans, we all have sexual urges.
I have masturbated in all sorts of places before and it isn't an issue unless you're making a mess, doing it in an appropriate place (think: someone's bed) or making too much noise (moans etc). As a guy, we ejaculate lots of semen when we ejaculate, so I tend to do it in the shower to prevent making an unnecessary mess. On the other hand, for most girls, it might be acceptable to masturbate on the guest bed if you're not a squirter and if you maintain some level of hygiene (please don't lay butt naked on the bed). If you know you tend to moan or make loud groans when you masturbate (like I do), consider turning on the television or music to drown out those sounds. if you're planning to watch porn, please use headphones.
You can masturbate in whatever way you wish - in the toilet, with the showerhead, with your dildo/vibrator, fingers etc as long as you maintain some sort of respect for your host.
Clean up after yourself and don't get caught!
As long as you follow the above, your host doesn't have to know.

How long should I spend masturbating each day?

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There's no specific answer to it, neither is there a right or wrong response. Masturbation is about enjoying your body and being in tune with your sexual being. It takes longer for some to orgasm as compared to others.
It's common understanding that girls take longer to reach climax as compared to guys.
Being able to ejaculate in a matter of minutes may be common for most guys, but that's not the case for the majority of women.
Next, consider your needs and your schedule:
Are you looking to have a quick rub or jerk to release sexual tension? If so, masturbating as quickly as you can to the point of orgasm would the be answer. If you thought of touching yourself for the sole purpose of exploring your body, then allocating more time to it would be ideal.
Edging is the practice of bringing yourself close to the point of orgasm, denying yourself of it, then repeating. People do it for many reasons, with the first being that edging while masturbating results in a much stronger orgasm (when you actually let yourself have it after a specific amount of time). Next, edging helps guys with premature ejaculation last longer in bed. So if you're thinking of edging, make sure you're not in a rush so you can fully enjoy the pleasures of it!

Should I moans while masturbating or should I try to conceal them?

Let's be honest, masturbation and orgasms feel so so amazing and it's normal to be unable to conceal those moans at times.
If you have the luxury of space and privacy, I would recommend that you allow yourself to
express your sexual pleasure by letting your moans (and groans) flow naturally. Of course if you share a room with others or have extremely strict parents, then I suggest suppressing your moans or using music to drown them out.

Can I use unconventional items such as cucumbers and bananas as a masturbation aid?

Well anything is a dildo if you're brave enough.
I wouldn't suggest putting food items like bananas, cucumber or carrots into a vagina or using them to pleasure yourself. While it's true that it is shaped similarly to a human penis and a dildo, it is not only wasteful as you should dispose of it after penetration (and not use it multiple times or consume it after) but also because it is not made for self-pleasure.
Some fruits and foods release saps that may cause irritation and pain, especially when you're inserting them inside your own body.
I have heard stories of girls using them as pleasure tools but if you're looking to get something as a substitute for sex, I would suggest looking into dildos and vibrators that are actually made and designed for female pleasure. Well, while cucumbers have the length and girth that girls love and adore, and bananas have the curve that may hit the just the right spot, it may be a suitable replacement if done with safety precautions like washing beforehand and putting a condom over it. Though it would never compare to the real thing nor a toy that's designed for female pleasure, if you're desperate or not old enough to buy a sex toy, then I say go for it with the hygiene measures in place!

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I am by no means a medical professional and my article is solely my opinion and based on my experiences.

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