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Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to create a Fuck Buddy

Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to create a Fuck Buddy

A ladies man is NOT a player. He does not play games and cheat on women.

STEP 1-Scouting Out Sex Positive Friends

The best case scenario is to find a friend that is very positive about sex and isn't too emotional or detached. A lot of times this is a friend that you don't know very well like a work colleague in a different department. Or a friend of your friend. The best fuck buddy is actually a best friend that doesn't get too emotionally attached about sex. This would be a best friend where both of you are too different to work relationship wise.

STEP 2- Online Dating

A great way to find a fuck buddy is online. What is great about this is to find someone who lives in a different city so they are disconnected from your every day life. It is also rare for someone in a different city to run into people you know. The sex for both of you can be discreet.

STEP 3- The Ask

Always ask a woman what she wants before meeting her on a date. Never trick her and ditch. Have a quality conversation that is blunt and honest first. Being Fuck Buddies can be the most honest relationship you have because you are not trying to impress them. Its just sex. No agenda.

STEP 4-How to Ask

Keep it light. Playful. Relaxed. Dont ask right away. Phrases could be:

  • "So what bring you to..Bumble/Tinder/Etc.?"
  • "Do you ever get tired of relationship drama and just want to relax and have sex?"
  • "I just got out of a relationship. It was rough. I am just looking for fun right now and see how things go."
  • "I am just looking for someone who can treat me with respect and give me consistent sex. I'm not looking for a relationship."

STEP 5-Thank Them

Always be sure to be respectful and thank them for understanding. A woman wants to know that she isn't a slut and she is respected. Set up the date.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • Your steps are correct.. however 90% of the time friends with benefits turns into friends with issues.. if the sex is good and a woman is being treated well, she will quickly turn this into something else in her mind. One thing to know about women is, you can tell us anything but we hear what we want to her. Ex: "hi beautiful, I just want to be friends with benefits "
    In a woman's head that translates to , "he's so sweet to me.. he compliments me and treats me so kindly and the sex is great."
    Women are emotional beings... more often than not, we have to have emotional connections to become intimate.. unfortunately those emotional connections have the consequences of confusing things in our minds bc we think with our heart and not. our heads , while men think we their weiner and not their cerebral.

    • I think you bring up a good point. I would say my longest and best relationships started out as fuck buddies. haha. So it is entirely possible that the honest that comes from just fucking each other develops into more. that is not a bad thing. Especially with friends it could mean a legit relationship that turns into marriage. But communication is key each step along the way so that people dont get hurt.

    • @ imcmullan wow I really love your reply.

    • @Apope16 , yes communication is key... very clear and frank communication. Also, when one is being weak then the other one needs to be strong. Meaning if you know that woman is falling for u and you're not feeling the same- don't allow the need to get laid to be more important than the other parties feelings.. thats when one has to walk away.. I have 6 very handsome brothers who are all very kind to their wives.. but unfortunately all but 2 cheats. Watching them as I grew up taught me a lot.. and it scared me too lol. I learned to believe what someone shows u not what they tell you. I used to be the non commitment type of girl bc I didn't want to get hurt.. n sex was only happening if we were in a relationship. I see sex as a spiritual experience.. were exchanging energies so its no way im hoping in bed casually. On the other hand, I listen to my friends who do exactly what I said in my original comment, they hear what they want to hear... even when communication has been made and the guys say, im not looking for something serious-Most women think they can change a man's mind or he will eventually see how great she is and change his mind.. lol.. even when they've been told otherwise.. if the sex is good then you can really develop unwanted feelings.. your situation isn't typical where it turns into a relationship.. something tells me that you're the type of guy who knows how to charm a woman and treat her well when around her.. but be careful bc mix that in with good sex and no matter how much you communicate, you will still break a heart if you aren't feeling the same as she is

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  • I once had a pedo fb for fun lol aand it gone real xD and he was also threating me so i just unfriend him and forget💀

    • Please don't do that with adults. It only endless their behavior. Adults should not be doing that with children. I'm glad you got rid of him, but please be careful.

    • Enables*

    • Haha no worries i know what kind of humans out there! :D

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Dude I actually believe after 12 years teaching game, that you're the actual narssicistic "player" and "cheater " as you put. Player 1. don't play games 2. Dont cheat but exactly what you just commented is what we call "chodes" in our society.

    You don't teach such stupid behaviors and A. Sex isn't priority in our community what is is B. To be the best version of ourselves.

    So yeah keep chode and making woman fool but don't use our names to blame your actions, be entirely responsible for yourself.

    Then later on if we met, and I STILL getting the girls in front of you or better saying they run at to me. 🤷‍♂️not my fault

    • I am not a cheater. I did not say I was a cheater. I said the opposite of that. I only date one woman at a time. When I am single I typically choose to have one fuck buddy or friends with benefits at a time. Ask yourself. Does having one sexual partner at a time make a guy a player? Typically my Fuck Buddies last for 2 to 6 months while I date other women based on personality to see if they work long term. When things get serious I cut things off with the Fuck Buddy to focus on the relationship. Is this narcissistic? I dont know. Maybe. You might be right on that. But then again I am feeding information to a lot of clueless guys so it may come across as more narko because I have live a Casanova life and cock dry guys are jealous of what I have done since losing my virginity 5 years ago.

    • @Apope16 You lost your virginity just 5 years ago?😏

    • Again chode behavior, there's exactly nothing you can hide from a person who studied 10+years of NLP, every answer it's already in your words, yes the way how you think is narssicistic, manipulate someone to obtain determined thing <-- BAD. Also there's no problem to date more than one girl that doesn't't make you a cheater. What DOES it is to lie to yourself and say that you want one thing but instead you look for so many, it's not what one person's want however THE HOW (YOU ACHIEVE) is very important. Start to meditate and look things from inside. And do not let anyone from society judge you it only will make things worst. However you need to change that thinking "girls are meant for sex" to "let's me be the best version of me, release any attachment, any agenda and let the opposite sex discover things that I can't discover myself alone", explore life dont explore someone's and put a name to it. It's very complicated but once you understand it will make things pretty clear.

  • How was your lunch based on this advice I say out 100 woman you probably got laid 10. Maybe if you were lucky. Lol very bad advice. Never show true intention to a woman she will run once she hears you only after sex.

    • 100 women? No no no. It is a relational process. When I match with someone I see where they are at in conversation online. I find out what they are looking for. Think about it this way. If a woman matches with YOU out of the hundreds of thirsty guys it is highly likely she is legit attracted. Your job is to not fuck it up. So I would say out of the women who say "I am not looking for a relationship". the rate of success if very high if you show high qualities of trust and aren't a creep. Let me put it this way. Say out of 100 swipes you match with 5 girls. 3 girls are looking for a relationship. So you date them like you would a long term partner. But there may be 2 girls who are just looking for something casual. So you use my process. Meet for a drink. And then you have having some consistent safe sex without drama for a few months. Now me? I prefer to have one fuck buddy at a time to be on the safe side. Most times my fuck buddies will date other guys and get to know them and then after the date come back to me for sex. They connect spiritually with the date guy because they can come to me after the date for good dick. SO that is how it works. It is kind of a free feeling to know that you can have a need met and just date other people based on personality.

    • @Apope16 I have never read anything related to sex THIS CASUALLY. Whatever you wrote was so damn smooth but makes me wonder what is the fate of modern relationships.😂

    • It's really devestating to just think woman are just a hole rather then people with feelings and need love, emotional support and definitely your attention. You can't offer that if you're business doing other woman.

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  • This was really nice on your part.
    Now just don't wany to be judged by her for wanting this.

    • Thats why you follow the steps outlined and you treat her wish like it is normal and no big deal. you can't make a lady feel weird about it. you can even joke with her too. "We are fuck buddies but what is the big deal? At least we are honest with each other."

    • Well it is my wish too... not just hers!😙 Also gotta be careful of catfishing on dating apps.

    • You need to be blunt as fuck with women on apps. After you get their number flat out tell her "Hey you are really pretty. Are you a real girl or are you a catfish? I sometimes meet girls in person and they are not the same look wise." Then what happens is a girl might text you a picture of herself. Never ask a woman for nudes. NEver ever ever do that. THat is low beta male behavior.

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  • This is generally good advice

  • Good advice but it won't work on my situation.

    • what is your situation? I can help. 35 years old is prime age for a man to attract women. You are set in your career. You are mature. ladies love that gruff grown man vibe.

    • I don't drive and don't have any licenses and I'm unable too drive for life. also im unable have any romantic relationships since unable to dive. Romantic relationships works better if the two individuals can drive. Wheelchair can still have romantic relationships but as long as they can still drive an vehicle but they need special equipments in the car. Also people been rejecting me 85% of the time because I don't drive.

  • To me he's still a player just is confident in what he wants.
    Friends with benefits always go wrong. online dating sucks. To many trolls out there. But if you do find tge ladies willing to be with ya that is awesome.

  • lol that kissing pic turned me on, anyways I am asking for GAG girls here
    "I am just looking for someone who can treat me with respect and give me consistent sex" , whoever is ready just give me hint by following my profile :P

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